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Neighbour has put up huge Unite the Kingdom flag

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UrticaDioca · 05/10/2025 15:05

I am gutted. I haven't seen a single flag in my town, and suddenly this union jack goes up two doors over with the words 'Unite the Kingdom' printed on it in capital letters. The flag is huge and flying from a pole on top of their shed, but it's in their own garden so nothing can be done.

I am the daughter of an immigrant mother and therefore mixed race. Now I have to see this fucking flag waving at me every time I look out of my kitchen or living room windows.

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LakieLady · 10/10/2025 16:58

DangerousAlchemy · 10/10/2025 16:28

I just feel sorry for you and worried about the future of this country because of the attitudes and false beliefs of people like you. Just makes me feel very sad tbh 💔🤷‍♀️ I'm not misinformed or ignorant btw & it's a lot more than 50% who don't agree with the reform party views and opinions we just aren't all out on the streets (yet) or hanging stupid flags or vandalising roundabouts. I'm volunteering by fostering stray cats and kittens every day for a local charity. What are you doing in your community out of interest?

I think that may be starting to change as the far-right get more emboldened.

There's a show of solidarity this evening, for a mosque near me that was torched last weekend, just a mile or two from the only significant display of "flagging". The organisers think there may be a couple of hundred people attending, which is a lot for a small south coast town.

Grammarnut · 10/10/2025 16:55

Jumpers4goalposts · 10/10/2025 13:29

There is no other way for them to claim asylum, they need to be in the country to claim it. We need to change our system 100% but that should include a system in France to allow for those that need asylum to claim it. That realistically is the way to “stop the boats”, however we do need to keep in mind the very low numbers of people that enter the UK this way.

Why do people who have arrived in France need to claim asylum in the UK? They can claim asylum in France, which is where they are. Afaik France is an entirely safe country.

DangerousAlchemy · 10/10/2025 16:28

Petitchat · 10/10/2025 14:16

It's funny isn't it because I think exactly the same of the other 50%, that often they are misinformed or somewhat ignorant.

Works both ways...

I just feel sorry for you and worried about the future of this country because of the attitudes and false beliefs of people like you. Just makes me feel very sad tbh 💔🤷‍♀️ I'm not misinformed or ignorant btw & it's a lot more than 50% who don't agree with the reform party views and opinions we just aren't all out on the streets (yet) or hanging stupid flags or vandalising roundabouts. I'm volunteering by fostering stray cats and kittens every day for a local charity. What are you doing in your community out of interest?

FinallyHere · 10/10/2025 14:58

there is some small comfort: Labi Siffre has had to issue a cease and desist order to stop the Tommy Robinson campaign from using Siffre’s song ‘something inside so strong’

the irony.

AngelicKaty · 10/10/2025 14:58

UrticaDioca · 10/10/2025 14:50

Well I went onto his Twitter /X to see if I could better inform myself. His posts contained a great deal of Islamophobia, as well as a lot of hostility and self-aggrandizing. He currently seems to be trying to sow further division between Jewish and Muslim communities. The whole rhetoric really seems to be about division and difference, rather than cultivating understanding, finding commonalities and building bridges between communities. It was not a very nice or inspiring place to hang out.

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Exactly OP. Tommy Ten Names is a violent thug and convicted criminal, having served five prison terms. He was also a member of the National Front and the founder of the English Defence League - both deeply racist and nationalistic organisations. How his supporters like @Petitchat can try to claim that anything written about him is inaccurate, when there's a wealth of evidence to show what he is (even by his own hand) shows just how deluded they are.

ToWhitToWhoo · 10/10/2025 14:52

GloryFades · 06/10/2025 08:17

This.

I’m not someone who has a flag up, I’m pro immigration and think we should be doing more for refugees. But I would very much like to see a more united UK and don’t object to more patriotism (I like the way it’s done in other countries who have a sense of national pride).

Put up your own flag. Take back the symbol of the flag from racists and it loses its power when migrants and liberals are also proudly displaying it.

Agreed.

UrticaDioca · 10/10/2025 14:50

Petitchat · 10/10/2025 04:51

Thanks for the update OP

It IS unreasonable to be dismayed by our own country's flag.

