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The hatred towards cyclists/horse riders etc

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RH1234 · 06/08/2025 17:53

Following on from a conversation on another thread; AIBU to think that the hatred towards all cyclists/other road users I.e. horses is completely atrocious and unjustified.

Lots of people will make comments about “I bet they were in Lycra”, “I dislike road cyclists”, “they don’t even pay road tax”.

My question is not; do you hate cyclists. My question is why do you hate me someone you have not met) as a cyclist?

For perspective:

  1. I pay VED (Road tax doesn’t exist) on 3 vehicles.
  2. I have insurance for my bikes - which includes public liability etc. My cycle insurance is genuinely more expensive than my car, I also have free insurance through British Cycling.
  3. I don’t run red lights (for transparency, I have been through one red light, floor sensors don’t pick up carbon fibre, it was 5am, after waiting a few minutes, with no cars I went through)
  4. I cycle an average of 19-23mph, I can overtake tractors near me, I’m smaller than a tractor surely you can pass me.
  5. I do ride two abreast if in a group, but if passing is difficult, as per the Highway Code we ensure you can pass when safe.
  6. When riding on my own, I wave cars past so they can often go before they can see.
  7. Yes I wear Lycra - but you try cycling 100 miles without decent chamois in place. I won’t mention leg hair as that’s a whole different subject for you.
  8. My wife use to love cycling, but won’t ride on the road now due to the drivers attitudes.

AIBU to be annoyed that I don’t do any of the things people moan about, yet people will hate me, some people will hurl abuse, some people will literally try and drive me off the road (luckily not that often for the last one)

All I want is, to enjoy the sport I’m love, get fit and then spend the time with my family. Yet my wife has said to me, she is anxious when I’m out and follows me on find my iPhone, because she’s terrified someone will one day leave me for dead in a ditch.

Surely a two minute delay is not unreasonable? I don’t judge based on hobbies or backgrounds, why am I judged?

AIBU in thinking that those who state they hate cyclists clearly are either media influenced or just plain horrible people.

Apologies, this has turned into more of a rant than a AIBU, but I’m sure you get the gist.

OP posts:
Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:29

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/08/2025 18:26

lol, do you really think the whole country is just filled with fields and woods where horses can go as they please?

I think if you cannot access appropriate places to ride a horse via bridleways or trailers you shouldn't ride a horse. Roads are not safe for horses, they are so easily spooked and once they start leaping around then everyone is at risk.

twistyizzy · 06/08/2025 18:29

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:27

Get the bus or the train and cycle on your days off for leisure and exercise.

Are you this intolerant in real life?

twistyizzy · 06/08/2025 18:28

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:26

Farms and stables tend to be near woods or accessoble via bridleways? We have footpaths that horse riders use, bit annoying but better than the road. If not use a horse trailer. Don't go on roads it is not safe for horse, rider or motorist in most people's views <except horse riders>.

Horses aren't allowed on public footpaths. Bridleways and byways only. Bridleways are rapidly disappearing due to land bring sold off to developers.

No, yards are frequently not built on bridleways 🙄

Roads are safe, it's thoughtless drivers who make them unsafe.

You literally have no clue!

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:27

OakAshRowan · 06/08/2025 18:25

I cycle to work. I use cycle paths as much as possible but they don't exist for part of the route so what would you suggest I do?

Get the bus or the train and cycle on your days off for leisure and exercise.

BeatriceAndBeau · 06/08/2025 18:27

TequilaNights · 06/08/2025 18:01

All the fields and woods are being built on, so more and more horses will be on the roads because they have to travel between fields on roads..

People need to be a lot more forgiving and accepting, everyone just hates on everything

No they don’t 🤣

slumdogminulet · 06/08/2025 18:26

I definitely don't hate either and cycle a fair bit myself around our city. However, some cyclists are very unaware of the need to cycle safely and considerately - never slowing down, skipping red lights, cycling too close to other cyclists etc etc which isn't helpful.

Your point (6) is a particular bugbear of mine. I am not trusting any other road user's judgement on when to overtake - if I can't see ahead then I'm not going as I will be held responsible if there's an accident. Maybe consider whether to stop this? Some cyclists (probably not you) get very angry if you don't follow their advice to overtake and start shouting at the car driver, when actually we're just trying to drive carefully.

I think all road users need to be more considerate of each other. Hatred in any direction is not constructive or helpful to.improve road safety.

