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Neighbour has put up huge Unite the Kingdom flag

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UrticaDioca · 05/10/2025 15:05

I am gutted. I haven't seen a single flag in my town, and suddenly this union jack goes up two doors over with the words 'Unite the Kingdom' printed on it in capital letters. The flag is huge and flying from a pole on top of their shed, but it's in their own garden so nothing can be done.

I am the daughter of an immigrant mother and therefore mixed race. Now I have to see this fucking flag waving at me every time I look out of my kitchen or living room windows.

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MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 20:30

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:17

150,000 people "spouting their vile shite"?

Wow!

I know, it was shocking to see so many racists out in force, wasn't it.

JustSawJohnny · 05/10/2025 20:30

I'd be so pissed off.

My local town is covered with them.

Knocks me sick.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 20:30

Simplestars · 05/10/2025 19:44

Even though people who attend are not racist they know what those Marches represent and are adding weight to it.

So to me you are just as bad but hide behind 'but I'm not a racist'.

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They represent what the individual people on them want them to represent.

What do the people on pro-Palestine marches in London every week represent?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 20:26

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 20:18

I don't think Tommy Robinson is famous for being a racist. I think he's a famous for being an anti-Islam activist. There is a difference. Whether he is or isn't racist is almost moot. His main tub to thump is against the creep of Islam in Britain.

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OK, we can agree to disagree. As far as I'm concerned, there is no question that he is racist. If you don't agree, we will not find any common ground.

TooBigForMyBoots · 05/10/2025 20:26

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 20:18

I don't think Tommy Robinson is famous for being a racist. I think he's a famous for being an anti-Islam activist. There is a difference. Whether he is or isn't racist is almost moot. His main tub to thump is against the creep of Islam in Britain.

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He's very famous for being racist. He was racist for years before he rebranded his racism as Islamophobia.

His main tub to thump is grifting off UK racists and fools while he takes it up in his villa in Spain. Where he's an immigrant.😱

Grammarnut · 05/10/2025 20:24

Cardiaga · 05/10/2025 17:18

The evidence is the flag. If you display a symbol that makes others feel unsafe, and regard your right to do so as more important than their right to feel safe, that makes you selfish but not a racist. If the group of people who are made to feel unsafe by this symbol can be differentiated by race, then you are selfish AND a racist.

The evidence is not the flag. You are making the assumption that the people putting it up are racist. They may think that immigration should be controlled or that maybe attacking Jews on Yom Kippur is wrong, or possibly that immigrants are extremely welcome but should integrate somewhat and learn the language if they do not yet speak it. None of that is racist.
Unless you speak to people you do not know what they think.
If the Union flag - however presented - makes you feel unsafe then perhaps the problem is yours, not the flag's? It's my flag and possibly yours.
Locally a Palestinian flag is on display, with 'Free Palestine'. It is the flag of a nation run by terrorists who have committed atrocities. I have no problem with it being displayed nor with the views of the people displaying it (though if I were Jewish I might, I suppose).

lovernotafighterr · 05/10/2025 20:22

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 05/10/2025 20:18

I shall partake of a nice glass of wine and take one small sip each time I read a mealy mouthed lefty lover writes the word “Racist”.
I suspect by the time the thread has finished, I won’t just be a bit tipsy but off me tips and singing in the street.
Carry on, as you were.

You don’t have to be a lefty to know TR and his supporters are racists. Can’t believe we are even discussing that.

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:20

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 05/10/2025 20:18

I shall partake of a nice glass of wine and take one small sip each time I read a mealy mouthed lefty lover writes the word “Racist”.
I suspect by the time the thread has finished, I won’t just be a bit tipsy but off me tips and singing in the street.
Carry on, as you were.

Good idea 👍

IsEveryUserNameBloodyTaken · 05/10/2025 20:18

I shall partake of a nice glass of wine and take one small sip each time I read a mealy mouthed lefty lover writes the word “Racist”.
I suspect by the time the thread has finished, I won’t just be a bit tipsy but off me tips and singing in the street.
Carry on, as you were.

HeadDeskHeadDesk · 05/10/2025 20:18

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 19:31

Look, I cannot analyse the beliefs and motivations of every single person who went on that march, but I can say with confidence that anyone who genuinely cares about opposing racism would not go on a march organised by one of Britain's most famous racists. They just wouldn't.

I don't think Tommy Robinson is famous for being a racist. I think he's a famous for being an anti-Islam activist. There is a difference. Whether he is or isn't racist is almost moot. His main tub to thump is against the creep of Islam in Britain.

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:17

LakieLady · 05/10/2025 20:05

But it's not "just a flag", is it? It's a flag emblazoned with a slogan used by a far-right, racist organisation. And it's a bit sus that it's only appeared recently, when said organisation has recently had 100-150,00 marching through London, spouting their vile shite.

If he was like my friend's dad, who had a Union flag in his front garden for years, then it might be "just a flag", but in the current climate, I don't think it's overreaching to think it's expressing racism.

150,000 people "spouting their vile shite"?

Wow!

suburberphobe · 05/10/2025 20:16

Really so you don’t know about the 12 year old girl raped by 3 Romanian immigrants as it doesn’t fit your agenda.

