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Why does everyone say they love being fat until they get their hands on skinny jabs?

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Holmints · 06/08/2025 09:46

I’m seeing this so much on social media. People screaming from the rooftops how they love their bodies. Hate comments come and they combat them with body positivity, I admired them so much.

Lately though, the very people who were oh-so-body-positive are popping back up five stone lighter. Some comment on it and some don’t, as if they’re waiting for people to ask. Hang on a minute, I thought you loved your big body? Did you love being fat or not?

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Allseeingallknowing · 06/08/2025 14:14

Bringmeahigherlove · 06/08/2025 14:08

I don’t know a single person who has said they love being fat.

I thought the singer Lizzo did, but now she’s a shadow of her former self…

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 06/08/2025 14:11

ToffeePennie · 06/08/2025 13:49

I am fat.
I know I am fat.
I don’t “love” being this big - it’s annoying because of rubbing thighs/boob sweat/people look disgusted at you no matter what you eat etc. but I don’t hate myself enough to pump my body full of unknown drugs either.
I physically and medically cannot loose weight until I’ve had surgery (because dieting right now will make me even worse) so I’m waiting until September, and whilst I may never be svelte or slim, I know I can drop at least 3-4 dress sizes and feel better.

A 0.6ml subcutaneous dose, once a week, is hardly “pumping yourself full of drugs”. Do you meticulously research everything you eat? Do you abstain from alcohol? Do you take the contraceptive pill?

BabyCatFace · 06/08/2025 14:09

Mrsbloggz · 06/08/2025 12:34

One would have to consume vast quantities of food and spend a lot of time cooking in order to become obese through eating only home cooked vegan fare- wouldn't you say?!

I managed it just fine 😆
bread is vegan, potatoes are vegan, olive oil is vegan, and a calorie is a calorie so if you're eating too many of them you're going to get fat.

Bringmeahigherlove · 06/08/2025 14:08

I don’t know a single person who has said they love being fat.

PixiePuffBall · 06/08/2025 14:07

It's what's known as a "cope"

Zempy · 06/08/2025 14:07

GLP1 drugs have been used since 2005, starting in USA as a treatment for diabetes. They aren’t that “new” or faddy. The ignorance is staggering.

gwenneh · 06/08/2025 14:06

It's funny, no one showed this level of concern about what I was taking when I was given GLP-1 drugs (on the NHS) to manage my insulin, almost a decade ago now.

FairyGodDaughter · 06/08/2025 14:06

MyDeftDuck · 06/08/2025 13:18

Fat reducing jabs never entered my head when I was faced with having to lose weight to fend off impending health problems. Just like when I stopped smoking I knew the only person to do this for me……was ME.
Eating less and moving more, healthy choices (no they don’t have to be expensive foods) no UPF, no refined sugar……this was my journey and it works! And has cost the NHS zilch!!!

Why the snark? You do know that the vast majority people on WLIs are paying for them themselves?

FairyGodDaughter · 06/08/2025 14:01

RunSlowTalkFast · 06/08/2025 12:42

Read this a while ago.

I’m surprised. The book explains very clearly the links between high calorie “canteen” food and hormones (and other factors such as genes) and how these interact together to cause obesity. Did you not agree with Dr Jenkinson’s theories?

Allseeingallknowing · 06/08/2025 13:57

4naans · 06/08/2025 12:25

I don't hate my body but would consider the jabs. It's not about appearance. I'm fine with how my body looks but there would be some health benefits to losing weight. I have lipodema and weight doesn't come off easily plus I have issues with food.
What I loathe is people who get on the jabs and then start judging other people and making their whole identity about being thinner.

Dothe jabs help with lipodema? If so, that’s a a tremendous benefit for those who have this awful condition.

suki1964 · 06/08/2025 13:53

I never like being fat, and I didn't get body positivity. To me it was like giving me a free pass to carry on getting fatter

No, I never got as big to qualify for WLI so I have to do it the hard way, constantly thinking about food, planning meals, saying no to "treats" , getting in the exercise. I got the weight off, its been two years, but still every day I have to manage what I eat

But its the price Im prepared to pay to stay a healthy weight ( Im not slim ) because I want to be around to see the grandkids get married

chipsticksmammy · 06/08/2025 13:52

I have a histroy of breast cancer on both sides of the family. Mum, aunts, grans.

