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Why does everyone say they love being fat until they get their hands on skinny jabs?

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Holmints · 06/08/2025 09:46

I’m seeing this so much on social media. People screaming from the rooftops how they love their bodies. Hate comments come and they combat them with body positivity, I admired them so much.

Lately though, the very people who were oh-so-body-positive are popping back up five stone lighter. Some comment on it and some don’t, as if they’re waiting for people to ask. Hang on a minute, I thought you loved your big body? Did you love being fat or not?

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sweetpickle2 · 06/08/2025 14:45

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:35

I went out for dinner with a friend who told me she was using the jabs, but ate a burger and chips. The rest of us had realtively healthy choices (salad bowls and pasta w tomato sauce). It does seem to be a bit of 'well I'm using mounjaro so I can eat what I want' type situation.
I don't know anyone who is happy being larger - one of my other friends is obese but doesn't do much about it (she does some exercise but not cardio so it makes no difference to her weight and she eats a terrible diet imho). I also hate it when I'm bigger and much prefer my body when I can easily slide in to a size 12.

Your poor friend.

TheOriginalEmu · 06/08/2025 14:43

NewWin · 06/08/2025 09:54

I can't imagine anyone loves being fat really

I didn’t hate my body. It was fine and I was quite happy and didn’t think about my weight that much. Then I got cancer and needed a limb amputation. And that means if I wanted to walk again I needed to shift some of the weight so I did. But I don’t love myself any more or less before or after. It was just medically necessary,

usedtobeaylis · 06/08/2025 14:41

God these threads always follow the same old lines. Always about shaming and judging and people wanting to feel superior. Lose weight but not like that, love your body but not like that, have a balanced diet but not like that.

SwingTheMonkey · 06/08/2025 14:40

Velmy · 06/08/2025 14:33

The majority of people in that position - whether they admitted to it or not - almost certainly weren't 'happy' with how they looked/the impact their weight was having on their life/health. Saying that they were, was absolutely a coping mechanism (just like when they claimed they 'couldn't' lose weight for whatever reason) - it was an effort to convince others, and themselves.

I genuinely believe that the majority of those people were in that position because they weren't willing to regulate their food intake or do the requisite exercise to improve their situation.

So now that those people have found a cheat code - the ability to lose the weight without putting in the effort to exercise, or having the willpower to control their eating - of course they're going to be happy. They got their desired result, and can claim it was only possible via medical intervention, while maintaining their fantasy that it was nothing to do with them not moving enough and eating too much.

Tell us you’re a jealous slim person, threatened by fatties losing weight without telling us you’re a jealous slim person threatened by fatties losing weight…

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 14:40

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:38

But it's still not making a healthy choice is it and I'm sure you are supposed to rethink your way of eating otherwise you come off and put the weight back on.
Also, it's not just about cals, it's about nutrition too.

So you think someone trying to lose weight should never have a treat?
I don’t go out for meals often. When I do, I have whatever I want to eat. Overall, my diet is still balanced and I make healthy choices the rest of the time. One meal doesn’t change that.

usedtobeaylis · 06/08/2025 14:40

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:35

I went out for dinner with a friend who told me she was using the jabs, but ate a burger and chips. The rest of us had realtively healthy choices (salad bowls and pasta w tomato sauce). It does seem to be a bit of 'well I'm using mounjaro so I can eat what I want' type situation.
I don't know anyone who is happy being larger - one of my other friends is obese but doesn't do much about it (she does some exercise but not cardio so it makes no difference to her weight and she eats a terrible diet imho). I also hate it when I'm bigger and much prefer my body when I can easily slide in to a size 12.

You are allowed to eat a burger and chips. It wouldn't be my choice to work into my daily calories but I do factor in the odd treat, especially if I'm eating out.

Stop monitoring and judging your friends.

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 06/08/2025 14:39

samarrange · 06/08/2025 14:22

0.6ml is 600mg. 100mg per day (700mg per week) is an effective oral dose of thalidomide for some indications. (Thalidomide is still very much around and it's a pretty good drug apart from the effects in pregnant women.)

There are no studies demonstrating the safety of semaglutide in pregnancy. Some animal studies suggest an association with birth defects.

These things are complicated. I'm a believer in science, and obesity is a crippling problem for many. But I don't think you have to be a swivel-eyed antivaxxer to question whether an expensive course of injections of appetite suppressants that also have a number of immediately noticeable side-effects is right for you until we have learned more about the longer-term effects.

Edited

But Terzepatide (the main subject of this tread) been around, in regular usage, for 20 years. Many many drugs are not routinely tested during pregnancy. And we already know the long term effects of obesity and drinking too much alcohol.

LucasBuck · 06/08/2025 14:39

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 14:26

What's the success rate of having counselling to lose significant amounts of weight?

