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Neighbour has put up huge Unite the Kingdom flag

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UrticaDioca · 05/10/2025 15:05

I am gutted. I haven't seen a single flag in my town, and suddenly this union jack goes up two doors over with the words 'Unite the Kingdom' printed on it in capital letters. The flag is huge and flying from a pole on top of their shed, but it's in their own garden so nothing can be done.

I am the daughter of an immigrant mother and therefore mixed race. Now I have to see this fucking flag waving at me every time I look out of my kitchen or living room windows.

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TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 19:37

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 18:37

'Why would they interview him?' For the same reasons they found the BNP interesting enough to do a documentary on perhaps. A better question is why wouldn't they, considering the information I've put to you. Three guesses as to why.... We have already established this scandal was known about amongst the BBC as far back as 2001. We also know there were mass cover ups going on across the country during this time, so as not to inflame racial tensions. Were the media really going to bring the whole pack of cards tumbling down and face the wrath of complicit politicians? Of course not.

Much easier to ignore the whistle blowers then discredit them when you can't ignore them any longer!

'He wasn't a politician.' Indeed. I love how you have undermined your own argument there regarding him not exposing it, and supported my point regarding the fact it is near impossible to 'expose' anything if nobody is listening or you are deemed unimportant or a liar, regardless of whether you are telling the truth.

'What exactly do you think Tommy Robinson did?' If you had actually read any of my comments or links you wouldn't need to ask me this. I'm finding it tedious trying to have a conversation with someone who refuses to analyse the information put before them. I've answered this already, multiple times.

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Who made the BBC scandal aware of the grooming gangs scandal back in 2001?

We know massive cover ups were happening but as the investigations show, it wasn't because of police fears of being labelled racist. The police are implicated in corruption and collusion with the rape gangs. Others were more concerned about cost and hassle. The children were dismissed at best, blamed at worst and handed over to their abusers many times. Even when families, HCPs and individual police officers were yelling about this and trying to protect them. The police didn't give a shit about being called racist.

And they didn't give a shit about working class white girls, especially those in care.Angry

There were no mass cover ups going on so as not to inflame racial tensions. The media use of Ahmed Choudry, the extremist with a hook for a hand(?) was given way more air time than he deserved. Despite being an anathema to the vast majority of Muslims in Britain and beyond. Inflaming racial tension was what the media were doing. Smart phones were young and that shit got them clicks.

See also the BBC interview you posted with Tommy Robinson. Who by then had left the BNP to set up the EDL due to ego clash. Tommy Robinson is a racist.

I will not click links that monetise Tommy Robinson inserting himself into the fight against VAWG or lying about being racist.

But you've watched them so I'm asking you:
What exactly do you think Tommy Robinson did?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 18:43

AnaisVB · 07/10/2025 18:42

I really don’t understand how you can be this naive. The flag itself isn’t a problem, it’s who is waving it and what the intentions are . The far right have used the flag to be racist and have taken it as a symbol . The OP is concerned her neighbours are racist because of the rhetoric and connotations.

They're not naive, they're just disingenuous.

AnaisVB · 07/10/2025 18:42

Jumpingthruhoops · 06/10/2025 22:55

This! I find this rhetoric utterly bizarre. To those who don't like our national flag, I'd definitely say that's a you problem.

I really don’t understand how you can be this naive. The flag itself isn’t a problem, it’s who is waving it and what the intentions are . The far right have used the flag to be racist and have taken it as a symbol . The OP is concerned her neighbours are racist because of the rhetoric and connotations.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 18:37

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 16:20

Why would they interview him? He wasn't a politician. He wasn't a spokesman for the victims. He didn't expose the scandal. He didnt investigate or collect evidence to be handed into the police.

What exactly do you think Tommy Robinson did?

'Why would they interview him?' For the same reasons they found the BNP interesting enough to do a documentary on perhaps. A better question is why wouldn't they, considering the information I've put to you. Three guesses as to why.... We have already established this scandal was known about amongst the BBC as far back as 2001. We also know there were mass cover ups going on across the country during this time, so as not to inflame racial tensions. Were the media really going to bring the whole pack of cards tumbling down and face the wrath of complicit politicians? Of course not.

