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To think most men are filthy losers

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fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 18:05

I'm going through the menopause, so have a low libido at the moment, which might explain my disgust. I don't know. I didn't use to be a prude, but I'm feeling more and more annoyed these days by men and their general behaviour.

I have a few male friends who, to varying degrees, always manage to slip in an innuendo or even an outright sexual remark. And out of politeness, or not wanting to cause a scene, I smile or roll my eyes in jest. I can only think of one occasion when I told a bloke to stop, and he REALLY took the hump. This was a married man who pursued me, but then said he was just joking and that I took myself too seriously. In fact, he got very angry.

I have lots of personal issues at the moment. Mad stuff. One of these issues lead to me googling my ex.

Well, the filth I found was disturbing. Men, thousands of them, masturbating online. I can only think they're doing it in front of each other. Becsuse there can't be many women wanting to sit and watch them. Surely? My ex was one of them.

I'm not talking about Only Fans where people pay. I'm talking about sex webcam stuff where men seem to just be filming themselves wanking. And watching each other. I don't even think it's gay. These are heterosexual men doing it for free. All ages.

Maybe I'm naïve.

But it's been a real eye opener for me.

I always knew men watched porn. But sitting there filming themselves and watching each other. It's madness.

I really do think that we, as women, spend our time worrying, working, caring, thinking, planning... and men just do the stuff thry have to do and then go back to messing with themselves or pestering women. Including their wives. And they keep having to up the limit because they can't get excited uness it's something really vile.

How many of us have felt obliged to have sex with a man, a partner, to avoid his anger, sulking, grumpiness. We've chosen sex as the lesser of two evils when we didn't want it.

It's not a human right, is it? They need to calm the fuck down.

Maybe I'm being unreasonable and grumpy, but I just think most of them ming.

OP posts:
Chiseltip · 07/09/2025 19:09

fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 18:05

I'm going through the menopause, so have a low libido at the moment, which might explain my disgust. I don't know. I didn't use to be a prude, but I'm feeling more and more annoyed these days by men and their general behaviour.

I have a few male friends who, to varying degrees, always manage to slip in an innuendo or even an outright sexual remark. And out of politeness, or not wanting to cause a scene, I smile or roll my eyes in jest. I can only think of one occasion when I told a bloke to stop, and he REALLY took the hump. This was a married man who pursued me, but then said he was just joking and that I took myself too seriously. In fact, he got very angry.

I have lots of personal issues at the moment. Mad stuff. One of these issues lead to me googling my ex.

Well, the filth I found was disturbing. Men, thousands of them, masturbating online. I can only think they're doing it in front of each other. Becsuse there can't be many women wanting to sit and watch them. Surely? My ex was one of them.

I'm not talking about Only Fans where people pay. I'm talking about sex webcam stuff where men seem to just be filming themselves wanking. And watching each other. I don't even think it's gay. These are heterosexual men doing it for free. All ages.

Maybe I'm naïve.

But it's been a real eye opener for me.

I always knew men watched porn. But sitting there filming themselves and watching each other. It's madness.

I really do think that we, as women, spend our time worrying, working, caring, thinking, planning... and men just do the stuff thry have to do and then go back to messing with themselves or pestering women. Including their wives. And they keep having to up the limit because they can't get excited uness it's something really vile.

How many of us have felt obliged to have sex with a man, a partner, to avoid his anger, sulking, grumpiness. We've chosen sex as the lesser of two evils when we didn't want it.

It's not a human right, is it? They need to calm the fuck down.

Maybe I'm being unreasonable and grumpy, but I just think most of them ming.

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Onthebusses · 07/09/2025 19:07

They're disgusting and only get more so the older they get.

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fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 19:03

greengreyblue · 07/09/2025 18:58

You have a vile ex No of course you can’t tar all men with the same brush. How would you feel if all women were slandered because of one?

Edited

A really vile one, yes. Obviously, there are some good men. I'm saying most of them are filthy. Not all. Most. I really do believe it's most of them.

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CaroleLandis · 07/09/2025 19:00

missmollygreen · 07/09/2025 18:55

A man bashing thread on mumsnet, how original

The level of vitriol towards men is off the scale!

I’ve never encountered any men like the op and those agreeing with her have.

TalulahJP · 07/09/2025 18:59

Men are far too highly sexed. The world would be an altogether better place if their sex drives were less high. They need to invent some kind of bromide to put in the water supply that only affects male libidos with no side effects llol 😂

If men spent as much time doing housework or whatever instead of jerking off / shagging people, many relationships would be significantly better…..

greengreyblue · 07/09/2025 18:59

You need to raise your standards op!

greengreyblue · 07/09/2025 18:58

You have a vile ex No of course you can’t tar all men with the same brush. How would you feel if all women were slandered because of one?