My advice to you would be not to believe everything you read about TR.

Well I went onto his Twitter /X to see if I could better inform myself. His posts contained a great deal of Islamophobia, as well as a lot of hostility and self-aggrandizing. He currently seems to be trying to sow further division between Jewish and Muslim communities. The whole rhetoric really seems to be about division and difference, rather than cultivating understanding, finding commonalities and building bridges between communities. It was not a very nice or inspiring place to hang out.

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Petitchat · 10/10/2025 14:16

DangerousAlchemy · 10/10/2025 11:13

Yeah me too! but often they are misinformed or somewhat ignorant tbh. 🙄 nothing really surprises me anymore. Spent time with old uni friends at the weekend and one woman is 'worried for her daughter's safetly with all the immigrants coming over' - I couldn't really believe what I was hearing tbh from a well educated friend. She should be FAR MORE worried about the awful white supremacist thugs already in the UK. I know I am! I'd happily swap the Tommy Robinsons in this country for a nice boat of immigrants.

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It's funny isn't it because I think exactly the same of the other 50%, that often they are misinformed or somewhat ignorant.

Works both ways...

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 14:02

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 13:56

You're confusing me with the person you made your point about communism to I'm afraid.

So I have. Unsurprisingly, after the bundle on, it gets to difficult to keep up!

But I hope the figures have answered your question regarding one of the reasons why people are not happy about immigration.

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 13:56

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 13:49

I responded to the relevant pp regarding that eons ago.

'So if there are, as you say, many reasons for this, why zero in on immigration?' Because immigration is relevant to the topic of this thread. As previously stated there are an extra 6.93M extra registered patients in the UK since 2015.

33,556 people entered the UK illegally this year so far. That is larger than the population of an average town. To deny the added strain this puts on the NHS is absurd.

'Why is that the one that merits flag-flying, if there are indeed multiple factors which make life difficult in many places, as I would certainly agree that there are..' As previously answered. People are not flying flags solely because they can't get a Dr appointment, there are many reasons why people are anti immigration, this is just one factor in the grand scheme of things.

Unless you are asking why people aren't flying flags to protest GPs working 3 day weeks for example? To which I will answer we can't force doctors to work longer weeks but we can stop people from entering our country illegally and draining tax payers money!

Now, can you actually answer the solutions you have for wealth disparity, that don't look like communism, or is it radio silence again?

You're confusing me with the person you made your point about communism to I'm afraid.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 13:49

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 13:01

Missed the bit with the name-calling, I'm afraid. I wanted a bit of explanation, because it seemed to me that your argument was, Kirsty can't get a GP appointment because of immigration so will end up in A&E and so on.

However, in a scenario where there do not appear to be any immigrants, your response was a) yes there are (although I'm still not clear whether you were saying 'yes there are' or 'you are lying', and I did want clarification on that) but also, b) there are many reasons people struggle to get GP appointments.

So if there are, as you say, many reasons for this, why zero in on immigration? Why is that the one that merits flag-flying, if there are indeed multiple factors which make life difficult in many places, as I would certainly agree that there are.

I responded to the relevant pp regarding that eons ago.

'So if there are, as you say, many reasons for this, why zero in on immigration?' Because immigration is relevant to the topic of this thread. As previously stated there are an extra 6.93M extra registered patients in the UK since 2015.

33,556 people entered the UK illegally this year so far. That is larger than the population of an average town. To deny the added strain this puts on the NHS is absurd.

'Why is that the one that merits flag-flying, if there are indeed multiple factors which make life difficult in many places, as I would certainly agree that there are..' As previously answered. People are not flying flags solely because they can't get a Dr appointment, there are many reasons why people are anti immigration, this is just one factor in the grand scheme of things.

Unless you are asking why people aren't flying flags to protest GPs working 3 day weeks for example? To which I will answer we can't force doctors to work longer weeks but we can stop people from entering our country illegally and draining tax payers money!

Now, can you actually answer the solutions you have for wealth disparity, that don't look like communism, or is it radio silence again?