Much easier to ignore the whistle blowers then discredit them when you can't ignore them any longer!

'He wasn't a politician.' Indeed. I love how you have undermined your own argument there regarding him not exposing it, and supported my point regarding the fact it is near impossible to 'expose' anything if nobody is listening or you are deemed unimportant or a liar, regardless of whether you are telling the truth.

'What exactly do you think Tommy Robinson did?' If you had actually read any of my comments or links you wouldn't need to ask me this. I'm finding it tedious trying to have a conversation with someone who refuses to analyse the information put before them. I've answered this already, multiple times.

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 16:48

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 12:46

Well, I agree that it's worrying when people start denying basic facts, but there is a long tradition of holocaust denial so perhaps we shouldn't really be surprised.

I also think the protests today are in very bad taste and I would far rather that they didn't go ahead. I would not personally attend any of the pro-Palestine protests anyway, as already stated, because I would not want to align myself with some of the people on them. That said, I do really understand the horror that people feel about the actions of the Israeli government in Gaza and about the UK's ongoing sale of arms to Israel, and the feeling that they need to speak out about these things. It is not inherently antisemitic to do so.

What happened on Oct 7th was horrific and unforgivable, and no decent human being can possibly try to justify it. But I also think it's a bit too simplistic to suggest that the current conflict all started with the Hamas atrocities two years ago. As a historian, you will be well aware that it is much more complex than that. Not that the history in any way excuses the abhorrent terrorist acts which were perpetrated by Hamas on that day, but I think we have to acknowledge that the conflict didn't just start there.

Much more complicated, of course, the current hostilities I think were courted by Hamas, though.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 16:20

Why would they interview him? He wasn't a politician. He wasn't a spokesman for the victims. He didn't expose the scandal. He didnt investigate or collect evidence to be handed into the police.

What exactly do you think Tommy Robinson did?

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 15:59

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 15:32

You said he was exposing the grooming gangs a decade before the contempt of court case. Who was he exposing them to, other than BNP members in a private meeting?

Yes I did say that. The contempt of court I believe you were talking about is the 2018 case, where he filmed the accused entering Crown Court.

As is evidenced, he was speaking of these issues 7 years prior on Newsnight in 2011 after finally being given a platform. We have already discussed that he was talking about this issue in 2004 - 14 years prior to the contempt of court case.

To say he exploits victims is pretty shameful considering his cousin was a victim at 13.

Now, ask yourself this, why did the BBC or any mainstream media for that matter, take an entire 7 years to interview him after the 2004 allegations? And why was he shut down and dismissed in 2011 even though the BBC knew this was going on in 2001?

So you ask, 'who was he exposing them to?' Allegedly to authorities way back when. But I guess we will never know, as has been demonstrated, he has been ignored time and again, despite being right all along.

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Doggybroc · 07/10/2025 15:41

AnnaFrith · 06/10/2025 16:56

What the hell has that to do with anything?

Scary to think of you spouting your views to them I suppose

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 15:40

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 15:28

No, the point is was making is that Tommy Robinson did nothing about grooming gangs other than exploit the victims for content and pretend he was a hero in their story.

Amazing that you know so much about TR, yet don't know hes a racist.🤔 But then he and his friends dont bring that up in the hagiographies and sycophantic interviews he does on the internet.

Tell me you didn't read my comment in full or watch the links without telling me.

'No, the point is was making is that Tommy Robinson did nothing about grooming gangs.' That is simply not true.

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 15:32

You said he was exposing the grooming gangs a decade before the contempt of court case. Who was he exposing them to, other than BNP members in a private meeting?

TooBigForMyBoots · 07/10/2025 15:28

No, the point is was making is that Tommy Robinson did nothing about grooming gangs other than exploit the victims for content and pretend he was a hero in their story.

Amazing that you know so much about TR, yet don't know hes a racist.🤔 But then he and his friends dont bring that up in the hagiographies and sycophantic interviews he does on the internet.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 14:42

AnnaFrith · 06/10/2025 20:13

The poster's point is that at the time the BBC documentary was made, in 2004, the claims the BNP made about the grooming gangs were seen as evidence of their racism.
Presumably also by all the people who ignored the evidence that the claims were true, due to their 'anti-racism'.