I have never smoked, dont really drink (think a glass of bubbles at a wedding max), I work out regularly and the only other lifestyle factor I can work on is obesity. It was very scary being overweight, knowing I was battling against my weight and watching the people I love being treated for cancer.

Whats worse? The cost of cancer treatment or doing the best I can to work on the risk factors?

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 13:50

I don’t hate myself enough to pump my body full of unknown drugs either

What ‘unknown’ drugs do you mean? Is there a new medication out that hasn’t been rigorously tested/used for years in various forms?

SwingTheMonkey · 06/08/2025 13:50

LucasBuck · 06/08/2025 13:43

No OP, what people mean is they often like ASPECTS of being fat - the bigger boobs (as long as they aren’t so big as to cause discomfort), the bigger bum, and especially in theory, the being able to eat whatever you fancy within reason.

As someone who has been every size between a size 10 and a size 30, I can safely say if there was a magic pill/jab that would let you keep all those things (especially the being able to eat whatever you fancy part), whilst giving you a slim waist, face, arms and legs and without significant side effects, then we would all be taking it.

But I’ve been there and done that with Orlistat amongst others, back when that was the latest thing that everyone was taking. Until they weren’t and most people eventually gained the weight back anyway (and often some more). Wait a decade, and I suspect these jabs will be the same.

I’d only have to put on half a stone now (sadly easily done for me) and I’d be medically eligible for the jabs. But I’m going to wait for more long term reports to come out, as I suspect they are just another weight loss gimmick. Hopefully I’m wrong and they will work for people without them just regaining the weight again eventually.

But personally I suspect that for most people the only thing that will truly work long term is counselling to get to the root cause of overeating or poor food choices, then a willingness to eat a lower sugar/very limited junk diet for rest of your life. Which is easier said than done, so I can see why people are so tempted by this latest thing to supposedly help.

It’s so bloody tiresome hearing that fat people need counselling, or they’ll put all the weight back on. I definitely don’t need counselling. I ate massive portions of dinner because I gradually started eating the same size dinners as my much taller husband. I didn’t know what my tdee was and didn’t have a good grasp of how many calories were in the foods I ate. There’s no mental health issue here and I now know exactly how many calories I need to lose and maintain. I keep a tight check on my weight - something I’ve never done before.
Please stop assuming all fat people need mental health intervention, it’s simply not true.

ToffeePennie · 06/08/2025 13:49

I am fat.
I know I am fat.
I don’t “love” being this big - it’s annoying because of rubbing thighs/boob sweat/people look disgusted at you no matter what you eat etc. but I don’t hate myself enough to pump my body full of unknown drugs either.
I physically and medically cannot loose weight until I’ve had surgery (because dieting right now will make me even worse) so I’m waiting until September, and whilst I may never be svelte or slim, I know I can drop at least 3-4 dress sizes and feel better.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 13:48

goldenquestion · 06/08/2025 13:44

The thing I can NEVER get my head around is why people who don't take WLI, have any interest in the topic.

I've never smoked, so never had the desire to go and tell smokers trying to quit that the medication they are using to aid this is dangerous. If Mounjaro had never been rolled out for weight loss and the very same drug was just being used to treat diabetes, would people be going out of their way to tell diabetics of the dangers?

It's utterly bizarre!

It’s because generally, thin people don’t want fat people to get thin. They’ll lose their perceived advantage over them.

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 13:46

MyDeftDuck · 06/08/2025 13:18

Fat reducing jabs never entered my head when I was faced with having to lose weight to fend off impending health problems. Just like when I stopped smoking I knew the only person to do this for me……was ME.
Eating less and moving more, healthy choices (no they don’t have to be expensive foods) no UPF, no refined sugar……this was my journey and it works! And has cost the NHS zilch!!!

Brilliant. My Mounjaro cost the NHS ‘zilch’ too, as I paid for it. Just like the vast majority of people who take it.

Shizzlestix · 06/08/2025 13:46

bigyawn · 06/08/2025 11:47

For me it may be a personality matter. I don't like to take any medication without good cause. All medications have risks and side effects, so the use of them has to be justified for me. I would rather work on losing weight the 'hard way' but, if the doctor suddenly told me I was borderline for diabetes and my blood pressure was way too high, I might consider the jabs short term to get myself sorted.

