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Why does everyone say they love being fat until they get their hands on skinny jabs?

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Holmints · 06/08/2025 09:46

I’m seeing this so much on social media. People screaming from the rooftops how they love their bodies. Hate comments come and they combat them with body positivity, I admired them so much.

Lately though, the very people who were oh-so-body-positive are popping back up five stone lighter. Some comment on it and some don’t, as if they’re waiting for people to ask. Hang on a minute, I thought you loved your big body? Did you love being fat or not?

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pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:33

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:30

That poster was me.

Lets assume your non evidence is proof that pharma companies bribe doctors, just to shut you up. Can we move now to the part where you evidence that your mum was purposely misdiagnosed in order for her doctor to receive a direct payment from the makers of a drug she didn't need.

You didnt answer my question. So answer that first.

Again, what are your thoughts on the five million pounds that Irish doctors received in payouts from pharma companies?

ConcernedOfClapham · 08/08/2025 12:31

Agix · 06/08/2025 10:00

Of course people should love their bodies as their body is. What, you want them to sit there despising their body? Wait, don't answer that... We all know society wants fat people to sit there and despise themselves.

Many people found weight loss very difficult, or very slow, or the actions needed to enable weightloss lowered their quality of life (calorie counting, lack of food joy, making time and energy for exercise etc) so sustainable weight loss was extremely hard for them.

Of course they had to make peace with their bodies.

Now they have an injection which makes that weight loss much easier. It didn't mean they didn't make peace with their bodies previously, or learn to love the skin they felt stuck in... It means a new option is on the table.

I remember watching a fat positive influencer back in the day in YouTube. She said straight out "if there was a magic wand to make myself thin, of course I'd wave it, but I can't".

Well, the injections are that magic wand, so now they're waving it.

Don't get me wrong, I have issues with the injections - I have anorexia, have been in treatment and forced to eat more and gain weight, and take great issue with it now being okay to eat extremely little when you paie for an injection to make it possible for you to do so... but it is apparently a mental illness and a medical problem when I do it for free (I'm back at it now though - what they gonna do? I'm not eating any less than injection patients) .

But my issues arnt with the people taking them. I totally get it, really. I wish people could be better than me but I now realise that they're not - only difference between me and all these mounjaro takers is that I can starve myself without the injections. We're all the same, and society is to blame for it.

A very well written post, although a difficult one to read. Agix has explained it better than I ever could. But really, OP - the bottom line is you sound resentful of people who (probably as a defence mechanism) tried to come to terms with their size and not be forced into a slough of self-hatred. Now you seem to resent them because there’s an ‘east’ solution, and they’re rushing to take it. In the kindest possible way, what difference does it make to you either way, OP?

Nevertheless, I wish you both well x

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:31

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:30

Does anyone have any thoughts on the doctors receiving 5 million in secret payouts from pharma companies in Ireland?

No one has responded to that news article yet. Strange that...

More than one person has responded to that.

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:30

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:29

Are you blind? Or is there something wrong with you?

I was replying to the poster who asked me to provide evidence that pharma are bribing doctors.

I was replying to her.

Her post is still there! Read it!

That poster was me.

Lets assume your non evidence is proof that pharma companies bribe doctors, just to shut you up. Can we move now to the part where you evidence that your mum was purposely misdiagnosed in order for her doctor to receive a direct payment from the makers of a drug she didn't need.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:30

Does anyone have any thoughts on the doctors receiving 5 million in secret payouts from pharma companies in Ireland?

No one has responded to that news article yet. Strange that...

MothPhobic · 08/08/2025 12:30

NewWin · 06/08/2025 09:54

I can't imagine anyone loves being fat really

This. I feel the whole body positivity movement to a large extent has in a way gaslite so many people into thinking they were happy and healthy, when really they weren't. Some yes. Most no.

I used to be fat. I was miserable most of the time. I wasn't living life. I lost 100lbs naturally and now I'm a size 8-6. I can't bear to look at old photos of myself. They make me want to cry.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:29

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:28

See my post above. I'll say it again. You were asked for evidence your mums doctor was bribed to misdiagnose her in order to prescribe her a med she didn't need for a backhander payment. 0 evidence of this so far. Or even evidence doctors are being bribed. Just that pharma companies have faced penalties for poor marketing practice.

Are you blind? Or is there something wrong with you?

I was replying to the poster who asked me to provide evidence that pharma are bribing doctors.

I was replying to her.

Her post is still there! Read it!

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:29

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:27

You are lying and anyone can read back and check.

A poster wrote this to me about news articles:

"Just one that actually shows DOCTORS are being BRIBED will do.

I replied specifically to this poster with a link to an article

That was me that wrote that. I still haven't seen evidence of that.

Big pharma companies marketing their products to the people that prescribe them (whether ethically or unethically) is not evidence that a doctor is being bribed

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:28

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:25

Jesus you are horrendous. I wouldnt want to meet you in real life. Disgusting

I was asked to provide a link to show that pharmaceutical companies are bribing doctors.