She knew. A good old strawman is a great way to deflect.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 14:39

TooBigForMyBoots · 06/10/2025 19:51

The grooming gangs were first exposed by Ann Cryer MP in 2002.

Members the BNP were recorded discussing it, briefly, by Panorama in 2004. It was not exposed nor was it "investigated" by TR.

Following The Times actually exposing the scandal everyone took notice.

Around 2013 Tommy Robinson started using the cases for Internet content thereby jeopardising trials.

He didnt expose the grooming gangs. The victims and the supportive people around them exposed the grooming gangs. TR disrespects them by taking credit for their hard, painful work. But then he doesn't give a shit about them, he's shown that already. Its all about creating Content for his Internet fans.

I haven't suggested he was the first to expose it. I don't think anyone can actually claim this as there have been hundreds of people going back 20 years (including victims,) who reported these crimes to the authorities. We now know this fell on deaf ears and was actively covered up so as not to stir up 'racial tensions.'

Councillors, police, MPs and the media all had knowledge of this. I'd also point out having the power to expose something, because your voice counts, doesn't mean you were the first person talking about it!

'The grooming gangs were first exposed by Ann Cryer MP in 2002.' Odd that considering the despicable BBC was reporting on it in 2001! Except it was coming from a victim blaming angle. Of course they have since changed their tune and stopped calling these victims 'prostitutes.'
BBC News | UK | Child prostitution crisis

What a difference a decade or two makes.... and public opinion.
Child sexual exploitation: How the system failed - BBC News

From reading your comment I can see you've never bothered to watch any of the old or new TR interviews, which I always find strange for people who think they know so much about him, or causally write him off as nothing but a racist.

Whatever he is or isn't it doesn't change the fact he grew up seeing the grooming (his cousin was raped at 13) and has been speaking about it ever since. I go back to the point regarding having a voice that doesn't matter.

Only when the voices could not be ignored because he had joined a racist party that was making a lot of noise (BNP) they were given any type of media attention, the purpose of which was to highlight the racism within the party, but accidently touched on grooming gangs too. TR has openly admitted about his regret being in the BNP as an impressionable young man, he has said Nick Griffin is a 'racist wrong un' and realised his views didn't align. Strange bedfellows and all that.

Just have a look at the gaslighting and condescension in the Paxman interview in 2011 when he was finally given a platform.

Doesn't that just about sum up the BBC? A brief article on this very topic in 2001.
10 years later inviting TR on to speak, knowing he isn't eloquent and had undesirable history so they could easily ridicule him and present him as a liar.
Except he wasn't wrong was he!

BBC News | UK | Child prostitution crisis

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/uk/1462628.stm

SteakBakesAndHotTakes · 07/10/2025 13:57

My neighbour flies two huge Palestine flags both behind and outside of their window. My DCs also walk past Fuck Israel graffiti daily on the way to school. I wish people would not wish to spread intimidation and hate but they unfortunately do.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 13:35

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 16:49

What on earth do you mean, "finally got there". I have been quite clear from the very outset that I think everyone who attended that march was racist, apart from a few who may have been genuinely too stupid to understand that they were on a racist march. Sure, some might not be vocally racist, but the tacit condoning of racism is still racism imo.

If that's the point you are trying to make all along, then it seems that we have been talking at crossed purposes. It had been my impression that you had been trying to argue that some of the marchers might not have been racist even though they had chosen to march alongside a racist.

FWIW, I do accept that some people might agree with some of TR's views but not all of them. What I don't accept is that someone who isn't racist would choose to go on a demonstration organised by a notorious racist in order to promote his racist rhetoric.

And my point from the outset has been assuming hundreds of thousands of people are either racist or stupid is a lazy and ignorant stance, for reasons we've discussed.

IAmThePrettiestManOnMyIsland · 07/10/2025 13:24

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 06/10/2025 17:52

That good old bastion of anti racism.Wink

Who said it was? 🤔

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 12:48

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 12:25

The bubble extends to LAs and to the museum service, unfortunately.