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 18:26

GasPanic · 06/08/2025 18:22

It's easier to get away with poor behaviour as a cyclist. not much gets done about it, unless you actually end up killing someone.

Car driving, well if you drive like an idiot sooner or later you will get got.

This is absolutely not my experience as a driver. I see awful driving all the time and no consequences for it unless you're stupid enough to speed past a camera.

beAsensible1 · 06/08/2025 18:26

GasPanic · 06/08/2025 18:22

It's easier to get away with poor behaviour as a cyclist. not much gets done about it, unless you actually end up killing someone.

Car driving, well if you drive like an idiot sooner or later you will get got.

Even if they kill someone they get off.

tumblingdowntherabbithole · 06/08/2025 18:26

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:21

'As for horse riders, it depends what they're doing, but other than going from the stables to a bridleways I'm not sure why you'd want to be on the road. I grew up in a horsey area and we didn't ride on roads'

Yes I don't get this. Where are they going on their horses? Surelt if they've started from stables there are fields and woods nearby to exercise. Horses are massive and easily spooked. I don't want to see them on roads. If I was a horse owner I think I'd realise they don't like loud noises such as cars, buses and lorries etc.

Edited

lol, do you really think the whole country is just filled with fields and woods where horses can go as they please?

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:26

twistyizzy · 06/08/2025 18:22

How do you think we reach woods etc? Teleporting ourselves and our horses?

Farms and stables tend to be near woods or accessoble via bridleways? We have footpaths that horse riders use, bit annoying but better than the road. If not use a horse trailer. Don't go on roads it is not safe for horse, rider or motorist in most people's views <except horse riders>.

OakAshRowan · 06/08/2025 18:25

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 17:56

Both are justa hazard aren't they. Ride a horse in the woods and ride a bike on a cycle track. Neither should be on roads imo.

I don't hate either but they irritate me a lot.

I cycle to work. I use cycle paths as much as possible but they don't exist for part of the route so what would you suggest I do?

twistyizzy · 06/08/2025 18:25

LakieLady · 06/08/2025 18:23

I regularly drive 6 miles along a road that used to be a B-road but was downgraded to a C-road. It's windy, and there are only two properly safe overtaking places, one near each end.

There are a few places where it's possible to overtake a single bike safely, but it's a nightmare when you encounter a group of club cyclists out riding en masse. There isn't enough visibility to overtake a group spread out along the carriageway.

It's very frustrating to have to drive the best part of 5 miles at cycling pace in a 60 limit. I suck it up, but I can understand why drivers get frustrated by them.

Horse riders are generally in much smaller groups, and they will often move over onto the grass verge or into a field entrance to let cars pass. And they never go along this particular road more than one abreast, and they invariably give a wave of thanks when I pass them wide and slow (which I always do).

And as a horse rider, we thank you for that 😊

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 18:24

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:18

Ok well what about when there are those lovely or orange dedicated paths and cyclists still use the road as paths can have pedestrians on apparently? That is annoying.

Can't you use a bus or train to commute? Much safer and probably nicer not to get to work all sweaty etc.

I agree that cyclists should use cycle lanes when available and safe (they aren't always). I do so myself and I don't feel any more responsible for the cyclists who don't than I feel responsible for other people's bad driving as a fellow motorist.

I could commute by bus but it is less convenient, takes longer, costs money and means I don't get the exercise I do from cycling, so I'll stick to that, thanks.

LakieLady · 06/08/2025 18:23

I regularly drive 6 miles along a road that used to be a B-road but was downgraded to a C-road. It's windy, and there are only two properly safe overtaking places, one near each end.

There are a few places where it's possible to overtake a single bike safely, but it's a nightmare when you encounter a group of club cyclists out riding en masse. There isn't enough visibility to overtake a group spread out along the carriageway.

It's very frustrating to have to drive the best part of 5 miles at cycling pace in a 60 limit. I suck it up, but I can understand why drivers get frustrated by them.

Horse riders are generally in much smaller groups, and they will often move over onto the grass verge or into a field entrance to let cars pass. And they never go along this particular road more than one abreast, and they invariably give a wave of thanks when I pass them wide and slow (which I always do).

twistyizzy · 06/08/2025 18:22

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:21

'As for horse riders, it depends what they're doing, but other than going from the stables to a bridleways I'm not sure why you'd want to be on the road. I grew up in a horsey area and we didn't ride on roads'

Yes I don't get this. Where are they going on their horses? Surelt if they've started from stables there are fields and woods nearby to exercise. Horses are massive and easily spooked. I don't want to see them on roads. If I was a horse owner I think I'd realise they don't like loud noises such as cars, buses and lorries etc.