In general. There was no mention of WLI in that poster's post. And we had already been talking about doctors bribing pharmaceutical companies in general.

When i provide a link showing exactly what i was asked to provide, slme posters hate that i could actually provide the link for what was asked,
so they then change the subject to something else

Edited

See my post above. I'll say it again. You were asked for evidence your mums doctor was bribed to misdiagnose her in order to prescribe her a med she didn't need for a backhander payment. 0 evidence of this so far. Or even evidence doctors are being bribed. Just that pharma companies have faced penalties for poor marketing practice.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:27

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:24

No, you said your mother was misdiagnosed purposely by a GP, in order to prescribe her medication she did not need, in exchange for a bribe from a pharmaceutical company.

That's the only thing you've been asked to 'prove'. And you've not done it. You've gone off on a tangent about the marketing practices of pharma companies. One does not equal the other. I want to see evidence of the scenario you mooted, no more or less. Which if it happened should be insanely easy. It would have been local news, if not national, when the GP was struck off for breaching many parts of their code of practice.

You are lying and anyone can read back and check.

A poster wrote this to me about news articles:

"Just one that actually shows DOCTORS are being BRIBED will do.

I replied specifically to this poster with a link to an article

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:26

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:21

Oh that's really sad, sounds like you've had a really tough time from 'friends' and associates being overweight.

Not the good 'uns who looked past it. Of course I've had good friends through weight gains and losses

But there's a LOT of people out there who I didn't really dislike, they were just in my outter orbit, UNTIL I lost weight and then suddenly I have value to them! Now I actively dislike those people, and it's just one of many examples of how life CAN be a little happier in some ways when you're fat Vs thin (specifically ex fat type of thin)

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:25

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:19

You do remember what thread you're on? No?

Why not go and start one about your Ma's BP meds if you are no longer even trying to tenuously link that to weight loss

Jesus you are horrendous. I wouldnt want to meet you in real life. Disgusting

I was asked to provide a link to show that pharmaceutical companies are bribing doctors.

In general. There was no mention of WLI in that poster's post. And we had already been talking about doctors bribing pharmaceutical companies in general.

When i provide a link showing exactly what i was asked to provide, slme posters hate that i could actually provide the link for what was asked,
so they then change the subject to something else

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:24

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:15

What are you on about.

I never said that the article had anything to do with WLI injections.

We are talking about doctors receiving bribes from pharmaceutical companies in general.

I was asked to provide a link showing this, and I did.

No, you said your mother was misdiagnosed purposely by a GP, in order to prescribe her medication she did not need, in exchange for a bribe from a pharmaceutical company.

That's the only thing you've been asked to 'prove'. And you've not done it. You've gone off on a tangent about the marketing practices of pharma companies. One does not equal the other. I want to see evidence of the scenario you mooted, no more or less. Which if it happened should be insanely easy. It would have been local news, if not national, when the GP was struck off for breaching many parts of their code of practice.

MyLimeGuide · 08/08/2025 12:22

bigyawn · 06/08/2025 10:10

I agree. No way am I putting that stuff in me.

Agree, how can paying for an expensive drug forever be a good idea for weightloss? Its like botox as soon as you stop the wrinkles come back. There has to be a bad pay off internally surely? My sister did the injections, lost 2 or 3 stone in what seemed like weeks, it all came back when she stopped taking them as she could no longer afford it. Unsustainable and very un natural.

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 12:21

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:11

Another example is wedding invites

Fat: people act relieved if you RSVP no
They'll chase your RSVP early but it's always phrases like "no worries if you can't come we just need to know the final numbers sooner rather than later" - actively inviting you to decline.

And there's no repercussions when a fat woman declined, nobody cries to their aunties who then phones you up to ask why you aren't coming.

Declining when you're slim though, in the first instance it's assumed you ARE going. So when you decline it's 😯 and their aunties tell your aunties how upset the couple are that you can't make it ... People try to problem solve your excuse. Suddenly you have babysitters coming out your ears so you can make it after all!

You are stepping into a light that you might not have asked for when you slim down.

And honestly, I think it's made me deliberately regain weight whenever I've lost it before.

WLIs really shine in the maintenance stage though and I have been able to use them to keep me going through the adjustment periods where before I woulda gone "f-CK this I don't really want this"!

Oh that's really sad, sounds like you've had a really tough time from 'friends' and associates being overweight.

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:19

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:15

What are you on about.

I never said that the article had anything to do with WLI injections.

We are talking about doctors receiving bribes from pharmaceutical companies in general.

I was asked to provide a link showing this, and I did.

You do remember what thread you're on? No?

Why not go and start one about your Ma's BP meds if you are no longer even trying to tenuously link that to weight loss

SomeOfTheTrouble · 08/08/2025 12:18

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:15

What are you on about.

