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Not inviting step grandparents to an event.

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Easepieohmy · 14/08/2025 21:14

A child has their school leaving assembly which is open to all friends and family.
The child's step grandparents aren't invited, but the child's grandparents are. The step grandparents have ensured step grandchild is treated no differently to their grandchildren, in terms of holidays, presents, family events, financial gifts and time spent together.
Are step grandparents right to feel aggrieved they weren't invited.

OP posts:
Robin67 · 14/08/2025 21:43

Yes. That is not fair, how they have been treated

Silverbirchleaf · 14/08/2025 21:41

Is there a limit on the number of tickets available? This may influence the decision?

Wadadli · 14/08/2025 21:37

Easepieohmy · 14/08/2025 21:14

A child has their school leaving assembly which is open to all friends and family.
The child's step grandparents aren't invited, but the child's grandparents are. The step grandparents have ensured step grandchild is treated no differently to their grandchildren, in terms of holidays, presents, family events, financial gifts and time spent together.
Are step grandparents right to feel aggrieved they weren't invited.

Yes

HerecomesMargo · 14/08/2025 21:34

That’s what you get for being too kind. At the end of the day all these unrelated people who you are fair to, can turn around and walk away and have nothing to do with you.

im agreeing by the way. yanbu to feel very hurt

DonewhatIcando · 14/08/2025 21:21

Yep, I'd feel aggrieved.
I assume you're the step grandparents.
If not and you're the parent, give your head a wobble, your dc has got great step grandparents, don't fuck it up.
You can't have it all ways, step GPs who treat your DC as their real DGC but you don't reciprocate, treat them as they deserve to be treated.