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fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 18:56

FightingFish · 07/09/2025 18:45

Yes, unfortunately I learnt the hard way. I am divorced and would love a partner to enjoy sex with, I’m not looking for anything overly serious. I spent some time online dating and all I got was men talking about sex, asking for photos etc after a couple of messages. I wouldn’t talk about sex with someone that I had met in real life after 10 minutes and I wouldn’t do that online either! I would only ever sleep with someone that I genuinely liked. Because online porn is there 24/7, a lot of men seem to think that women think as they do, (I) they don’t! Not really sure what to do about this other than enjoy being single.

Oh, yeah! Online dating. They're all so direct. Maybe some women give them what they want. Or they chat to fake profiles with men behind them.

They need to learn that if everything goes well, they will probably end up getting a shag. They don't have to talk about it. It's so off-putting. Let's talk about our interests, passions, jobs.... whatever! But leave the sexting out.

When I think about my exes and flings... they were all big sulky babies when they didn't get it. I think they believe it is their right.

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missmollygreen · 07/09/2025 18:55

A man bashing thread on mumsnet, how original

3678194b · 07/09/2025 18:55

I'm alone now and have been for 10 years. I'm peri and would be quite happy if I never had sex again. Who knows I might change my mind in the future.

Maybe I don't feel as strongly as you do but I feel it's a getting older thing. I'm 40's and find most men the same age are nothing to look at, don't look after themselves, many have a massive beer belly. Their female counterparts look miles better, more refined and well groomed.

I know there may be some who are grey foxes, but many aren't. In many ways I'm glad to be alone. I don't want to be a care giver to some man, let alone sleep with.

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fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 18:51

NoThanksNeeded · 07/09/2025 18:22

You Googled your ex and one of the first things that came up was him wanking on a webcam?

Well, not his name. A username he goes by. It's him. He's not showing his face. Many of them do, though. I only looked once. But I screenshotted it.

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FightingFish · 07/09/2025 18:45

Yes, unfortunately I learnt the hard way. I am divorced and would love a partner to enjoy sex with, I’m not looking for anything overly serious. I spent some time online dating and all I got was men talking about sex, asking for photos etc after a couple of messages. I wouldn’t talk about sex with someone that I had met in real life after 10 minutes and I wouldn’t do that online either! I would only ever sleep with someone that I genuinely liked. Because online porn is there 24/7, a lot of men seem to think that women think as they do, (I) they don’t! Not really sure what to do about this other than enjoy being single.

DryAndBalmy · 07/09/2025 18:35

YANBU. It sickens me, what some men are capable of and it’s not rare or isolated.

crazeekat · 07/09/2025 18:31

I agree with u I mean I don’t think every single man is doing this, but hey the stories u read does anyone realllllllly know for sure? I think the internet has made us an age of on one hand an open, free world do whatever the fuck u want no one cares and the other hand is a dark evil world where dirty paedos and other perverts get to do what they want to kids and animals and the internet is making it all acceptable to everyone is a dark part of their brain. Sec has become a complete commodity where men just need to name their game and they will find other men and woman who are into the same shit as them, no matter how perverted they will find someone the same online who then makes them think they are normal. I fucking hate porn but I get how some people love it, it I fear the dark side is getting more and more dark. And men are the majority.

user764329056 · 07/09/2025 18:23

I hear you OP, am rarely impressed by a man, constantly impressed by fortitude of women, am horrified at male to female violence, it’s everywhere, if it were the other way round and men were being killed in such numbers by a female partner there’d be a national outcry but domestic violence male to female carries on with no urgency to be addressed, so bloody depressing

NoThanksNeeded · 07/09/2025 18:22

You Googled your ex and one of the first things that came up was him wanking on a webcam?

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fightbackorriseabove · 07/09/2025 18:14

Sparklybutold · 07/09/2025 18:08

I completely empathise with your feelings towards men. For me it’s the continuing stories of perverted men hurting women and girls. Some of it is just so disturbing that the only suitable punishment would be the death penalty. Slowly.

The thing is, I don't want to have to teach my DD about all this. But I know I'm going to have to. I'm just very angry. I know some good men. But I can count them on one hand. Even those who aren't raping, beating women up, cheating, trafficking, torturing... Just your average Joe is probably doing something he wouldn't want anyone to find out about. They're grim. They really are. And they think nothing of us. And most of us put up with it in some form or other.

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Sparklybutold · 07/09/2025 18:08

I completely empathise with your feelings towards men. For me it’s the continuing stories of perverted men hurting women and girls. Some of it is just so disturbing that the only suitable punishment would be the death penalty. Slowly.

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