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No TV before school?!

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Tireddadplus · 03/10/2025 08:41

Hi! Just got a message from our DD’s (5yo) school that we should not let the kids watch any tv before school! Bad for their brains or something…

DD watches a bit of tv while myself or DW sort out lunches or whatever…just makes getting out the door easier!

Am i being unreasonable to ignore this advice?

OP posts:
Poppingby · 03/10/2025 09:49

BitOutOfPractice · 03/10/2025 09:35

Does nobody have the radio on in the mornings any more?

there was no tv before school on my house either.

We used to have R4 on in the mornings. World's too scary for that now.

didgeridid · 03/10/2025 09:46

Id guess it depends on the child but they can't say "Jimmy, you are a git when you watch TV in the morning".
We have cbeebies on while we wake up properly then we have breakfast at the table, off to get ready then back down with it on. The also play while it's on. I reckon we have the TV on way too much but I don't think it affects her negatively. She reads, plays, listens to music, we chat about it day.

PaxAeterna · 03/10/2025 09:42

When I was struggling with a baby and two small kids I used to “reward” them with some telly if they were ready by 8am (we leave the house at 8.30) . It just focused their mind on getting ready and left me time to get myself and baby ready. We walk to school so they get time to blow off the cobwebs.

Now they are older we have it off and we don’t turn on any screens until later in the evening.

I think you need to weigh up how much it works for you.

Loveduppenguin · 03/10/2025 09:36

Tireddadplus · 03/10/2025 08:41

Hi! Just got a message from our DD’s (5yo) school that we should not let the kids watch any tv before school! Bad for their brains or something…

DD watches a bit of tv while myself or DW sort out lunches or whatever…just makes getting out the door easier!

Am i being unreasonable to ignore this advice?

Why don’t you get dd to brush teeth, put on shoes and play with a toy instead? Our tvs aren’t turned on until after dinner.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/10/2025 09:35

Does nobody have the radio on in the mornings any more?

there was no tv before school on my house either.

ResusciAnnie · 03/10/2025 09:33

My kids get up at 5:30/6 (year 3 & 6) and we’re totally fine with that. Our mornings work well. They screen - TV and switch -until 7:30 and then play until 8:30 when we leave for school.
All pretty harmonious on the whole, this morning they played Uno and did loom bands and made paper snowflakes and those like paper people chain concertina things.
Also thriving at school - if it ain’t broke don’t fix it OP!

WilderHawthorn · 03/10/2025 09:32

We have music on Alexa before school, change the playlist depending on everyone’s mood that day

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 03/10/2025 09:32

Aria2015 · 03/10/2025 08:55

Do what works for you, I think a short time if fine if it helps mornings run smoother.

In our house TV tends to slow everyone down and so the rule is that it can only go on after everyone is fed and dressed and really to walk out the door so they usually get 5 mins before they leave if they've not been too slow!

Yup, breakfast, dressed, teeth, shoes on, bag packed, if there's time tv for 5mins.
Good incentive to get sorted in time

JetFlight · 03/10/2025 09:31

Definitely no tv in the mornings here. Dc are older now but if I’d had tv on, I don’t think I could have got them away from it without a battle.
Books, drawing or timestables songs if they had time (which was very rare)

Needmorelego · 03/10/2025 09:31

CountryQueen · 03/10/2025 09:29

Sounds like denial tbh. You’ve had to ban things and can’t control the kids phone time without setting limits? Yet they’re young enough to be watching CBeebies?

Wow

She said CBBC.
That's the channel for older children and tweens.

CountryQueen · 03/10/2025 09:29

KickHimInTheCrotch · 03/10/2025 09:05

We watch TV in the morning and I dont think it affects my kids massively. Just 20mins of CBBC or something while they eat some cereal. I've had to ban YouTube until they are fully dressed and ready because they get sucked in and I end up having to nag at every stage. Their phones dont activate until 7.30 so that helps.

