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Neighbour has put up huge Unite the Kingdom flag

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UrticaDioca · 05/10/2025 15:05

I am gutted. I haven't seen a single flag in my town, and suddenly this union jack goes up two doors over with the words 'Unite the Kingdom' printed on it in capital letters. The flag is huge and flying from a pole on top of their shed, but it's in their own garden so nothing can be done.

I am the daughter of an immigrant mother and therefore mixed race. Now I have to see this fucking flag waving at me every time I look out of my kitchen or living room windows.

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RafaistheKingofClay · 05/10/2025 17:16

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 16:52

Where does your definition of racism begin and end?

How would you define the 100-150k who attended the recent march/demo?

Gullible?

Anyway I thought it was 3million. Tommy’s still insisting it was last time I checked and he wouldn’t lie, I’m sure.

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 17:13

34ransum · 05/10/2025 16:54

Immigrant here.

There are hundreds of flags on my high street and commute.

It makes me feel incredibly sad, angry, frustrated, unwelcome, othered...

I also feel sad for my children, neither of whom are white, both who were born here and have only English passports

I think you will find that your DC (like my DC who are mixed race) have British passports.

HPFA · 05/10/2025 17:13

MidnightPatrol · 05/10/2025 15:13

What’s the offence with ‘unite the kingdom’ written on a Union Jack?

It's clearly showing support for racist thug Tommy Robinson.

KrystalStubbs · 05/10/2025 17:12

EchoedSilence · 05/10/2025 15:39

I doubt my neighbours are racist considering both sides are muslim.I live in one of those very diverse areas that some MNers think are no go areas.

Muslims can be racist too you know

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 17:12

Lambington · 05/10/2025 17:01

Report to police. The neighbour could be found guilty of intent to cause distress under the malicious communications act.
They've been arresting people for carrying cardboard signs supporting Gaza so this would certainly be comparable.

Erm, no, and no.

The neighbour is clearly not guilty of an offence under the act, and those arrested were supporting a proscribed terrorist organisation.

Really….

Absentosaur · 05/10/2025 17:12

It’s only a Union Jack flag. The flag of the country people live in. It’s not personal. Loads of people in other countries fly flags.

I can see why people have issues with flags. But to other the Union Jack is to give the people who use it nefariously, ownership of the countries’ flag. That’s wrong. They don’t own our flag or our country. We’re all better than them. If people use it as normal - then it becomes just a flag. Like all the other flags.

Sausage1986 · 05/10/2025 17:11

For those who think it’s ’just A flag’ must be living under a rock as it’s become the face of fascism at this point in time. You can disagree and be objective

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 17:11

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 15:18

It's just you.

Most people know that "unite the kingdom" reflects support for a racist campaign led by Tommy Robinson and his cronies.

No, they don't. Many immigrants went on the Unite the Kingdom march (and my own step-grandson who is no racist). Many want to stop illegal immigration and to have rules enforced about legal immigration. It's not racist to think that immigration should be controlled and to the use of the host country.

TheCaribbeanIsCallingMe · 05/10/2025 17:10

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 05/10/2025 16:56

I’m afraid although you are right there are Labour middle class on here who haven’t a clue as they live in leafy safe suburbs.They don’t have to fear any of this, any mention of fear of these things they have to scream “racist, xenophobic” etc etc etc as if their life depended on it.

Oh absolutely! I would wager that if the house next door became an HMO, housing 10 foreign men, that the horse blinkers might start to slip.

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 17:09

AnnaFrith · 05/10/2025 17:04

Maybe talk to your neighbour and find out why he's flying the flag and what it means to him. You'd probably find out he's concerned about the historically never before seen levels of immigration, both legal and illegal, we've had over the last five years. It's not racist to be concerned about the impact of this, particularly when you place large groups of young men, from societies with very different attitudes to women, into small communities.

The OP is clearly not going to do that.

As others have asserted - the neighbour is clearly a racist and must be shunned…

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/10/2025 17:08

YANBU @UrticaDioca.😧

Even if you decided to move, racist flags lower house prices.😕

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 17:08

lovernotafighterr · 05/10/2025 16:39

A house I pass on my way to work fly a pirate flag.

Sadly, pirates are not nice people - though the eighteenth century ones were models of democratic rule in their ships: to be captain you had to obtain the popular vote, and loot was shared equally.

Centuriesahead · 05/10/2025 17:08

Ddakji · 05/10/2025 16:38

You missed the bit where she said much like her own DP. Pure oversight on your part, I’m sure.

Why does fact the Op thinks her husband is a “standard white bloke” make the descriptor…. Less Odd

JHound · 05/10/2025 17:07

Nothing you can do about it I’m afraid. Just give that neighbour a very wide berth.

saveforthat · 05/10/2025 17:06

nosleepforme · 05/10/2025 17:05

You can get arrested for owning or displaying a British flag?! What have we come to???

