Is this rude from a child? Age 6, furious reaction from teacher

Seriously? This has got to be a wind up!

Try working for the NHS ! I get shouted at by fully comprehensive adults on a daily basis for less pay !! Get over it

I'm surprised by all the responses saying the child was cheeky / rude / back-chatting / a know-it-all. It's exactly the sort of thing my 6yo would have said, just because he's very literal. No ASD or SEN (that I know of), but he's very literal and gets hung up on things being said very precisely. Any ambiguity or redundancy is really confusing for him. DH is exactly the same. I think that's just the way some people's minds work - they're not being rude; at least on DS and DH's case, they're trying to understand what you mean and why you've said it the way you have. It's very annoying sometimes, but it's innocently done.

He’s 6!!! He’s not back chatting the teacher ffs he was trying to understand in his head why the teacher said what she said

Of course he was in the wrong. It’s back chat to a teacher who’s just given explicit instructions. It was cheeky smart arse behaviour.

Difficult age to tell - for some 6yo's it would be cheeky but for others it could be just them clarifying their understanding. Given how upset he was I'd go with the latter in this case (a deliberately cheeky child generally expects a telling off!)

Definitely ask for teachers perspective of what happened, and explain how upset he was. If he's a very literal thinker that regularly needs clarification, there may be additional needs there that they should be aware of x

That’s what I thought too until I started volunteering, what an eye opener that was

He is 6, I have a very strong willed 6 year old and dealing with her in this manner will not work, it's been tried and tested. I feel it's a bit excessive if I'm honest. And at that age are they really able to regulate when they open their mouth etc ? I wish mine could but unfortunately she can't. They are all different, not one for suits all. Diversity is a thing (or should be)

I can imagine my son would say a similar thing but not as smart arse. Just matter of factly and would be happy with an explanatio n that no, it is not similar becuase..
It sounds like a teacher who is used to an older year group perhaps.
Sometimes as well some kids just do not get on with particular teachers.
My eldest is in secondary and if he has a teaxher who gets him he is good, gets really high grades and no detentions. He has a couple of teachers who for some reason they dont get it each other and he is a different child altogether. His school will move them if they arent gettingbon with a teacher. Not as easy in primary, but I would get to the bottom of it with the teacher and ask for a meeting.

Because he’s 6! 6 years olds shouldn’t be taught to sit in silence, I hate to think what school encourages this! My daughters doesn’t

I disagree. If his version of events is to be believed, he was being cheeky.

Teacher of teenagers here and I see the same thing frequently. Some children will often comment that an adult is ‘shouting at’ them when they’re just using a firm tone. I think these children are often not used to boundaries being set at home. I also think that some are aware that the days of it being accepted when teachers really, genuinely lost their rag are over and the accusation of ‘shouting’ when it really isn’t can be used to wrong foot or deflect from their own behaviour. The latter one wouldn’t be common with smaller children, though, I wouldn’t have thought. It’s more of a teenage tactic.

OP, as others have said, keep an eye out for possible neurodivergent traits. I can imagine this comment being made rudely or with a genuine lack of awareness. Also, do speak to the teacher - it will probably be helpful.

His comment is a bit cheeky but it sounds like an over reaction from the teacher to continue shouting after he's apologised. I have a 5 year old and he might say something like this thinking it's funny, no need to be so harsh on them. Definitely speak to the teacher to get her account on it.

You probably know that there is a big change from reception to year one. There is an equally big change from year one to year two. They will be having SATS at the end of year two. Things can start to feel very different.
Maybe on this day what may have otherwise been a bit amusing was just said at the wrong time when they had just been given an instruction. He literally did what they had just been asked not to do. Imagine that x 30 - can be very disruptive

Yes 6 year olds are often smart arses

Unless they are taught some manners.

Sorry OP but he was being cheeky.

So you prefer your child to spend all lesson fussing about a pencil than the teacher telling him to do some work. Oh the snowflakes....imagine a poor child being told to get on and work. It doesn't go in via osmosis. Kids have to work to learn.

Yes 6 year olds are often smart arses.

Yes he was being rude and a smartarse. He really didn’t need to open his mouth at that point so next time maybe he will do as he’s told and be quiet? Is he not used to being told what to do or following instructions?

A smart arse at age 6 though ?

Yes I think it is rude, derogatory and offensive and would never use it either to another adult and definitely not a child.

I would ask the teacher for their account and express concern about the tone of conversations

Would flip my lid immediately, I've suffered anxiety in numerous settings and it's not nice. No teacher would make my child feel like that at school, I would definitely

speak up and clarify the situation.

He was a smart arse and you should talk to him about that because it wasn’t an appropriate remark and it was rude… But he’s 6! They should have age appropriate behavioural management methods and shouting certainly isn’t one of them.

Get the teachers version, but if raised voices were used in a classroom setting then I’d be unhappy with that. He’s 6.

and the teacher could have taken the opportunity to explain that but looks like they didn't bother and just told the child off

The teachers instruction was to be quiet - why should she waste more time giving the child more info?

Maybe his parents could teach him some manners?

You quite often see only children think they are the centre of the universe - parents used to tell us to shut up when others are talking particularly adults.

Some kids got the skipper or cane - yet this hoo ha over being told off!

OP by all means go and demand an explanation or explain to your child he was rude.

He’s probably not getting his own way at school hence the dislike of the teacher.