Jumpers4goalposts · 10/10/2025 13:29

Grammarnut · 10/10/2025 12:53

I didn't say claiming asylum or to emigrate to a new country was illegal. I said I object to illegal immigrants, especially of no provenance. People crossing the Channel in boats are illegal immigrants, frequently with no ID (sometimes this is intentional, but I am aware that traffickers can also keep their victims' ID). Come the proper way and that's fine by me.

There is no other way for them to claim asylum, they need to be in the country to claim it. We need to change our system 100% but that should include a system in France to allow for those that need asylum to claim it. That realistically is the way to “stop the boats”, however we do need to keep in mind the very low numbers of people that enter the UK this way.

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 13:01

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 12:46

Indeed, but who started the name calling because you couldn't win the argument...

Leave it there shall we.

Missed the bit with the name-calling, I'm afraid. I wanted a bit of explanation, because it seemed to me that your argument was, Kirsty can't get a GP appointment because of immigration so will end up in A&E and so on.

However, in a scenario where there do not appear to be any immigrants, your response was a) yes there are (although I'm still not clear whether you were saying 'yes there are' or 'you are lying', and I did want clarification on that) but also, b) there are many reasons people struggle to get GP appointments.

So if there are, as you say, many reasons for this, why zero in on immigration? Why is that the one that merits flag-flying, if there are indeed multiple factors which make life difficult in many places, as I would certainly agree that there are.

Grammarnut · 10/10/2025 12:53

Jumpers4goalposts · 10/10/2025 06:31

@Grammarnut its not illegal to be an immigrant or to go to a country to apply for asylum.

I didn't say claiming asylum or to emigrate to a new country was illegal. I said I object to illegal immigrants, especially of no provenance. People crossing the Channel in boats are illegal immigrants, frequently with no ID (sometimes this is intentional, but I am aware that traffickers can also keep their victims' ID). Come the proper way and that's fine by me.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 12:46

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 09:53

As we used to chant in the playground, when our discourse was more at this level: "I know you are, you said you are, but what am Iiiiii?" 😂😂😂

Indeed, but who started the name calling because you couldn't win the argument...

Leave it there shall we.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 10/10/2025 12:44

Seymour5 · 10/10/2025 08:44

Not only illegal immigrants. There are areas in South Yorkshire (and elsewhere) where large numbers of Eastern European Roma have settled. They arrived legally. They often have large families, and end up living in overcrowded homes, lots of two up two down terrace houses. These areas, already multi cultural, have seen the houses plummet in value, huge tensions in the community due to very different lifestyles, lots of rubbish, flytipping etc. Their custom of socialising outdoors is noisy, and for some residents, feels intimidating.

Are the existing residents, including people of Pakistani, Yemeni, African, West Indian and white British ethnicities, racist? As has been pointed out earlier in this thread, the issues are often about the lack of integration, and the accelerating rate of change. The people making the rules, such as the government and the judiciary don’t live in these areas. They don’t fear walking out of their front door, their streets aren’t piled high with detritus. People are feeling unheard, worried for their children in the schools, for their futures.

I agree with you. But if you mention the effect of legal migration too, people lose their shit entirely. It's already a pile on at the best of times if you don't subscribe to the popular view on here.

LakieLady · 10/10/2025 12:29

Plumedenom · 09/10/2025 08:23

I literally put it like that to include past immigrants. I see the threat is not only to people who are "100% anglosaxon" (a thing that barely exists), but everyone who is already rooted here, who have families here. It has already led to displacement of families. Look at the social fabric of a place like Dewsbury 25 years ago versus now. It used to be a poor, post-industrial town but with a thriving market and a close local community. That community has been displaced, god knows where. Now it is a boarded up ghetto. Same story in Batley. As of 2021, Dewsbury's ethnic makeup was 50.8% White, 44.4% Asian. That is not diversity. That is a country that is becoming an Asian spin off.
In 2021, 23% of the population of West Yorkshire now identifies as being from an ethnic minority. That number is going to continue to increase.
When is it ok to say stop? When Gujarati becomes an official second language of the country? When White British people are a minority? When the official religion becomes Muslim? Please explain when enough immigration is enough, I am genuinely curious.

The second biggest, and fastest growing, group in the UK as far as religion goes is those of no religion, according to the last census. If that trend continues, religion will soon be an irrelevance and having an "official" religion will be a nonsense.