I haven't really seen that tendency in either of the LAs that I've worked with. But I appreciate that the culture will differ around the country.

I know nothing about museums, I'm afraid.

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 12:46

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 12:31

Hi, I was thinking of the pro-Palestinian protests in London (nearly every week and apparently one is planned for today, 7th Oct) and those at university campuses mainly in the US and there have been anti-Israel demos in Spain lately. Almost everyone I know is horrified by the Gaza war and blames its inception on Hamas' actions on 7th Oct. I don't support the conitnued bombing, of course, and nor does anyone I know. I do know a few people who don't believe that Oct 7th happened (or that the Israelis did it themselves); they mostly come from London, oddly, and are certainly well-educated. This worries me a lot.

Well, I agree that it's worrying when people start denying basic facts, but there is a long tradition of holocaust denial so perhaps we shouldn't really be surprised.

I also think the protests today are in very bad taste and I would far rather that they didn't go ahead. I would not personally attend any of the pro-Palestine protests anyway, as already stated, because I would not want to align myself with some of the people on them. That said, I do really understand the horror that people feel about the actions of the Israeli government in Gaza and about the UK's ongoing sale of arms to Israel, and the feeling that they need to speak out about these things. It is not inherently antisemitic to do so.

What happened on Oct 7th was horrific and unforgivable, and no decent human being can possibly try to justify it. But I also think it's a bit too simplistic to suggest that the current conflict all started with the Hamas atrocities two years ago. As a historian, you will be well aware that it is much more complex than that. Not that the history in any way excuses the abhorrent terrorist acts which were perpetrated by Hamas on that day, but I think we have to acknowledge that the conflict didn't just start there.

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 12:31

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 01:00

It is utterly abhorrent that anyone should applaud or otherwise celebrate the atrocities that were perpetrated by Hamas on October 7th 2023. But you make it sound as if this was a "normal" mainstream view, which it wasn't. I know a lot of people who have supported the plight of the Palestinian people for decades. Every single one of them expressed nothing but horror in response to the Hamas attacks. Yes, there will always be an extreme minority who celebrate evil acts, but they are not influential voices in our society.

To be honest, I find it hard to relate to the concerns that you're expressing because I just don't recognise the issues that you're raising as being particularly relevant to the society that I am living in. As a white person, I don't feel that I'm vilified or asked to constantly feel guilty and I don't see an issue with learning about the less glorious aspects of our history. I just don't really understand exactly what you're concerned about.

Hi, I was thinking of the pro-Palestinian protests in London (nearly every week and apparently one is planned for today, 7th Oct) and those at university campuses mainly in the US and there have been anti-Israel demos in Spain lately. Almost everyone I know is horrified by the Gaza war and blames its inception on Hamas' actions on 7th Oct. I don't support the conitnued bombing, of course, and nor does anyone I know. I do know a few people who don't believe that Oct 7th happened (or that the Israelis did it themselves); they mostly come from London, oddly, and are certainly well-educated. This worries me a lot.

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 12:25

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 10:10

Yeah, I worked in HE for a while. I don't dispute that it can be a weird environment - it is its own bubble and often divorced from what's going on back in the real world. I've been out of it for a while now, but I can understand how spending a lot of time in certain institutions might give you a somewhat warped perspective on our society. I just don't think that perspective necessarily reflects what is happening outside of the HE bubble.

As for the fuckers who celebrated the Hamas atrocities on 7/10, there will always be extremists who thrive on hate, but I genuinely believe that they are a small minority.

The bubble extends to LAs and to the museum service, unfortunately.

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 12:22

CurlewKate · 07/10/2025 11:34

I find the conflation of progressive politics and celebrating acts of appalling terrorism more offensive than I can possibly say. And I have a couple of degrees too. Not “several” though-so there’s that.

I agree. It horrifies me. One thing I have noticed is that education does not confer common sense and sometimes no understanding of evidence, which is sad.

CurlewKate · 07/10/2025 11:34

I find the conflation of progressive politics and celebrating acts of appalling terrorism more offensive than I can possibly say. And I have a couple of degrees too. Not “several” though-so there’s that.

