To lock up all our food etc when we leave

I cannot stand cheeky fucks like them! And to be tight wads to boot.

Leave them a teabag each OP and either lock the rest away or bag it up and take it with you.

Waiting for the updates 😆

My head says be the grown up/take the higher ground etc; but my heart says lock it all up and wait…..

Don’t pay for their lunch or leave anything behind for them. Go halves on the bill for lunch.

Just ridiculous. I hate tight people. Take it all home with you everytime until challenged then tell the truth. The property is 70 yours you pay the cleaner the cleaning supplies and she's just a tight cf.

Don’t buy lunch. Hold your nerve , or can you say
‘shall we split this’ and face her down .

Please, please, please... when you sit down, can you say to the waiter "separate bills please"... If she starts to say " that's ridiculous" then chime in with "oh that's so generous, boys say thanks to auntie cheapbint, isn't she kind". Any awkwardness just explain it with "sorry, I thought you were trying to say that you are going to pay for us this time, never mind we will pay...as usual"

Just say they’ve all been used up by everyone else. And you only had the last scrapings!

OP and her DH paid for 70% of the holiday home plus they reburbished it entirely at their own expense so it's more OP's holiday home, her rules.

We have a holiday home and share it and the agreement is if you use the last of something you replace it - therefore washing up liquid, laundry detergent, salt, pepper, sugar, tea, coffee, cooking oil is the basics we don’t leave without replacing. It all works out even in the end and to be fair the other couple use it more than us so probably have to replace more - we even leave each other booze etc and again just replace the gin if it runs out etc. It works well as everyone plays fair. Your SIL is taking the piss and you are 100% in the right to lock it away. Especially since you have spoken to her and she is refusing to play fair.

Clear communication out money in a kitty for communal things that everyone uses. As the wife of the brother you will become enemy number 1. It doesn't take much to piss of the in laws ! It's thier holiday home. Their rules. Play or go somewhere else for your holidays. Share nicely. This is a legacy property and I'm sorry but as the woman in the family she will win

I agree with your husband. Go high.

If you do leave milk make sure the use by date has passed.........

If it was me I'd let the 'communal' stuff start to run down and just take what I needed and depart leaving very little else behind, to kind of make something of a point. I think this is a problem that's the flip side of another post on here which is along the lines of 'why won't my family ferry us around so we can join them on holiday without having to stop buying coffees' - people who don't contribute simply don't realise the contribution of people who do, iysyim, so I'd stop providing if they don't reciprocate or even do the reach. Let them wipe their bums on a leaf during their frequent mini breaks 🤷‍♀️

Good idea but like half a loo roll, 2 tea bags, tiny bit of coffee like a teaspoon!! Put rest in a locked suitcase under your bed. Cheeky fuckers

Leave bottles with just dregs in, enough to use once/twice, but forces them to buy stuff. Then take your own next time but if by some miracle they have bought some- use theirs. Rinse and repeat, they’ll get the message.

I was team "leave a small amount of everything" but reading your updates I am now team "lock it all away". You've tried to be subtle. They have continued to take advantage. Gravy train ends today. If they get upset, they get upset. They've upset you. This way you won't be stuck late at night with no supplies.

Yes op lock up the bigger items if sil is tight it might teach her a lesson she says she hardly uses anything so no need to leave her anything the fact she’s never contributed let her pay for her own stuff she might be a bit more grateful going forward. How cheeky to let you keep buying stuff.

This was going to be my suggestion too! Let it get slightly damp with the steam from a kettle, that'll do it.

Personally I'd put the stuff in the suitcase as like you say, it's then convenient for you the next time you stay to have it ready. If she ever discouraged you'd done this just say it makes life easier not having to remember all of the things you will need. She is a CF and counting on you feeling too awkward to say something.

Of couirse they are not using it, she is taking it home with her!

Tight people would not simply use and not replace, someone like her would use what she needed and pack the rest to take home to save her some money. So from now on, you buy your own and take it home (or hide it in your case). Set the precedent now. Same for cleaning stuff. If she doesnt do any cleaning why do you need to leave it there? That probably goes in her case as well.

You need a family meeting , decide what the basics look like , make a list. Each family unit ensures that the list us complete on leaving .
Simple

I would leave cheapest of everything. Cheap toilet roll one or two. 1 kitchen roll. Cheap tea bags, tiny cheap jar of coffee etc., if she said anything I'd say well prices have gone up so much I've cut back but you can always bring things with you like we do. Then add beggars can't be choosers 😁

I like this idea. Few bits but lock everything else away. Then you'll see if a) sil and p have replaced the items and left for general use it b) Replaced the itens (as they would have to) but them mesnly taken them home. What about drawing up an agreement re:supplying of essentials?