Is this rude from a child? Age 6, furious reaction from teacher

The teacher should be the one to teach the children this.

I think in this scenario the teacher should have responded calmly saing something like Well, thats an interesting point and we can discuss it later. Now I need you to be quiet.

And this discussion right here is the reason why teachers are leaving the profession in droves…parents, enough! Either get a grip over minor incidents/trivial nonsense, or continue to over-analyse every nanosecond of your child’s day, but stop complaining when more teachers leave. Here’s a thought- if you are so distrustful and so perfect in your every interaction with your perfect children, you are free to home educate. Put your money where your mouth is!

I think what some people fail to grasp is what might seem adorable in your one on one interaction with your own child is completely unmanageable when the ratio changes to one adult with 25 kids and learning needing to be done.

Your DS just needs to focus more on listening and less on making ‘helpful’ observations. At home you probably find it cute if he corrects you but he needs to learn the difference between home and school. He’ll get there.

Is nobody else reading the words '6 years old'? Perhaps it was cheeky, perhaps the class had been very 'trying' all day, but they are 6 years old. These are not cocky, hormonal 15 year olds trying to look big in front of their friends. My 9 year old still asks questions like that to me very innocently, with no cheekiness meant.
Definitely speak with the teacher though, there are 2 sides to everything. And young children do need to know when they need to be quieter in class, but shouting is seldom the answer.
And you need to find out why he is so unhappy generally at school.

Is nobody else reading the words '6 years old'? Perhaps it was cheeky, perhaps the class had been very 'trying' all day, but they are 6 years old. These are not cocky, hormonal 15 year olds trying to look big in front of their friends. My 9 year old still asks questions like that to me very innocently, with no cheekiness meant.
Definitely speak with the teacher though, there are 2 sides to everything. And young children do need to know when they need to be quieter in class, but shouting is seldom the answer.
And you need to find out why he is so unhappy generally at school.

He wasn't cheeky - he was asking for clarification. I have a 7 year old who is an angel behaviour wise, has never said a thing cheeky to anyone ever and is praised consistently in school - but he needs clarification as he sees everything literally and wouldn't understand exactly what was meant there. Thank f* you aren't a teacher though.

Aren't you in pain when you hurt yourself? I am...and at 6 years old they mostly cry from pain from hurting themselves.

He wasn't cheeky - he was asking for clarification. I have a 7 year old who is an angel behaviour wise, has never said a thing cheeky to anyone ever and is praised consistently in school - but he needs clarification as he sees everything literally and wouldn't understand exactly what was meant there. Thank f* you aren't a teacher though.

He was really cheeky and was told off. Of course he’s cried, he didn’t like being told off. Hopefully he will think twice about being rude in future.
Threads like this make me so glad I’m not a teacher.

I would be happier if I could be reassured that he was being a smart arse and got a deserved ticking off. I’d rather that than worry about disproportionate reactions from teachers who can’t keep their tempers. Is what he said really rude though and not just a literal exploration of what the teacher has said?

My DS was at school today and his teacher addressed the class saying “I don’t want to hear from you unless you need the toilet, you’re in pain or injured.” My DS raised his hand and said “I’m pain and injured is kind of the same thing.” Another teacher overheard and shouted at him so much he was crying and still crying about it at bedtime.

obviously I only have his account of the incident so this is all the detail I have. He didn’t think he had said anything wrong. I’ve noticed this year he’s complained of strict scary teachers and he’s becoming anxious about going to school. Would appreciate opinions on whether this apparently very big telling off was justified. He said his friends were comforting afterwards and he was crying and apologising whilst the teacher continued to shout.

I would have done the same, wanting a clarification (and also not understanding that I should be quiet and it's not the time to ask). I'm AuDHD and I'd be more keen to get the right understanding, than understand the social situation. They're also only 6, so it seems a bit of an over-reaction from the teacher.

I’m all for discipline with children but this sounds off and was upsetting to read even though I don’t know the little boy. Any teacher discipline which leaves a child reeling and still sobbing at bedtime has completely overstepped the mark and sounds damaging rather than helpful. I would be on the alert big time.

I would imagine there's a considerable backstory here!

It sounds as if the teacher had been trying to get the class quiet for some time and that was her final word on the matter, only for Master Annoying to try to be the class joker.

Non-teachers won't understand, however hard they try, the difficulties and subtleties of classroom management. (Anecdote to follow...optional).

One little jokey remark from student can set the whole class off, especially is the child still persists in coming back with another quip. And another 10 mins is wasted.

Anecdote: this concerns an older child (14). He was the son of a friend who had no experience of teaching. Her son was clever and a bit of a handful. He had his phone under the table and the very young female teacher asked 'Josh (nc obvs) what's that in your hand?' Josh replied 'My penis, Miss'. He was bollocked, bollocked again and made to do a Saturday detention in school uniform. This was about 15 years ago, btw.

My friend was indignant. Her son was just making a joke! Hadn't the teacher got a sense of humour? Josh normally got on well with her, so why did she make such a big deal of it? I had to explain that on many levels he was completely out of order. It was an insolent reply, not a joke. Even if it was a joke, it was out of place in the classroom setting - it's not a one-to-one social event, the teacher has her whole class to manage and can't make exceptions to behaviour rules. But most glaringly of all, it was a sexual remark to a young female teacher...would he have done that to a man? Absolutely out of order, and he needed to learn fast that it wasn't acceptable behaviour.

Moral of anecdote: the rules of the classroom are necessarily different to those of home or a night out with your mates.

I’m all for discipline with children but this sounds off and was upsetting to read even though I don’t know the little boy. Any teacher discipline which leaves a child reeling and still sobbing at bedtime has completely overstepped the mark and sounds damaging rather than helpful. I would be on the alert big time.

It is exactly the kind of clarification a 6yo asd child might make. Calling the child a “smartass” is offensive. Telling the child off is a problem.

a cheeky child would have brushed off a telling off, but a nd child is not going to understand that they did anything wrong. They are legitimately seeking clarification of the teacher’s imprecise language.