Petitchat · 07/10/2025 10:16

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 09:30

MN is the only social media I go on, in fact, and mainly the feminist boards. I follow a couple of education blogs (I support SSP and explicit teaching having seen the damage the altrnative brings) and several GR feminists e.g. Milli Hill, Helen Joyce. That's it. Probably no more social media than you.
Re reparations for slavery, you seem to not understand that no-one now living is responsible for any slavery unless they are currently involved in it, in e.g. the continent of Africa (c.9M slaves of various sorts e.g. slaves, forced marriage, child soldiers, child workers in colbalt mines etc.) in India (debt slaves) etc. No living person owes anyone, whoever they are descended from, reparations for slavery - and who gets paid? Ancient Sumeria, Egypt, Greece, Rome, Turkey...slaved, so did the Vikings, the Saxons, the Arabs. Slavery has existed for millenia and until c.1750 was considered normal, though unfortunate for slaves (and there were charities in many European countries dedicated to raising ransoms to pay the Barbary Pirates for enslaved Europeans). A handful of people during those thousands of years stood up and said slavery was wrong - the brave - but not until Europe in the eighteenth century (where slavery had been outlawed between the 11th and 13th centuries) began to have anti-slavery campaigns did anyone manage to do anything about ending the scourge upon humanity: one which still continues.
The UK constitution has, since 1215, mandated that no-one should be deprived of legally owned property. In 1833 the UK government borrowed £20M to buy the slaves mostly from West Indian plantations in order to free them (they remained bond servants until 1838 mainly for economic reasons). The slaves were owned by the banks who had funded their purchase in the first place, under a regime that made slave owning legal (we may not like that, but that was the legal situation in the W. Indies, though not the UK). Not to pay the banks the money owed by plantation owners would have caused possibly world recession (20M was one-fifth of the UK's GDP in the 1830s) and certainly bankruptcy in the West Indies, which meant there would be no work for the freed slaves or anyone else.
It was not 'compensation' it was staving off recession by paying for legally purchased property - it sticks in our craw (and probably the craw of the British at the time) but it had to be done. The UK repaid the (rolled-over) loan c. 2015.
I have answered your 'oh, look around' point in another post but it irked me that you acccused me (a historian with several degrees) of getting information from social media, so I have bothered to refute you.

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@Grammarnut

You are brilliant and my hero/heroine on this thread 😊

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 10:10

Yeah, I worked in HE for a while. I don't dispute that it can be a weird environment - it is its own bubble and often divorced from what's going on back in the real world. I've been out of it for a while now, but I can understand how spending a lot of time in certain institutions might give you a somewhat warped perspective on our society. I just don't think that perspective necessarily reflects what is happening outside of the HE bubble.

As for the fuckers who celebrated the Hamas atrocities on 7/10, there will always be extremists who thrive on hate, but I genuinely believe that they are a small minority.

Grammarnut · 07/10/2025 09:52

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 07/10/2025 01:00

It is utterly abhorrent that anyone should applaud or otherwise celebrate the atrocities that were perpetrated by Hamas on October 7th 2023. But you make it sound as if this was a "normal" mainstream view, which it wasn't. I know a lot of people who have supported the plight of the Palestinian people for decades. Every single one of them expressed nothing but horror in response to the Hamas attacks. Yes, there will always be an extreme minority who celebrate evil acts, but they are not influential voices in our society.

To be honest, I find it hard to relate to the concerns that you're expressing because I just don't recognise the issues that you're raising as being particularly relevant to the society that I am living in. As a white person, I don't feel that I'm vilified or asked to constantly feel guilty and I don't see an issue with learning about the less glorious aspects of our history. I just don't really understand exactly what you're concerned about.

I think it's mostly academia - and only in certain places. E.g. some at Goldsmiths today apparently are celebrating the uprising by Palestinians against Israel - but that is rumour, I think, or a misreading.
I don't think most people applaud the acts of 7/10 but some did. And many discounted them at the time (including my late DH, who only came to realise the horror after a few weeks) and some have not changed their minds e.g. are callin git a false flag opperation.

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