Is this rude from a child? Age 6, furious reaction from teacher

We don’t know because we weren’t there. However, in my experience, a child of six, who knows the class are being told to be quiet so work can be completed, also knows it isn’t appropriate to pipe up with yet another question. In my experience, it is done for laughs (just like teenagers) as even six year olds like a bit of attention from their peers. It isn’t unusual or shocking or the sign of a ‘naughty’ child, but I wouldn’t be making excuses for them when they do it. They are much more aware of how to push boundaries than you expect.

He didn't ask for clarification. He erroneously corrected the teacher.

This wasn't smart-arse cheeky backchat from an adolescent, this was a child of 6 confused about whether being in pain or injured were the same thing or not, and asking for clarification. A not unreasonable question from a kid that age.

Teacher was 100% out of order.

Don't think there's a single one who has defended shouting or losing temper.

Many who have said he was rude and disobedient and deserved to be told off.

His own mother can't grasp that he is being disobedient when he does exactly what he's been told not to do, and can't see that he's being rude when he talks back and tries to (erroneously) correct the teacher. So it's easy to see that he has been allowed to be cheeky and disobedient at home, and it probably does feel unfair to him to be pulled up on the same behaviour at school. So yeah, he's gonna cry snd say it's unfair when someone tells him off. He'll probably describe a simple telling off as being shouted and screamed at too.

Well, exactly. It isn’t a big crime for a child to be cheeky and it isn’t a big deal to be told off when that happens.

Little boy is silly (or a ‘bit cheeky’).
Little boy is told off.
Little boy doesn’t like being told off.
Little boy doesn’t disrupt the class again for a while.

Perfect solution for all in the classroom ! Tale as old as time and no big deal if the parents stop indulging their child’s outrage at being called out for poor behaviour. Help them to learn from it and don’t find ways to excuse it.

Ultimately, parents need to parent and stop the momma bear nonsense.The overreaction shows a need for resilience from both child and parent.
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I was addressing the posters who have defended shouting and losing their tempers. Also, those who say having a quiet word with a teacher would be a problem.

Wouldn't you want to know if a pupil of yours was crying at bedtime about what happened in your classroom?

Oooh big crime. Being a bit cheeky. Let’s yell at him.

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I get you and it is sad. Kids are being born with autism and adhd in record numbers though. Rather than deny that we need to be asking what the hell is going on that's causing it. I'm autistic so it's been going on for a long time although they say mine is genetic because it's part of a genetic disorder I have. I don't believe for a second it's innocent. Nor do I believe it's a gift. It's an infliction and I for one want to know why kids are being born to suffer. Something big will come out sooner or later. Sorry I wandered off on a tangent there. I just adore kids and see their little struggles and things for what they are, their limited understanding and capabilities due to their level of development. Too many people are nasty about them and say they're being bad. Maybe older kids but not little ones under 10.

I'm afraid it is cheeky.
If your friend said it, you might ask for clarification. However, he was interrupting in class.

I'll have your guts for garters i was told off one teacher in junior school. I didn't understand wtf she meant?!

Thoughts and prayers.

Exactly. Children also cry for different reasons - part of going to school is getting used to being 'told off' by other adults in authority.

I can see why some people may find that a bit cheeky, but it’s definitely not something worthy of being shouted at for. Teachers shouldn’t be shouting at pupils at all IMO.

Plenty of teachers on this thread have also said that the likelihood of the teacher actually shouting at a 6yo as opposed to talking firmly or sternly, is very, very unlikely. But it is common for children to report it as shouting if they've never been pulled up on their behaviour before.

I'm so sorry your dear Son experienced this 😢God bless him & you
You know your own Son & he couldn't fake this amount of upset distress & tears 😳😔It's heartbreaking 💔
Small wonder our Beloved Children can suffer with school refusal & avoidance
I'm so reassured your dear Son can open up to his lovely understanding Mum so well
This is a huge part of the battle overcome
I'm praying for the utmost very best for You&Yours 💚

Late to the party, but agree with others that his back chat was an issue. He needs to learn to be quiet and not question every single comment.

Yes exactly 😢

I would speak to the teacher. He’s obviously been really upset by her shouting. She shouldn’t be shouting at a child age 6/7. I know teachers are under a lot of pressure but shouting won’t achieve anything.You could explain he’s been really upset. He could be overreacting but I would still want some clarity on what actually happened.
Hope you manage to reassure him. We all want our children to enjoy school not become anxious.

Retired teacher here.
Your post is so relevant and believe me, until you've been in a classroom with 30 children of mixed ability and as you said working with a small group, you have no idea what it's like to be constantly interrupted.........I need a rubber, he's giving me dirty looks, I can't find a sharpener etc etc etc.

If the teacher shouted to loud and in a scary way then no, it's not appropriate he's only 6! However before summer break it might have been a younger environment where children were less manageable, now he needs to know what is acceptable. Perhaps he was being mischievous. So he has to learn now that's not acceptable in lessons. But it's not good that a teacher shouted at him. A lower tone and a shh would be good!

I would be surprised if every teacher felt the same. Anyway, it is a free market - find a school where the teaching suits your parenting style, I suppose. Personally, I would be looking for a school where poor behaviour is stopped in its tracks. Each to their own!

Is shouting at a six year old child until they cry the only way to stop low-level disruption?

Other teachers on this thread disagree.

It’s a job most teachers take very seriously. Low level disruption stops learning. Teachers (should) stop low level disruption so all children can learn. If one little boy who has been a little bit silly is stopped in his tracks, all children will find it easier to learn, including him. A minor incident and one which does not need all this woe. He will get over it like countless children before him. In the words of the song, let it go.

If teachers cannot handle these situations without losing their temper, it's probably best they leave.

It's a job, not a prison sentence.

But it wasn't an interesting point, it was incorrect nonsense said to try to get one up in the teacher. And in any case, he'd been told not to talk, and so he was being wilfully disobedient. He needed to be pulled up on his bad behaviour.

Of course, screaming and screaming at him would be inappropriate, but I think it's exceptionally unlikely that happened.

Most likely he got an age appropriate telling off. The fact that his DM can't recognise disobedience or back chat as poor behaviour suggests that he has previously be able to get away with bad behaviour unchecked. So to him it might seem unfair that bad behaviour his mum lovingly indulges gets him into trouble at school. But his behaviour was very poor, and he needed pulling up on it.