But surely it’s a rare person that takes (or can even access) medication without ‘good cause’? I wouldn’t take a paracetamol if I didn’t have a headache, for example. Conversely, tho, surely you’d take medication, even preventatively, if your doctor told you to?

chipsticksmammy · 06/08/2025 13:45

MyHeartyCoralSnail · 06/08/2025 12:09

Best comment on the thread. The intellectual laziness of the “eat less/run around more” cult never ceases to amaze me.

Its very common. Just wait until the side effects of illness or medication catch up with them at some point. Same with the UPF crew.

MoVe MORe, EaT LeS$ yadda yadda yadda.

Someone shared a Reddit thread recently of Doctors saying they have told people to diet and exercise and it either doesnt work or doesnt last.

I tried to eat less and out train my illness, the result was even more weight gain and I got even sicker. Wasnt a good sight.

goldenquestion · 06/08/2025 13:44

The thing I can NEVER get my head around is why people who don't take WLI, have any interest in the topic.

I've never smoked, so never had the desire to go and tell smokers trying to quit that the medication they are using to aid this is dangerous. If Mounjaro had never been rolled out for weight loss and the very same drug was just being used to treat diabetes, would people be going out of their way to tell diabetics of the dangers?

It's utterly bizarre!

LucasBuck · 06/08/2025 13:43

No OP, what people mean is they often like ASPECTS of being fat - the bigger boobs (as long as they aren’t so big as to cause discomfort), the bigger bum, and especially in theory, the being able to eat whatever you fancy within reason.

As someone who has been every size between a size 10 and a size 30, I can safely say if there was a magic pill/jab that would let you keep all those things (especially the being able to eat whatever you fancy part), whilst giving you a slim waist, face, arms and legs and without significant side effects, then we would all be taking it.

But I’ve been there and done that with Orlistat amongst others, back when that was the latest thing that everyone was taking. Until they weren’t and most people eventually gained the weight back anyway (and often some more). Wait a decade, and I suspect these jabs will be the same.

I’d only have to put on half a stone now (sadly easily done for me) and I’d be medically eligible for the jabs. But I’m going to wait for more long term reports to come out, as I suspect they are just another weight loss gimmick. Hopefully I’m wrong and they will work for people without them just regaining the weight again eventually.

But personally I suspect that for most people the only thing that will truly work long term is counselling to get to the root cause of overeating or poor food choices, then a willingness to eat a lower sugar/very limited junk diet for rest of your life. Which is easier said than done, so I can see why people are so tempted by this latest thing to supposedly help.

Wistfullysleepy · 06/08/2025 13:36

You’re conflating two different things.

  1. body positivity
  2. being slimmer

When I was bigger there was virtually nothing I could do to get smaller. I didn’t want to be big. But as I was - and with little way out - I wanted to celebrate my body as it was.

When I got the option to lose weight I did.

doesn’t change the first scenario or the fact that I think we should accept all bodies.

Shizzlestix · 06/08/2025 13:35

goldenquestion · 06/08/2025 13:23

Cool, irrelevant but cool. Most people don't cost the NHS anything when taking WLI, as the criteria to get them for weight loss on the NHS is incredibly tough.

Yup. Everyone I know on the jabs is paying for them privately.

Shizzlestix · 06/08/2025 13:34

NewWin · 06/08/2025 09:54

I can't imagine anyone loves being fat really

Indeed. I know some people use their size as ‘plus’ models and bang on about how they love their ‘curves/juicy bum’ etc. They’re lying, imo. I know there are some very overweight influencers who appear successful , but I believe the tide, quite rightly, is turning on this. It’s an appalling influence to flaunt being very overweight and saying how it’s fine and ‘I’m probably fitter than a skinny person’. No, no, you’re really not.

Given the associated health issues, no way do they ‘love’ their bodies. Even buying clothes is a problem. Walking up a steep street is a problem, you end up out of breath, a sweaty mess and have to stop. I know, because I’ve lost half my body weight in the past 2 years, walked up a hill this week and didn’t even feel warm or uncomfortable.

Do I wish I’d been a ‘normal’ size instead of size 26 for years? Yes, of course. I’ve missed out being able to walk into a shop and buy whatever I wanted. I’ve missed out on doing activities eg diving because I would never have fit into a wetsuit. Couldn’t even ride my own horse in his latter years, I was way over his weight limit.

Smallsalt · 06/08/2025 13:30

@Brownbearwhitebear
The vast majority of people on GLP meds do it in secret, any form makes that obvious.
Why?
Because of the vile attitude of people like you.