1984

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 17:06

MiniPantherOwner · 05/10/2025 17:04

Yes, I've found that it's also handy for labelling racist businesses. There's a cattery near me that I tried to book my cats into before, but it was full. They sounded so nice on the phone that I thought I'd try again next time I'm going away. Then right after the Tommy Robinson march they've put up a massive flagpole with an England flag, no way was that timing a coincidence. My cats will not be going to a racist cattery, so it's back to the further away one.

I presume that business owners assume that as a white woman I won't be bothered, but as someone whose Polish grandparents were both in the Polish army in WW2, I will not give my money to anyone who wants to give their support to the far right.

So you object to the flag of the country some of your co-nationalists fought and gave their lives for during WWII?

JaninaDuszejko · 05/10/2025 17:05

MidnightPatrol · 05/10/2025 15:13

What’s the offence with ‘unite the kingdom’ written on a Union Jack?

Well, there are lots of people in Scotland, Northern Ireland and Wales who disagree with that sentiment.

nosleepforme · 05/10/2025 17:05

Lambington · 05/10/2025 17:01

Report to police. The neighbour could be found guilty of intent to cause distress under the malicious communications act.
They've been arresting people for carrying cardboard signs supporting Gaza so this would certainly be comparable.

You can get arrested for owning or displaying a British flag?! What have we come to???

awkwardasfuck · 05/10/2025 17:04

saveforthat · 05/10/2025 15:39

I've never seen a flag with Unite the kingdom on it but it could be taken as let's everyone in the UK unite, including immigrants. Why assume it means the opposite?

Its tommy Robinsons campaign slogan. So it could not.

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 17:04

Ddakji · 05/10/2025 16:50

Progress flag, yes.

Rainbow flag - probably but not definitely.

It’s just tedious, though. LGBT people have equal rights in the UK and are not under threat. No political party is threatening to deport them or remove rights from them or endanger them at all. No one is marching against them. Indeed, most parties bend over backwards to pander to them, some to the extent of trampling over other people’s rights, especially women’s, and ignoring the law.

But they do like to play the victim. Makes them more interesting, I suppose.

I would be very sad and unhappy to see the misogynistic, homophobic, anti-science 'progress' flag up on a neighbour's house. I'd far rather see a Union Flag, thanks. Or a St. George. I think I would be tempted to tie the suffragette colours to my gatepost (had I got one) were I to see that (but I have to be careful, I live in a very woke city, so would hold back - which is one reason I hate the 'progress' flag for it represents forced speech unless one wants to be cancelled, persecuted and shouted down).

Whatafustercluck · 05/10/2025 17:04

I'd probably put my own flag up, a montage of all the flags (alongside British) of all the nationalities that reside in your town/ city/ county. A bit like the Welsh did across that bridge (Flags is it?) We have a house across our road which is flying the George Cross and the Union flag (never have done before, shown no patriotism during important tournaments etc). I'm genuinely thinking of putting my own montage flag up.

They're entitled to their views, apparently. And so are you.

AnnaFrith · 05/10/2025 17:04

Maybe talk to your neighbour and find out why he's flying the flag and what it means to him. You'd probably find out he's concerned about the historically never before seen levels of immigration, both legal and illegal, we've had over the last five years. It's not racist to be concerned about the impact of this, particularly when you place large groups of young men, from societies with very different attitudes to women, into small communities.

MiniPantherOwner · 05/10/2025 17:04

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 15:41

Tbh, the flags on people's houses are quite useful. It is good to know where the racists live.

Yes, I've found that it's also handy for labelling racist businesses. There's a cattery near me that I tried to book my cats into before, but it was full. They sounded so nice on the phone that I thought I'd try again next time I'm going away. Then right after the Tommy Robinson march they've put up a massive flagpole with an England flag, no way was that timing a coincidence. My cats will not be going to a racist cattery, so it's back to the further away one.

I presume that business owners assume that as a white woman I won't be bothered, but as someone whose Polish grandparents were both in the Polish army in WW2, I will not give my money to anyone who wants to give their support to the far right.

zazazaaar · 05/10/2025 17:03

Jeschara · 05/10/2025 15:24

I think you should mind your own business. I am in a mixed relationship and it would not bother me, it is in his garden, and you can do nothing about it.
I dont like the way the flag is being used by thugs but I would not let it get to me.

You say that but its firstly an embarrassment to live next to someone so fecking stupid they revere Tommy dickhead Robinson and secondly, suggests, to a high level of certainty, that they are racist.

NorfolkandBad · 05/10/2025 17:03

SapphireSeptember · 05/10/2025 16:19

The 'look after our star for us' thing was started by two WW2 veterans. Pretty sure they must have been very patriotic considering they served their country.

It was actually Led by Donkeys who started it - like so many claims on this thread, don't let facts get in the way.