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To really dislike neighbour & not want to help her?

30 replies

cauliflowerf · 12/09/2025 18:50

Since my next door neighbour moved in a year ago her and her kids have been nothing but a nuisance.

Firstly they would trespass onto my driveway, standing all over my plants, I had no privacy at all and had to spend money on big trellis planters to keep her kids off my driveway.

She has several cats that poo in my garden.
I have owned cats in the past and cat proofed my garden so my neighbours were not inconvenienced.

I have had to spend more money on fencing panels to block up the hedgehog holes, spikes things etc just to keep her cats away now.
Handyman is coming on Monday to sort it out as I have toddlers and OH is working away.

I am really annoyed that all I seem to do is spend money to keep her kids and pets of my property.

She often will ask if I can take her parcels in, I just refuse and don’t open the door.

She gets her gardener to come every 2 weeks and has to leave the back door open, she would usually give me a key to the back gate to give to him but I have now told her I am busy.

AIBU to feel so annoyed with her and not wanting to help her?

Neigbbour is well aware of the issues as I have previously mentioned them to her.

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LemonSqueezy0 · 12/09/2025 20:35

It's gross. I had a friend that used to chuck the cat poo back over the neighbours using a little garden shovel for that purpose. Soon sorted it out. I know that approach is not for everyone, but It makes it a them problem again, rather than a you problem. Entitled people don't care if you're inconvenienced.

cauliflowerf · 12/09/2025 20:25

Yes I have mentioned the issues to her.
I just hate that I have to keep spending money to keep her and her pets off my property.

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mumofoneAloneandwell · 12/09/2025 19:56

Have you ever mentioned any of the issues to her?

Coldnightsapproachingwhereismyduvet · 12/09/2025 18:58

Our ndn's haven't even moved in yet and we bloody hate them! Zero notice of 12 hour building work days. When we have a baby and a ddog with terminal cancer.. With some notice we could have made alternative arrangements for them.
We won't be being neighbourly ever.

Meadowfinch · 12/09/2025 18:55

YANBU Surely she's got the message by now that you don't want to be neighbourly, you just want to be left alone.

She must be fairly slow on the uptake if not.