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to think we're all being manipulated

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newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 09:51

I'm going to get flamed by reform voters here, and I think it'll come off as thinking I'm smarter than everyone but I genuinely don't, which is why I'm so confused by this.

To me, it is incredibly obvious that we are being completely manipulated by politicians and the media. They want us to blame immigrants and people who claim benefits for their failing to run the country properly. And it's worked.

I don't think we should have unregulated immigration, there are issues that need to be addressed. But there's a difference between sensibly discussing immigration from an economic point, and the nasty hate and vitriol that's everywhere now. It is what they WANT. As long as we're fighting amongst ourselves, no one is looking up at the people with the real power and money.

One example, newspapers describing immigrants as 'fighting age men'. 'Fighting' is not an age. Young men could also be fit, healthy, and able to work and contribute. They say 'fighting age' to scaremonger and promote anti immigrant rhetoric, and it works as people parrot the line.

It's always been the way that the ruling class look for ways to keep the masses infighting. Honestly I lose respect at anyone that falls for it. I don't get how it isn't so obvious to others, how can you not see you're being played?

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RightOrLeft · 25/09/2025 19:50

Nestingbirds · 25/09/2025 19:22

You are also being manipulated to be believe the social experiment being conducted in the west is actually going to work. Actually no one knows what the outcome of mass migration will be. It’s never happened on this magnitude.

If you consider the country back in 1970 and you look at it now, it’s barely recognisable. Back then most people went to church. We knew all of our neighbours well enough to call them friends. We cooked everything from scratch with everything grown here. Shared values were a given and life had a simplicity about it that is hard to recreate, I am personally horrified by the loss of so much. This subject is far bigger and broader - with such depth.

The politicians appear to be manipulating at both ends of the spectrum. I doubt they will be able to keep a lid on the truth for much longer. The dam is already about to burst - but not for the reasons you state.

I agree. The distrust of msm, of which ever political bent and I absolutely include the guardian in this, has lead to an erosion in public confidence on an unprecedented scale. People are seeking " the truth" for themselves, aided by independent media sources. I didn't believe asylum seekers were being housed in 4* accommodation until I watched some undercover reporters showing me I was very wrong. So, yes Op you ARE right in that we have been manipulated, but I do believe the majority have now woken up; where that will take us is anyone's guess.

Nestingbirds · 25/09/2025 19:22

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 18:32

This is so interesting, I really appreciate you sharing. You're right, we don't know what we don't know. I think this is a good place to tie up the thread 😊

You are also being manipulated to be believe the social experiment being conducted in the west is actually going to work. Actually no one knows what the outcome of mass migration will be. It’s never happened on this magnitude.

If you consider the country back in 1970 and you look at it now, it’s barely recognisable. Back then most people went to church. We knew all of our neighbours well enough to call them friends. We cooked everything from scratch with everything grown here. Shared values were a given and life had a simplicity about it that is hard to recreate, I am personally horrified by the loss of so much. This subject is far bigger and broader - with such depth.

The politicians appear to be manipulating at both ends of the spectrum. I doubt they will be able to keep a lid on the truth for much longer. The dam is already about to burst - but not for the reasons you state.

NatalieW1907 · 25/09/2025 18:59

I totally agree with you and have done for years. The government's have been manipulating it's hard to trust any of them. Well said glad someone else can see, but we are not alone in thinking this.

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 18:32

OriginalUsername2 · 25/09/2025 18:16

I think my experience of covid and lockdowns eroded any blind trust I had in media and politicians and that sent me off to start looking to see how the world really works and asking questions. It suppose it was easier to spot the patterns when literally nothing else was happening.

Then all this pointing at people on benefits ramped up and I wondered how we got to this point of blaming the weakest. I ended up looking into the history of work and social class from the beginning of human time and made my way through it to now (gradually and going off on many tangents) and that’s what made everything make sense.

You don’t know what you don’t know, right up until you do know. It’s not like we’re taught this stuff - that’s the point.

This is so interesting, I really appreciate you sharing. You're right, we don't know what we don't know. I think this is a good place to tie up the thread 😊

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Candlemascandy · 25/09/2025 18:30

BundleBoogie · 25/09/2025 16:39

So you think we’re all being conned rather than understanding that none of these things will be improved by letting large numbers of people in who also want the scarce resources and in many cases they will be made worse.

In some areas people are being badly affected in their day to day life by these men. Some women and girls have had their lives changed forever by being raped or sexually assaulted by some of these men. At least one woman has been murdered by one of these men.

It feels like a bit of a luxury belief to dismiss the real effects of the current situation as just us all being ‘conned’

There are thousands of women whose lives are changed by rapes, sexual and physical assaults by men who aren’t ‘illegal’ immigrants. In the majority of cases, they aren’t even strangers. The line of argument that says the only assault we should be shouting about is the threat posed by immigrants in asylum seeker hotels does not stack up.
plus you are also making the assumption that no immigrant contributes to the system. Evidence shows that those who are permitted to work put in more in tax and NI than they take out.
It’s not a luxury to believe the data over the rhetoric.