I never said that the article had anything to do with WLI injections.

We are talking about doctors receiving bribes from pharmaceutical companies in general.

I was asked to provide a link showing this, and I did.

If you’re not talking about WLIs, maybe start a new thread to discuss? This discussion (fight) is completely derailing this one.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 08/08/2025 12:16

This bun fight about bribing Drs is very interesting and all, but as most people are reaching out to private pharmacists to purchase WLIs I’m not entirely sure it’s hugely relevant here?
Yes companies are marketing the product. Yes people are influenced by marketing. No, that doesn’t negate the benefits of WLIs for those taking them.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:15

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:13

Lol at you choosing a country that's been YEARS BEHIND most in WLI roll out. They've only recently gone on public sale there! I think Mounjaro has only been available for a few months there!

What are you on about.

I never said that the article had anything to do with WLI injections.

We are talking about doctors receiving bribes from pharmaceutical companies in general.

I was asked to provide a link showing this, and I did.

InfoSecInTheCity · 08/08/2025 12:14

I can only speak for myself. I have been obese since primary school, first went to weight watchers when I was 11yrs old, and weighed over 11 stone by that point. My weight matched my age until I maxed out at around 21/22 stone.

The first bullies decided my weight was fair game and I should be tortured for it when I was 8, they kept switching out for new bullies and new ways to make my life miserable until I left college at 18, but any gaps were filled by random strangers hurling insults out car windows as they drove past or calling me a fat ugly bitch for no reason at all as I walked down the street on a night out.

I tried over and over and over and over again to , every diet, every doctors suggestion, I was desperate to not be a target. But publicly and verbally I maintained a happy go lucky, oh so positive attitude, I put on a big personality persona, I made sure I was the best at my job, I was the one everyone wanted to work with, I gave them no reason except my fatness to dislike me or see me as inferior.

Then last year after ignoring all my health symptoms because I was too busy being the best at work, and knew that the answer would just be ‘you need to lose weight’ if I went to the doctors, I got really poorly. Eventually I realised I needed to accept the flack from the Docs and seek help, and in was immediately diagnosed with T2 diabetes, my sugar level were so high I was at risk of losing consciousness and I was immediately put on Insulin.

Following that intervention I was prescribed Mounjaro by the diabetes team and since Sept last year I’ve lost 5 stone, gone from Obese to Healthy BMI, size 22/24 to size 10/12. I am much happier and healthier now, more relaxed, I feel less pressure to be perfect and no one has hurled abuse at me for the way I look for months, strangers are actually nice to me now.

So that’s why I used to harp on about being happy. I was trying to convince myself and the world that I was.

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:14

chipsticksmammy · 08/08/2025 10:18

What do you mean its not just a bunch of Statisticians and Scientists in lab coats plotting world domination by BIG PHARMA 😂

The have Sales Reps??? 😉I did wonder how the multi billion drug development pipeline manages to sustain itself.

There is a huge difference between being a sales rep and giving bribes.

I have posted yet another article above of how pharmaceutical companies are bribing doctors.

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:13

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:06

Here is one.

The title is "Irish doctors received 5 million in secret payments from drug firms"

https://extra.ie/2020/01/05/news/irish-news/doctors-secret-payments-drug-firms

Edited

Lol at you choosing a country that's been YEARS BEHIND most in WLI roll out. They've only recently gone on public sale there! I think Mounjaro has only been available for a few months there!

SkylarFalls · 08/08/2025 12:11

LolloPollo · 08/08/2025 11:34

Very true - when I was fat I protected myself from humiliation because I didn’t go anything socially

when I was normal weight I put myself out there more and therefore was much more bullying humiliation cuz I wasn’t streetwise

Another example is wedding invites

Fat: people act relieved if you RSVP no
They'll chase your RSVP early but it's always phrases like "no worries if you can't come we just need to know the final numbers sooner rather than later" - actively inviting you to decline.

And there's no repercussions when a fat woman declined, nobody cries to their aunties who then phones you up to ask why you aren't coming.

Declining when you're slim though, in the first instance it's assumed you ARE going. So when you decline it's 😯 and their aunties tell your aunties how upset the couple are that you can't make it ... People try to problem solve your excuse. Suddenly you have babysitters coming out your ears so you can make it after all!

You are stepping into a light that you might not have asked for when you slim down.

And honestly, I think it's made me deliberately regain weight whenever I've lost it before.

WLIs really shine in the maintenance stage though and I have been able to use them to keep me going through the adjustment periods where before I woulda gone "f-CK this I don't really want this"!

pamelanoon · 08/08/2025 12:03

goldenquestion · 08/08/2025 11:50

Absolutely no way have you got a first class degree and can't understand how to cite an accurate source. I believe that as much as I believe the claim about your mums mythical doctor.

No way have I got a first class degree?

Lol.

I will just look at my Degree cert and laugh at your crazy posts