Sounds like denial tbh. You’ve had to ban things and can’t control the kids phone time without setting limits? Yet they’re young enough to be watching CBeebies?

Wow

ChickalettasGiblets · 03/10/2025 09:29

We have no tv before school, it’s way too distracting for them when they are trying to get ready!

Dorrieisalittlewitch · 03/10/2025 09:25

We are music/radio/yoto only in the mornings before school.

Mostly because if dc2 is watching tv, she goes into slow motion but music speeds her up.

Velvian · 03/10/2025 09:24

I think it's fine if you are walking to school, as a walk is a great brain reset. I think if it's TV, car, school, I can see they would be zombiefied.

Theunamedcat · 03/10/2025 09:24

Ds has a 30 to 45 minute commute to school in a warm taxi im sure there are other reasons why he is sleepy first thing that's not linked to television

QuickPeachPoet · 03/10/2025 09:21

There are plenty of other things she can do while you get on that don't involve a screen.

Needmorelego · 03/10/2025 09:21

We watched Milkshake on channel 5 back when my girl was little.
We used it as a timing guide and the presenters clock behind them was very handy.
All worked well until the schedule changed every so often 😂
(Once late to nursery.... teacher laughed...."Sorry we're late. Channel 5 changed Peppa's timeslot")
Schools can say what they want but they can't control your home life.
Edit : we were also late another day when my decided she HAD to line up all her My Little Ponies before school.

Bluebells44 · 03/10/2025 09:19

I'd perhaps try a few days without it to gauge for myself if it was having an effect. Otherwise I'd continue with our normal routine.

I don't believe that teachers can tell who has TV in the morning and who doesn't. We used to have 15 mins every day, we don't now, and there is no difference in behaviour.

CuriousKangaroo · 03/10/2025 09:18

We were told that our 6 year old was easily distracted at school. We decided to try cutting out pre-school TV (like you we used it a little to get ready in the mornings) in case it was having an impact. Within a couple of weeks we were told her attention span had increased. So yes, YABU to ignore their advice.

Rewis · 03/10/2025 09:16

If it was jsut sent to me because my child was showing some issues, I would likely doscuss it with school and follow advice. If jt was just a generic message to all parents at the school, I'd just do what I wanted. If mornings were easier with 15min of tv, then we would do that. However, i have issues with a lot of school rules in the school and I don't really appreciate them telling what parents should do un their own house. Unless there is a specific issue that needs working.

Iocanepowder · 03/10/2025 09:16

We have tv on before school. Just something like cbeebies or milkshake. They quite often get up at 6.

I was also going to make the point about us 90s kids. We watched tv before school and it has been fine.

Poppingby · 03/10/2025 09:16

We never have the TV on before school because I actually can't stand the sound early in the morning. I also think it's much easier to get the kids out of the house if it's not on. They're a bit older now but it's stuck. However, school should not be telling you how to run your own household and I don't believe that teachers and instantly tell who has been watching TV Hmm. I believe they say they can though. If you walk to school especially enough happens between the two doors for telly to wear off if it ever did have a visible effect!!

MrsKateColumbo · 03/10/2025 09:16

Mine ate late risers so we dont really have time, we have yoto with bfast though

EllieQ · 03/10/2025 09:13

We used to allow fifteen minutes of Hey Duggee or something similar from CBeebies in bed with one of us while the other was getting ready, but once it was time to get up and have breakfast, the screens went off as we didn’t have time for any more.

She’s ten now and watches a bit of YouTube first thing to ease into the day (she’s not a morning person), but the same rule about screens off after getting out of bed applies.

ComfortFoodCafe · 03/10/2025 09:11

Im a 90s kid we watched tv before school and survived to tell the tale! My kids watch a bit of youtube before going to school and its done them no harm ds9 is working two years above his peers.. but they do need to be dressed, washed, had breakfast etc before they watch anything so we arent rushing out the door!