Edited

How do you think we reach woods etc? Teleporting ourselves and our horses?

Hibernatingtilspring · 06/08/2025 18:22

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 17:56

Both are justa hazard aren't they. Ride a horse in the woods and ride a bike on a cycle track. Neither should be on roads imo.

I don't hate either but they irritate me a lot.

I don't know where you live, but where I am -

The woods and surrounding countryside are almost all footpaths, no cycling allowed

The cycle paths on the road require you cycle 90% on the road for 10% of cycle lanes if you're lucky. Though cars are usually parked in the cycle lanes, and the ones separated from the road are usually in too poor a condition to ride safely unless you've got something like a mountain bike.

There is no such thing as a 'cycle track'. Unless you count the velodrome, but I don't think they'd let me take my little commuter hybrid in there.

GasPanic · 06/08/2025 18:22

It's easier to get away with poor behaviour as a cyclist. not much gets done about it, unless you actually end up killing someone.

Car driving, well if you drive like an idiot sooner or later you will get got.

OakAshRowan · 06/08/2025 18:21

waitingforjumperseason · 06/08/2025 18:13

I’ll be honest, I agree and I do hate cyclists. They simply do not look out for themselves and expects drivers to be the ones responsible for their safety.

Yes, drivers do need to be cautious of everyone including cyclists, but why are cyclist not capable of equally watching out for their own safety? Why expects others to do this for them?

Do you honestly think all cyclists are like this? Every single one?

marshmallowfinder · 06/08/2025 18:21

Sirzy · 06/08/2025 18:00

The problem is as with any group the idiots give the rest a bad name! I have seen just as many cyclists making assumptions about car drivers as car drivers doing the opposite.

I don’t appreciate any other road user waving me passed though. I will go when I can see it’s clear and not before! I was involved in an RTC once where the other driver was waved passed by someone so just went!

It's past. But yes, I thought exactly that when I read the OP.

Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:21

'As for horse riders, it depends what they're doing, but other than going from the stables to a bridleways I'm not sure why you'd want to be on the road. I grew up in a horsey area and we didn't ride on roads'

Yes I don't get this. Where are they going on their horses? Surelt if they've started from stables there are fields and woods nearby to exercise. Horses are massive and easily spooked. I don't want to see them on roads. If I was a horse owner I think I'd realise they don't like loud noises such as cars, buses and lorries etc.

StarDolphins · 06/08/2025 18:20

Generally, I find cyclists quite arrogant mostly.

Horse riders I go extremely slow past.

SoUncertain · 06/08/2025 18:20

I don't hate you or any other cyclist. I DO think they are hazards, and not due to any erratic behaviour or anything.

I'm in Cornwall, and they are often found cycling down really windy but fairly well-used 60-mph country roads with nowhere safe to overtake for several miles. I appreciate they are entitled to cycle there, and I DO ensure I'm travelling at a speed where I can stop safely if I find one around the next bend, but not everyone does.

Doesn't that make the other car driver the hazard? Yes, but unexpectedly slow/stationary objects in the road are quite hazardous because noone is a perfect driver. I don't want to hit you, and I don't want to hit another car trying to overtake you where they shouldn't. I don't want anyone to run into the back of me while I'm behind you.

Mrsttcno1 · 06/08/2025 18:19

I don’t hate either but I do think, at least where we are, there are far more bad/dangerous cyclists on the road than good hence why nobody is ever particularly overjoyed to see one.

RH1234 · 06/08/2025 18:19

Sorry if haven’t quoted you directly.

I appreciate all your comments, even those justifying ‘their hate’.

Interestingly no one has given a reason to hate me personally. Yet I guarantee there will be at least one person that wouldn’t think twice about swearing at me, or passing with inches to spare.

I’m not going to go into what annoys me about drivers, yet I don’t hate all drivers.

I need to go shopping, so will go quiet, but rest assured I’ll be back haha

OP posts:
Gloriia · 06/08/2025 18:18

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 17:59

I use my bike for my commute, not leisure - it would be lovely if there was cycle track the whole journey, but there is not (and I think a lot of drivers would complain if it was put in...)

Edited

Ok well what about when there are those lovely or orange dedicated paths and cyclists still use the road as paths can have pedestrians on apparently? That is annoying.

Can't you use a bus or train to commute? Much safer and probably nicer not to get to work all sweaty etc.