OriginalUsername2 · 25/09/2025 18:16

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 14:51

You mean, you were being manipulated but you didn't realise, but now you see it? If so I'd be so interested to hear about that and what opened your eyes to it

I think my experience of covid and lockdowns eroded any blind trust I had in media and politicians and that sent me off to start looking to see how the world really works and asking questions. It suppose it was easier to spot the patterns when literally nothing else was happening.

Then all this pointing at people on benefits ramped up and I wondered how we got to this point of blaming the weakest. I ended up looking into the history of work and social class from the beginning of human time and made my way through it to now (gradually and going off on many tangents) and that’s what made everything make sense.

You don’t know what you don’t know, right up until you do know. It’s not like we’re taught this stuff - that’s the point.

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 18:09

SeaAndStars · 25/09/2025 17:58

The OP didn't accuse anyone of being stupid. She pointed out that we're all being manipulated.

I might be wrong, but I don't think she was intending to counteract the propaganda merely start a discussion about it existing and how damaging it is to our society.

Most people, including OP, agree that unlimited immigration isn't going to work for this country (or any country). We are agreeing so why are we arguing rather than uniting and finding sensible solutions?

Thanks, this is exactly it. From the way some people have responded, you'd think I said 'immigration isn't a problem at all and anyone who thinks it is is just a stupid racist thicko'

I was actually quite careful to say that there are issues with immigration and not to really say where I stand on it. Because the issue of immigration itself wasn't the point of the thread

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newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 18:02

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:54

I know you are not keen but it does seem skewed.

Well I do see it more often in anti-immigrant sentiment. But someone said upthread they saw someone post a meme representing reform voters as an overweight, sunburned, balding man holding a st george flag and a beer, or something to that effect. Insulting stereotypes from the left is the same, contributes nothing and encourages infighting.

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SeaAndStars · 25/09/2025 17:58

Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 17:34

A proper conversation would surely be to provide facts and figures to give the correct information to counteract the propaganda.
Surely starting a thread aren’t people stupid to believe the media just gets people’s back up?

The OP didn't accuse anyone of being stupid. She pointed out that we're all being manipulated.

I might be wrong, but I don't think she was intending to counteract the propaganda merely start a discussion about it existing and how damaging it is to our society.

Most people, including OP, agree that unlimited immigration isn't going to work for this country (or any country). We are agreeing so why are we arguing rather than uniting and finding sensible solutions?

Underthinker · 25/09/2025 17:54

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:46

I'm not sure why you need another example, my thread wasn't really designed to explain it to people who don't see the manipulation and I'm not prepared to do that.

Nor sure why you asked specifically about the left though, it's not about left vs right and i never say it is. The people in power don't care left or right. They just want to keep everyone fighting and promote hatefulness and arguing in place of actual discussion.

They just want to keep everyone fighting and promote hatefulness and arguing in place of actual discussion.

If that were true I'd say you were helping them by implying that everyone anti immigration is gullible.

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:54

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:46

I'm not sure why you need another example, my thread wasn't really designed to explain it to people who don't see the manipulation and I'm not prepared to do that.

Nor sure why you asked specifically about the left though, it's not about left vs right and i never say it is. The people in power don't care left or right. They just want to keep everyone fighting and promote hatefulness and arguing in place of actual discussion.

I know you are not keen but it does seem skewed.

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:50

Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 17:34

A proper conversation would surely be to provide facts and figures to give the correct information to counteract the propaganda.
Surely starting a thread aren’t people stupid to believe the media just gets people’s back up?

Actually it seems like most people agree that the media and politicians are manipulating people. Even people who agree immigration is a pressing issue can see the rhetoric is vitriolic which does no one any good. People have replied with things like 'yes obviously, you're not saying anything new here' which is my point exactly. It should be obvious so why do people fall for it?

So I would say that if you read my OP and got defensive or it got your back up, I'd question why that is.

I even state in a reply upthread that I'm being manipulated, we all are to an extent. It shouldn't make you feel defensive - if you can see it, then I'm not talking about you am I?

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newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:46

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:33

Yes you said ‘fighting age males’. Is there something else that you think the left use to manipulate around immigration?

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I'm not sure why you need another example, my thread wasn't really designed to explain it to people who don't see the manipulation and I'm not prepared to do that.

Nor sure why you asked specifically about the left though, it's not about left vs right and i never say it is. The people in power don't care left or right. They just want to keep everyone fighting and promote hatefulness and arguing in place of actual discussion.

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Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 17:34

SeaAndStars · 25/09/2025 16:06

The poster to whom I replied wasn't asking about solutions. They said OP had no problem with mass immigration and OP had made it clear that wasn't the case.

OP also said, "I think it'll come off as thinking I'm smarter than everyone but I genuinely don't" which sort of makes me wonder why you think she believes she's superior.

It's this kind of nit picking and misinterpretation that causes division and stops a proper conversation.

A proper conversation would surely be to provide facts and figures to give the correct information to counteract the propaganda.
Surely starting a thread aren’t people stupid to believe the media just gets people’s back up?

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:33

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:26

I gave one in my OP, did you not read it?

I stated in my OP that there are issues around immigration that need addressing (I didn't specify which) but that we are being manipulated into hateful rhetoric and infighting which makes actual discussion difficult.

