Is this rude from a child? Age 6, furious reaction from teacher

That’s a horrible thing for a teacher to say to such young kids. I completely get why at age 6 he said that in response as I was the same as a young child and was punished in school and at home for being literal in response, the snide term precocious was used. When I was 6 in primary school I was taken out of my class line after coming out of assembly. Apparently I’d been “talking” after we were told to be quiet. I technically had because I’d shushed another child to make them stop talking. I was asked “Do you have anything to say for yourself?” I said no. I’d never heard that phrase from anyone before so I didn’t understand why the teacher got even more angry with me when I said no. Teachers need to bloody understand where young kids are coming from when they make what the adult thinks is a mistake in speaking. I hope your DS is okay, he did nothing wrong!

There isn’t a six year old on the planet that I would trust to tell the exact truth of what happened. Another parent not understanding that kids don’t always tell the whole story or get some of it wrong.

And yeah being a know it all to a teacher is rude.

Smart arse has always been a negative regardless who it is aimed at.

Personally at 6 yo, I don't think he was being rude. To me it actually shows he's an intelligent child and noticing language usage vs meaning. (Although he was a little off the mark) Unless a child is being a danger or in danger I don't think teachers should be shouting at all. It's unprofessional. Also, it undermines the teacher who was giving the instruction if another stepped in and got involved. It's just poor form.

I would be speaking to the school. Whatever is happening it isclearly effecting his self confidence and causing him to be unhappy and anxious.

At 6 they are still so young and don't have the maturity yet to understand the full scenario of whatever had played out to lead up to the shouting. Also, pushing boundaries is part of learning and a huge milestone for children to overcome. Learning when and how not to push is also very important. But this sounds like it's damaged his framework for that and self confidence.

I think you need to talk to the teacher OP. I can also understand how a six year old might want clarification on words he thinks have the same meaning - ironically, maybe because he wanted to ensure he complied with the teacher’s wishes. I think despite something feeling very off to you, you’re trying to keep an open mind - I have no idea why that has triggered the living daylights out of some of the posters on here.

People are being ridiculous here !
If his version of events are to be believed he wasn’t being rude, it was a valid question . He even put his hand up ffs!
I’d ask Teacher for her version and to explain what actually happened to make DS so upset . Only when you’ve heard both sides can you decide what action to take

Obviously you can't know for sure what happened but I do think at that age children can take things literally and don't think they're answering back. I think you can control the classroom without making children cry.

Not in my school it isn’t. Our head makes it absolutely clear that shouting at children is not acceptable.

The first time a teacher yelled at DS was the last. I spoke to her about it and she said "yes I did it and I would do it again" and I immediately deregistered him and have home educated him ever since.
Children should be safe at school and there shouldn't be any verbal abuse.

On a different subject when did it become acceptable to call young children smart arses in a negative way? Surely that implies it is bad if children are smart/intelligent?

Teachers shouldn’t be shouting at 6 year olds & even if they didn’t actually shout they made him cry and that’s unacceptable. He wasn’t trying to be cheeky poor kid & even if he was it’s an over reaction to make him cry.

Oh grow a pair. Shocked to your core at seeing a teacher shout at a child. Whatever next.
Shocked to your core if you accidentally walked into Auschwitz or Buchenwald maybe….
Diont be so dramatic

A 6 year old being a bit rude is not being spoken to like shit.
I’ve managed to deal with the year 6s I’ve worked with for several years without having a shouty rant at a child, because my behaviour management skills are better than that.

Well then she should have said that. Far better to say what you actually mean.

I know teachers have to enforce class discipline, and yes on the face of it your son's comment sounded like answering back (even if he didn't mean it that way) but I do think a gentle touch is required when they are so little. Not everyone is cut out for teaching the early years in my opinion. I'm sorry your little guy is having a tough year.

Sounds like the other teacher thought he was trying to 'show his teacher up' so to speak.

Injury is damage, pain is an alarm signal, they're often linked but they aren't actually the same thing. A lot of people make this assumption though and the teacher could have taken the opportunity to explain that but looks like they didn't bother and just told the child off.

Teachers should not be shouting at six year olds! It is a completely accepted culture amongst school staff that children get screamed at, it is shocking. I saw it when I volunteered in my child’s school that seemed otherwise a very passive and warm environment - children stepping out of line and being screamed at until they cried. It shocked me to my core.

There is nought wrong with children sitting in silence in a classroom. Don’t you ever remember your teacher demanding quiet while they speak or quiet while the children work?
You must have a short memory.
Come on Op. Your child was cheeky and he got told off. This should be the end of it. If you go in all guns blazing you undermine the authority of the teacher.
Too many parents have too many things to say to teachers these days. Just let them get on with their job of educating and disciplining children.

The teacher over reacted and fgs, they should not shout. It’s not professional, especially with little ones.

There is no suggestion that the child is nd. I'm sure the op would have mentioned it if he was.

He took it literally as many kids with asd would also do. The teacher was being the arse. He is 6.

Yes, it was rude. And deliberately disobeying as it was clearly not a time for an exploratory chat. I don't think any teacher should be shouting though, especially at someone so wee.

Who told you the teacher screamed at him for 2 minutes?

How do you know if it was screaming and ranting or just a firm tone?

Can you imagine a whole group of children putting their hands up and questioning it?

Pain and injury are not the same thing - so your son was wrong,

Yes, 6 year olds can sit in silence for a short time it is not beyond them and frankly should be encouraged.

You have not spoken to the teacher, you are unreasonable.

Mine was born like that but saved it for home. Mostly. I hope.

Oh. So teachers are supposed to put up with people speaking to them like shit all day? No wonder they are leaving in droves.