What the fuck are you talking about? Of course that's appalling what happened. I don't live in UK and stuff like that happens here too.
Most immigrants - the ones I know and the masses I don't are law-abiding citizens.

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 20:13

Pedallleur · 05/10/2025 20:08

Odd because I can remember Boris and his Brexit bus and his waving Union flags whilst hanging from a wire and everything being oven ready. Remind me how well that went.

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I don’t understand the connection to this thread.

Please explain.

Slightyamusedandsilly · 05/10/2025 20:10

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 19:59

We are all entitled to different opinions though ....

I'm sure people said that about the Nazis too.

Pedallleur · 05/10/2025 20:08

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 19:51

So, whilst people are getting their knickers in a twist over some flags, with their often-fake outrage, Labour are busy seriously fucking up the UK economy, with consequences for all of us.

Some people have got some seriously messed up priorities.

Odd because I can remember Boris and his Brexit bus and his waving Union flags whilst hanging from a wire and everything being oven ready. Remind me how well that went.

CreamBeforeJamOnScones · 05/10/2025 20:07

They've probably done it deliberately as they have you as a neighbour.

I'm so sorry. I'd try and move, which is what they want, but I couldn't look at that.

Cardiaga · 05/10/2025 20:07

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 19:36

Your children are English and you should be teaching then to be proud of their English and British flags.

Urgh @Petitchat !Maybe you should be teaching your children to not weaponise symbols to oppress and intimidate others.

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:07

kodakpp3 · 05/10/2025 20:03

Sorry you’re having to put up with a flag like this. Not good what ever the intentions are behind it’s erection.

My neighbour opposite has flown a St George’s one for a couple of years. I don’t think he flies it for racist or little Englander reasons although he did have Brexit stickers on his last car. We haven’t discussed it.

I suspect there are nearly as many reasons for flying flags as there are flags.

The whole spectrum from out and out racists to those who think they look nice fluttering.

How they are viewed is up to the individual, their position and thoughts.

Many will see them as a bad thing, a threat, provocative, insulted, undervaluing, stress causing etc.

Others, like my Mum for example, would say they look nice fluttering in the wind and wouldn’t see and hidden message. They might even question why others are upset.

Even though I’m a male, white pensioner I can see why some feel insulted and insecure, upset.

Many have been put up for bad reasons.

I’m sorry about the behaviour of fellow(?) countrymen

Thankyou, great post.

Redpeach · 05/10/2025 20:06

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 19:36

Your children are English and you should be teaching then to be proud of their English and British flags.

It's possible to love living in a country without all this pride nonsense

LakieLady · 05/10/2025 20:05

Donttellempike · 05/10/2025 16:11

Calm down dear. It’s just a flag 😂😂😂😂

But it's not "just a flag", is it? It's a flag emblazoned with a slogan used by a far-right, racist organisation. And it's a bit sus that it's only appeared recently, when said organisation has recently had 100-150,00 marching through London, spouting their vile shite.

If he was like my friend's dad, who had a Union flag in his front garden for years, then it might be "just a flag", but in the current climate, I don't think it's overreaching to think it's expressing racism.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 20:05

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:00

Some of us don't agree with that point of view, though.

OK, so tell us why a direct response to a campaign led by one of Britain's most notorious racists shouldn't be seen as aligning yourself with racists?

kodakpp3 · 05/10/2025 20:03

Sorry you’re having to put up with a flag like this. Not good what ever the intentions are behind it’s erection.

My neighbour opposite has flown a St George’s one for a couple of years. I don’t think he flies it for racist or little Englander reasons although he did have Brexit stickers on his last car. We haven’t discussed it.

I suspect there are nearly as many reasons for flying flags as there are flags.

The whole spectrum from out and out racists to those who think they look nice fluttering.

How they are viewed is up to the individual, their position and thoughts.

Many will see them as a bad thing, a threat, provocative, insulted, undervaluing, stress causing etc.

Others, like my Mum for example, would say they look nice fluttering in the wind and wouldn’t see and hidden message. They might even question why others are upset.

Even though I’m a male, white pensioner I can see why some feel insulted and insecure, upset.

Many have been put up for bad reasons.

I’m sorry about the behaviour of fellow(?) countrymen

EveningSpread · 05/10/2025 20:03

One of our neighbours has erected a 15ft flagpole in “his” garden with a Union Jack on it.

I say “his” because it’s hardly contained to his garden, it’s imposed on everyone.

I just don’t know what would cause someone to erect such a giant thing in their not large back garden. I don’t know what point he is making.

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 20:02

GabrielsOboe · 05/10/2025 19:51

So, whilst people are getting their knickers in a twist over some flags, with their often-fake outrage, Labour are busy seriously fucking up the UK economy, with consequences for all of us.

Some people have got some seriously messed up priorities.

Yes, well said...

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 05/10/2025 20:02

Petitchat · 05/10/2025 19:59

We are all entitled to different opinions though ....

Yes, of course we are. Nobody is saying otherwise.

But being entitled to different opinions means that we are free to hold the opinion that racism is despicable.

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