To think most men are filthy losers

I really feel for you. God, the stories on this thread. It just goes to show.

Yep. The mansplaining MRAs can't seem to let that sink in. (Some) women don't loathe most men for no reason. If any women on here have never had ANY reason to dislike or resent men, they are very VERY fortunate, and I envy them.

I find typically that women who really resent and dislike (most) men are older (45-50+,) because by that age, you have put up with so much fucking shit from men, that it's hard to feel anything other than contempt for them.

We've all heard it before, but it bears repeating...

Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.

It'd be fantastic, but you'd probably need a bunch of filthy losers to put in all the infrastructure.

I would be first in the queue to join.

Yeah, but the flipside is greedy women on the take. There's a current thread in AIBU where the OP shares custody 50/50 with the father. She already gets both child benefit payments but has now decided to go for maintenance too having found out how much her ex-h is earning.

Custody is 50/50 and she admitted the father has had the kids for more days than her this year. He's put in a claim for child benefit (presumably to stop her presenting herself as the primary carer) and she's furiously indignant about it although he's done the majority of the childcare and never complained about her having both CB payments.

I see this shit from a lot of women. Even if marriage means assets are now shared, I think I'd feel grabby walking away with far more than I'd ever have earnt on my own.

One example from this entire site..... Would you now like to count up the number of examples of men behaving exactly as this thread describes? Actually, no - don't: no-one should have to spend three days doing that.

I agree. As the mother of a son it really concerns me. Both he and his father have done our damndest to raise him as a considerate member of society who doesn't view women as service humans or despise them simply for speaking or taking up space. We've tried to lead by that example and we don't hold with 'toxic masculinity' stereotypes or the 'boys will be boys' mentality.

But there's a caveat. Like most mothers I think my son is lovely. He's a kind, intelligent, empathetic child. My fear is that don't raise our kids in a vacuum. Given the way men are raised and socially conditioned, the influences he might be subjected to outside the home do worry me.

Disclaiming responsibility, thinking our own can do no wrong and refusing to see what's beyond the end of our noses will do nothing at all to help the situation. Parents all have a responsibility to raise our boys to be better men - it starts in childhood.

And no, it's not all men. But enough of them are like that to make life for women a real problem on a more-or-less daily basis. It is not being 'bigoted' to point out that fact.

@JHound the father has 50/50 custody & works. He also gives the Mum £1000/month so DD has same standard of living. The Mum gets child benefits, tax credit as well as this £1000 maintenance. So she’s not really given up her career as she only has 50% custody & has now moved the daughter out of her home. So I would support the father on this occasion.

I can see your point. But, I still think what you're describing is a man problem rather than a race problem. It's like Andrew Tate and his kind having sex with what he calls "cheap" women, but only marrying virgins. The men in your scenarios see European women or women on council estates to be the "slags". Probably because the women in their communities are "off-limits". Much like in the Christian comunities in America. Men take their daughters to those weird "wait-for-marriage" balls while getting up to all sorts of nasty stuff when nobody's looking. I think cultrally, maybe men abuse women in different ways. We've seen Pakistani men gang raping. It's happened. It's happening. It's disgusting on every level. But, in my family, my mother's uncle had sex with his daughter and granddaughter. A white man. We can't say that's any less disgusting. It's all a problem with men. They're just doing it in different ways. Pakistani men do not offend more per capita in the UK. Most sex crimes in the UK are comitted by individual, white men.

I think I was called racist somewhere on this thread because I said something about white people painting roundabouts in the UK. I said this as a white person from the UK. But, I meant that's what they call themselves. I'm sure there are people of different ethnic origins painting crosses on roundabouts, but to my mind, they're all thugs.

I believe that biological sex is real and that people can't change sex, by the way.

I also can't believe how many times I've been called a bigot. And even a racist. It's something I don't understand. I just don't really believe that we can be bigoted towards an oppressor. Or racist about white people. It just doesn't sound right to me.

The Oxford definition of racism is 'the belief that some races are superior to others and the resulting prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against someone of a different race'.

Most dictionaries just describe it as 'prejudice by an individual, community, or institution against a person or people on the basis of their membership of a particular racial or ethnic group'.

There's no implied hierarchy or special qualifiers to entry. It's literally discrimination on the basis of ethnicity or race. This idea that 'white people can't experience racism' is just a load of revisionist bollocks that's arisen amongst certain pseudo woke ideologies in the past few years alongside other bonkers claims like 'biological sex isn't real'.

Typically, it's accompanied by an overly simplistic view that posits white as privileged and non-white as oppressed. Like most class analysis this doesn't really work in reality. Take Rotherham as an example. The white working class girls from the care system had no power over the middle aged Pakistani men abusing them.

One man from the Newcastle gang said "All white women are only good for one thing — for men like me to fuck and use like trash.” This is an example of racism.

Also, look at the debauchery that happens in the middle east. You may have heard of 'porta potty parties'. It's when rich Arab men pay white western sex workers (often Eastern European) to fly out and debase themselves for money. The nickname is a reference to how the men literally urinate and defecate over these women - use them as porta potties. Apparently, it's preferred that the woman has an Instagram presence. I'm guessing that this just adds to the thrill of humiliating a western women.

I'm not really sure white privilege exists in this case when we're taking about mega rich Arabs and impoverished Eastern European models/sex workers. There was a story recently about a European girl that allegedly flew out to one of these parties. Her name sounded Russian/Ukrainian.

She was found by the side of the road with broken limbs, a broken spine, and a cut on her head consistent with somebody having tried to scalp her. The authorities said she never made it to the party and had instead wondered into a building site by accident and fallen from height. Like how the fuck does that happen? She couldn't speak nor recognise her family at first. She's now in a wheelchair.

The whole situation seems rather unclear and it's been suggested that she was paid off, because she's claimed that no Arabs were involved, which seems a very specific thing to want to clarify. And the Dubai authorities funded her medical treatment at an immense cost.

Either way, regardless of the above case there are loads or other examples of this stuff going on. It's ludicrous to say that white people can't experience racism because there are places where white people aren't the demographic with the most power and privilege.