Yes you said ‘fighting age males’. Is there something else that you think the left use to manipulate around immigration?

Fairyliz · 25/09/2025 17:31

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 14:56

The point of my thread isn't to provide solutions to immigration issues, it's to discuss the division and hostility surrounding them. Don't sneer at me because you missed the point of my thread. This is an example of the nastiness I'm talking about.

Oh the irony. You start a thread about how stupid people are to fall for the propaganda and I’m the nasty one.

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:26

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:15

What’s an example of manipulation from the other side to your op in your view?

I gave one in my OP, did you not read it?

I stated in my OP that there are issues around immigration that need addressing (I didn't specify which) but that we are being manipulated into hateful rhetoric and infighting which makes actual discussion difficult.

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AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 25/09/2025 17:20

Oaktopus · 25/09/2025 14:23

I don't and I am definitely NOT unusual. It's likely that despite the recent migration waves there are probably more ethnically British people alive than at any point in history. Our population was after all a lot smaller at the height of empire.
I do wonder why so many today try to deconstruct the British, and also British culture generally?

Define "immigrant", and define "ethnically British". Because if none of your ancestors was either Saxon or Norman you may be right to state categorically that you don't have at least one immigrant in your ancestry, but I'd say the chances of that being the case are so close to nil as to make no nevermind. And if you're right and none of them were either of that lot, what odds on a Dane or two somewhere in there? Possibly a Roman – or somebody from one of the many other nations whom they scooped up into their legions and stationed in Britain?

One of the great points about the British has always been their mongrel nature.

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 17:15

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:04

I'm not saying anyone is stupid. I specifically said that there are issues around immigration that needs to be discussed. I'm saying that the hatefulness and nasty infighting is a deliberate manipulation. I feel like I made this quite obvious but many people have read it and become incredibly defensive and/or completely misunderstood

What’s an example of manipulation from the other side to your op in your view?

AskingQuestionsAllTheTime · 25/09/2025 17:12

Nestingbirds
Denying the statistical fact that tens of millions have indeed arrived here in the last decade or two, as being completely irrelevant sounds like insanity to me.

"Tens of millions" means at least twenty million. That's a million a year for the last two decades.

I would very much like to see the evidence for this figure; I can find no year since 2000 in which over a million people immigrated into the UK. Net immigration in most of those years has been in the lower half of the hundred thousands. As a result, "tens of millions" sounds decidedly hyperbolic rather than statistically factual or simply factual.

Are you perhaps counting arrivals such students, and failing to notice their departure when they go home again after their three-year degree courses? Tourists "arrive", but they also leave. And so on.

Just so you know where I went for my figures, Statistica, using UKGov figures, gives the following figures for net immigration, rounded up to the nearest thousand:
year ending June 2000: 158,000
year ending June 2001: 171,000
year ending June 2002: 153,000
year ending June 2003: 148,000
year ending June 2004: 245,000
year ending June 2005: 206,000
year ending June 2006: 198,000
year ending June 2007: 233,000
year ending June 2008: 163,000
year ending June 2009: 229,000
year ending June 2010: 256,000
year ending June 2011: 249,000
year ending June 2012: 161,000
year ending June 2013: 208,000
year ending June 2014: 309,000
year ending June 2015: 329,000
year ending June 2016: 252,000
year ending June 2017: 249,000
year ending June 2018: 276,000
year ending June 2019: 184,000
year ending June 2020: 93,000
year ending June 2021: 484,000
year ending June 2022: 872,000
year ending June 2023: 906,000
year ending June 2024: 431,000

Net total immigrants between June 1999 and June 2024: (fewer than) 7,063,000.

Statistica estimate a figure of 431,000 for net migration in the year from June 2024 to June 2025, but that figure is certain to have to be adjusted a bit. That will bring the net total migration this century up to somewhere in the region of seven and a half million, not tens of millions.

(By the way, the two highest years for net immigration so far were under the most recent Conservative government, and the numbers have fallen again now.)

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 17:04

Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 25/09/2025 16:59

Because you’re saying only one side is stupid.

I'm not saying anyone is stupid. I specifically said that there are issues around immigration that needs to be discussed. I'm saying that the hatefulness and nasty infighting is a deliberate manipulation. I feel like I made this quite obvious but many people have read it and become incredibly defensive and/or completely misunderstood

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Thedevilhasfinallycaughtupwithhim · 25/09/2025 16:59

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 16:55

Uh nope, I'm saying it's so obvious that I wonder why it isn't obvious to others

Because you’re saying only one side is stupid.

EasternStandard · 25/09/2025 16:58

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 16:55

Uh nope, I'm saying it's so obvious that I wonder why it isn't obvious to others

Because you’ve only put one side? And it’s not just that.

newbluesofa · 25/09/2025 16:55

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 25/09/2025 16:46

And you've just realised that's how politics work 🙄
You aren't saying anything new here

Uh nope, I'm saying it's so obvious that I wonder why it isn't obvious to others

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Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 25/09/2025 16:46

And you've just realised that's how politics work 🙄
You aren't saying anything new here