As for "White British" becoming a minority, how far back do you want to go? DNA analysis of the remains found in a cave in Cheddar Gorge showed that 10,000 years ago, Britons had dark brown skin and black hair, so presumably the light skin in itself is either a genetic adaptation or the result of mixing with other groups. The human race originated in Africa, so anyone north of the Med is descended from migrants.

The whole notion of some sort of racial purity is not only nonsense in a country that has been mixed to varying degrees since before the Romans got here, but it also has a very unpleasant 20th century history.

DangerousAlchemy · 10/10/2025 11:13

UrticaDioca · 09/10/2025 19:59

I am surprised that 50% of people think it's unreasonable to be dismayed by a Tommy Robinson sloganed flag.

Yeah me too! but often they are misinformed or somewhat ignorant tbh. 🙄 nothing really surprises me anymore. Spent time with old uni friends at the weekend and one woman is 'worried for her daughter's safetly with all the immigrants coming over' - I couldn't really believe what I was hearing tbh from a well educated friend. She should be FAR MORE worried about the awful white supremacist thugs already in the UK. I know I am! I'd happily swap the Tommy Robinsons in this country for a nice boat of immigrants.

CreativeGreen · 10/10/2025 09:53

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 20:09

Fortunately, not as ridiculous as you.

As we used to chant in the playground, when our discourse was more at this level: "I know you are, you said you are, but what am Iiiiii?" 😂😂😂

RufustheFactuaIReindeer · 10/10/2025 08:47

Petitchat · 10/10/2025 04:51

Thanks for the update OP

It IS unreasonable to be dismayed by our own country's flag.

My advice to you would be not to believe everything you read about TR.

She isnt dismayed by the flag

she is dismayed by the TR one

and she may be completely wrong about TR but its wrong to misinterpret her position

Seymour5 · 10/10/2025 08:44

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 09/10/2025 11:00

The working class are those who are most negatively impacted by illegal immigration.

Not only illegal immigrants. There are areas in South Yorkshire (and elsewhere) where large numbers of Eastern European Roma have settled. They arrived legally. They often have large families, and end up living in overcrowded homes, lots of two up two down terrace houses. These areas, already multi cultural, have seen the houses plummet in value, huge tensions in the community due to very different lifestyles, lots of rubbish, flytipping etc. Their custom of socialising outdoors is noisy, and for some residents, feels intimidating.

Are the existing residents, including people of Pakistani, Yemeni, African, West Indian and white British ethnicities, racist? As has been pointed out earlier in this thread, the issues are often about the lack of integration, and the accelerating rate of change. The people making the rules, such as the government and the judiciary don’t live in these areas. They don’t fear walking out of their front door, their streets aren’t piled high with detritus. People are feeling unheard, worried for their children in the schools, for their futures.

Jumpers4goalposts · 10/10/2025 06:31

@Grammarnut its not illegal to be an immigrant or to go to a country to apply for asylum.

Petitchat · 10/10/2025 04:51

UrticaDioca · 09/10/2025 19:59

I am surprised that 50% of people think it's unreasonable to be dismayed by a Tommy Robinson sloganed flag.

Thanks for the update OP

It IS unreasonable to be dismayed by our own country's flag.

My advice to you would be not to believe everything you read about TR.

Grammarnut · 09/10/2025 22:15

Jumpers4goalposts · 09/10/2025 19:59

OMG feelings you really are ridiculous, I have seen little evidence which would stand up to any form of scrutiny.

I am reminded of Isaiah's advice to the Israelites deported to Babylon: that they should put down roots, literally by growing stuff, marry and have children, and grandchildren, and pray for the prosperity of Babylon because they would themselves then prosper.
Basically, fitting in and supporting the society you are in is a good idea and that bewailing that the new home is not like the old one is a waste of energy.
I also object to illegal immigrants, who are indeed a security risk. I also object to the traffickers making money out of people's need.

DrowningInSyrup · 09/10/2025 21:23

GaIadriel · 09/10/2025 20:17

Me too. Unity is generally about everybody uniting.

That's what is so annoying about it. You look and think ahh that's positive I'll pass that sentiment on, then you realise it's Tommy, but the damage is already done.

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