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To fucking cry about this

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Fedup19473 · 27/09/2025 23:36

Hi,

i know posts like this sometimes get accused of being a troll- I’m not, I’m a long time poster but I’ve namechanged for obvious reasons.

possible TMI as I’m talking about female issues but I could honestly sob I’m so down about this all. Sorry for swearing in the title but tbh it sums up perfectly how I feel

I’ve had issues with vaginal discharge for a while and after another particularly bad day of it I actually feel like I’m at my wits end and could burst into tears. It’s quite literally ruining my life. I’ve always had issues with it but recently it’s changed - it used to be normals/whiteish etc but just a lot of it, but over the last few months it’s changed- I’m getting more of the white discharge and an insane amount of other discharge- it’s so watery that it’s soaking my underwear and trousers. I work in retail and today at work I suddenly realised I had a huge patch of discharge which had soaked through my trousers and left a patch probably around 6cm by 6cm. It was the worst shift of my life trying to hide it. I didn’t even realise at the time it had happened which is what scares me most because I can’t tell until I see it on my own trousers.

I don’t know why this is happening. It’s not pregnancy or STI ( I’ve never had sex), I’m in my mid 20s and when I went to the doctor before they said it’s normal. I understand that it can be normal, and previously I was getting a lot of white discharge so that’s normal for me- but now there’s significantly more and to the point I regularly look like I’ve peed myself. I’ve had hormone blood tests which were fine and now I’ve just been left to get on with it and frankly I could fucking cry about it

I tried tampons but I’d basically have to wear tampons everyday which isn’t great, and same with sanitary towels because it dries my skin. But the other alternative is I’m walking about looking like I’ve peed myself without realising

has anyone else ever had this and have any clue wtf it could be? Google says pregnancy or STI which it’s not, and my hormones are fine, but I just don’t feel like this is right and my friends the same age as me don’t get this. Otherwise I’m fine apart from bleeding in between periods but the doctor wasn’t concerned about that- it started a few months ago and only happened a few times, but I don’t get any cramps or pain so they said it’s fine

if anyone knows what tf this could be and how I can fix it I would be so so grateful

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AutumnCosy2025 · 27/09/2025 23:53

Skip your GO & go to either a sexual health clinic (cheaper & you don't have to be sexually active to go to one) or a women's health clinic.

it's not normal, it's affecting your quality of life & you don't have to just put up with it.

Neweverything25 · 27/09/2025 23:52

I also need period pants for clear discharge at certain times outside my period but it is not constant. I hope you can get it resolved!

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Fedup19473 · 27/09/2025 23:51

frostybritches · 27/09/2025 23:47

Is it constant or at certain times of the month? I get a lot of clear discharge before and during ovulation, usually lasts about a week and sometimes feels like another period in terms of volume and pain!

I second period pants or reusable pads to deal with embarrassing leaks and speak to your GP again.

It’s pretty much constant now. It used to be I would have a lot of white discharge directly before my period and that was normal for me, but this is totally different and it’s all the time. It’s basically like I’ve peed myself constantly

thanks- I’ll get some period underwear

Being a women is fucking brutal sometimes

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Allthatshines1992 · 27/09/2025 23:50

dontblameme · 27/09/2025 23:42

How about period pants? They're comfortable and absorbent, maybe wouldn't irritate you like pads?

TENA lady pants. Totally different to pads.

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Fedup19473 · 27/09/2025 23:49

Yellowrose225588 · 27/09/2025 23:45

Can you go to a local sexual health centre (you don’t have to be sexually active to attend)? They are usually very digitally accessible and have online booking systems and walk in options. Just google your nearest. This is absolutely their bread and butter. Have you had swabs? Has anyone examined you? Could be bacterial vaginosis. In the meantime maybe consider period pants as they will deal with the embarrassment side of it without the discomfort from using standard period products. But do please get seen again because it’s clearly very hard for you. Not sure if you saw a female doctor but that might be something to consider - I feel like a man just wouldn’t get this, doctor or not.

