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To not apologise for partner feeling left out

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Itsmeeee888 · 21/09/2025 22:34

my partner and I can’t stop arguing over who is right here and I feel he is unreasonable and abusive over the way he acted ! Basically went to a friend of mines wedding so granted he knew no one there except my friend ( the groom from uni days ) so can understand he was a bit uncomfortable but I didn’t really know anyone either . Anyway , got talking to someone I had met 15 years ago as a teenager through the groom . My partner stood in the conversation and did make some small talk but obviously didn’t engage as much … even though I felt like I tried to include him . I got bored of the convo and went to toilet . Came out expecting him to stil be talking to the same person or at least still outside yet when I when outside the groom called me over so being polite I went over quickly to say hello and chat thinking my partner may have gone to the bar or toilet and would come find me . Then he comes over and makes up and emergency ( basically saying we need to leave ) I didn’t realise he was sitting opposite side of the room just watching me as I felt obligated to see my friend the groom etc … in the car on the way home ( he was drunk and me sober ) he screamed at me the whole hour and half way home saying how left out he felt and how I didn’t care about him etc etc ! Which is not true I was just trying to make convo and trying to get him to join in ! He then even opened the door mid motorway causing me to pull over !! I’m an extremely nervous motorway driver and suffer panic attacks and he knows this ! Finally stopped at traffic lights after him arguing with me and he just jumps out and legs it !! I drive off thinking to leave him calm down to then come back and he gets in the car refusing me to get out and listen to him arguing ! This argument is going over and over about how I’m wrong in leaving him out and not caring about his feelings and how I need to apologise but I completely refuse to apologise as I feel I’ve done nothing wrong !! Or have I ?? I knows it’s annoying listening to peoples convos but he completely over reacted in my opinion and he could have engaged more as it was more general chit chat about kids and life etc 😩

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Charredtea · 21/09/2025 22:42

He sounds mental. You could have killed someone or been killed. Absolutely terrifying. The wedding talk is a red herring here.
please focus on what happened on the road and get rid of him straight away. Involve the police if you have to

MathsMum3 · 21/09/2025 22:42

He sounds like a child. It was your friend's wedding, and she/he kindly invited your partner (or a plus one), but he threw his toys out of the pram and got a sulk on because he didn't know anyone, and you had the audacity to go to the loo and leave him on his own for a few minutes. Is that correct? Sounds like he needs to grow up and learn to behave like an adult.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 21/09/2025 22:42

I understand him struggling at the wedding if he doesn’t know anyone, but he could have sat in a quiet corner on his phone. His behaviour is really shocking. It reminds me of an abusive ex boyfriend of mine.

Neodymium · 21/09/2025 22:41

Demanding you leave and then screaming at you 🚩🚩🚩 dump him and don’t look back. That is abusive.
i had a boyfriend like that jealous and controlling it will only get worse.

DorothyStorm · 21/09/2025 22:41

Dump him immediately. He is a piece of shit. Then get some therapy. And do lots and lots of reading around healthy relationships.

MyLimeGuide · 21/09/2025 22:40

He sounds absolutely unhinged.

Beaniebobbins · 21/09/2025 22:39

The hills are that way love, you should be running for them.

you can talk for days about the etiquette of who should talk to who at a wedding and ten different people will have ten different options but that doesn’t matter. He’s screaming at you while you are trying to drive and opening car doors on the motorway. He sounds scary. I hope you are safe.

Itsanewlife · 21/09/2025 22:38

He sounds like an nasty and insecure man - and, I just couldn't stand all this horrendous drama!

Arlanymor · 21/09/2025 22:38

I’d be far more worried about about the traffic light stuff than anything.