Ohh I didn’t realise you could go to that if you weren’t sexually active, I assumed it was just for STIs. I’m going to have a look and see what’s near me, thank you!

yeah I’m gonna get some period underwear or a mooncup to use in the meantime. I’m just so upset and fed up with it all and I’m upset I’m even having to do it and that this is happening to me but frankly I cannot have another day like today at work because it was awful

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GloryFades · 27/09/2025 23:48

Period pants and/or moon cup, and go back to your doctor and insist it’s not normal and that you want a referral to gynae as it is impacting your mental health and ability to work.

And can you wear dark pants for work? After a lifetime of light periods I now frequently bleed through a moon cup/tampon and period pants in a few hours. It’s miserable but manageable by wearing black trousers - but it’s only a couple of days a month for me so easier to deal with.

Yellowrose225588 · 27/09/2025 23:47

Fedup19473 · 27/09/2025 23:46

Nah they didn’t, just said it’s normal for some women to get it mid cycle and that my bloods were fine

Thanks so much! I actually picked up a self test for thrush and bv and both were negative. I went to the pharmacy anyway and was given treatment for thrush anyway (I’ve had that before and this didn’t feel like it but still figured it was worth a try) but unfortunately it’s not got better x

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Wouldn’t rely on the self test OP - go and get a proper test done at the sexual health clinic they’re really good at it

frostybritches · 27/09/2025 23:47

Is it constant or at certain times of the month? I get a lot of clear discharge before and during ovulation, usually lasts about a week and sometimes feels like another period in terms of volume and pain!

I second period pants or reusable pads to deal with embarrassing leaks and speak to your GP again.

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Fedup19473 · 27/09/2025 23:46

miserableandworried · 27/09/2025 23:42

Hi op. When you had the appointment for the mid cycle bleeding, did the dr send you for any additional tests with gyno? He should have done really, as mid cycle bleeding needs investigating. Probably nothing sinister as you’re a virgin, but worth a look.

Anyway, re the discharge, I did suffer with this in my late teens/early twenties and it was diagnosed as BV. You can get a wee test from boots that will give you an indication if you have BV. If you do, it’s just a a case of antibiotics and it’s gone.

Nah they didn’t, just said it’s normal for some women to get it mid cycle and that my bloods were fine

Thanks so much! I actually picked up a self test for thrush and bv and both were negative. I went to the pharmacy anyway and was given treatment for thrush anyway (I’ve had that before and this didn’t feel like it but still figured it was worth a try) but unfortunately it’s not got better x

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Yellowrose225588 · 27/09/2025 23:45

Can you go to a local sexual health centre (you don’t have to be sexually active to attend)? They are usually very digitally accessible and have online booking systems and walk in options. Just google your nearest. This is absolutely their bread and butter. Have you had swabs? Has anyone examined you? Could be bacterial vaginosis. In the meantime maybe consider period pants as they will deal with the embarrassment side of it without the discomfort from using standard period products. But do please get seen again because it’s clearly very hard for you. Not sure if you saw a female doctor but that might be something to consider - I feel like a man just wouldn’t get this, doctor or not.

Midlofe · 27/09/2025 23:45

Second period pants

Ollybob · 27/09/2025 23:44

Have you tried a mooncup?
This does need further investigation but may help in the meantime as won't dry you out and can be worn for longer.
Solidarity with the long retail shifts, going to the loo is not simple in that environment!

dontblameme · 27/09/2025 23:42

How about period pants? They're comfortable and absorbent, maybe wouldn't irritate you like pads?

miserableandworried · 27/09/2025 23:42

Hi op. When you had the appointment for the mid cycle bleeding, did the dr send you for any additional tests with gyno? He should have done really, as mid cycle bleeding needs investigating. Probably nothing sinister as you’re a virgin, but worth a look.

Anyway, re the discharge, I did suffer with this in my late teens/early twenties and it was diagnosed as BV. You can get a wee test from boots that will give you an indication if you have BV. If you do, it’s just a a case of antibiotics and it’s gone.

Smoothwater · 27/09/2025 23:42

Yes my friend had this. It was an infection and antibiotics cleared it up and it went away quickly. Speak to your gp! It could be so easy to solve.

MustTryHarderAndHarder · 27/09/2025 23:40

Bumping for you. Hopefully someone will be able to help as it sounds awful. You poor thing.

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