No idea without research. I’ve lost 10 stone and kept it off for over a decade now after counselling. What’s the stats for people keeping the weight loss off for over a decade using Mounjaro? Losing the weight (even significant amounts) is easy- I’ve met plenty of others who had done it with various diets. It’s keeping the weight off for more than a few years that’s a problem. I’d love to lose the final couple of stone- but I don’t want to risk yo- yoing and becoming obese again when I’ve kept that weight off this long.

ohsososo · 06/08/2025 14:38

plinkityplink · 06/08/2025 09:58

Everyone’? Really?

love being fat? No. Willing to inject myself with stuff that we don’t know the long term side effects for? No.

give it 30 years and the NHS could be dealing with the effects of these jabs. Just like the smoking ads of the 50s…

GLP1s have been used for diabetics for 20 years. Could something develop in another 20 years ( so 40 years after the person started)?
maybe
but highly unlikely

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:38

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 14:36

Or maybe she’d accounted for the burger and chips in her daily calorie allowance, because she was going out for a meal and it was a treat?

But it's still not making a healthy choice is it and I'm sure you are supposed to rethink your way of eating otherwise you come off and put the weight back on.
Also, it's not just about cals, it's about nutrition too.

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 14:38

samarrange · 06/08/2025 14:22

0.6ml is 600mg. 100mg per day (700mg per week) is an effective oral dose of thalidomide for some indications. (Thalidomide is still very much around and it's a pretty good drug apart from the effects in pregnant women.)

There are no studies demonstrating the safety of semaglutide in pregnancy. Some animal studies suggest an association with birth defects.

These things are complicated. I'm a believer in science, and obesity is a crippling problem for many. But I don't think you have to be a swivel-eyed antivaxxer to question whether an expensive course of injections of appetite suppressants that also have a number of immediately noticeable side-effects is right for you until we have learned more about the longer-term effects.

Edited

The reference to pregnancy is... a tangent, isn't it? It's not supposed to be taken in pregnancy, but also there are loads and loads of drugs that people take - including over the counter ones - where there is no proof it's safe in pregnancy, or indeed where it is known it's not, and no one ever suggests that this is a reason that non-pregnant patients shouldn't take them. As you note, thalidomide is in fact still used, just never in pregnancy.

Glowingup · 06/08/2025 14:38

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:35

I went out for dinner with a friend who told me she was using the jabs, but ate a burger and chips. The rest of us had realtively healthy choices (salad bowls and pasta w tomato sauce). It does seem to be a bit of 'well I'm using mounjaro so I can eat what I want' type situation.
I don't know anyone who is happy being larger - one of my other friends is obese but doesn't do much about it (she does some exercise but not cardio so it makes no difference to her weight and she eats a terrible diet imho). I also hate it when I'm bigger and much prefer my body when I can easily slide in to a size 12.

Has she lost weight?

usedtobeaylis · 06/08/2025 14:38

Brownbearwhitebear · 06/08/2025 10:03

I'm sick of hearing about these injections - the people who take them never seem to shut up about it. I think that's the bigger issue - attention seeking (usually on SM) from both 'body positive' people and the jab users.

Most of the time when I see people talking about them it's within the context of supporting each other and asking questions, or people who don't take them never shutting the fuck up about how it's a 'quick fix' and endlessly concern trolling. So there's an easy way to cut mentions in half - people stop goading. Easy.

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:37

Allseeingallknowing · 06/08/2025 14:14

I thought the singer Lizzo did, but now she’s a shadow of her former self…

She did. She's one person that comes to mind when I hear about 'body positivity' and then she lost all the weight!

SomeOfTheTrouble · 06/08/2025 14:36

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:35

I went out for dinner with a friend who told me she was using the jabs, but ate a burger and chips. The rest of us had realtively healthy choices (salad bowls and pasta w tomato sauce). It does seem to be a bit of 'well I'm using mounjaro so I can eat what I want' type situation.
I don't know anyone who is happy being larger - one of my other friends is obese but doesn't do much about it (she does some exercise but not cardio so it makes no difference to her weight and she eats a terrible diet imho). I also hate it when I'm bigger and much prefer my body when I can easily slide in to a size 12.

Or maybe she’d accounted for the burger and chips in her daily calorie allowance, because she was going out for a meal and it was a treat?

Goatymum · 06/08/2025 14:35

I went out for dinner with a friend who told me she was using the jabs, but ate a burger and chips. The rest of us had realtively healthy choices (salad bowls and pasta w tomato sauce). It does seem to be a bit of 'well I'm using mounjaro so I can eat what I want' type situation.
I don't know anyone who is happy being larger - one of my other friends is obese but doesn't do much about it (she does some exercise but not cardio so it makes no difference to her weight and she eats a terrible diet imho). I also hate it when I'm bigger and much prefer my body when I can easily slide in to a size 12.

usedtobeaylis · 06/08/2025 14:34

I find it annoying that we're still in a place even on this thread where people think your either take WLIs OR improve your diet and exercise. I'm working my backside off here, just as I have every other time I've tried to lose weight in the last 10 years.

Velmy · 06/08/2025 14:33

The majority of people in that position - whether they admitted to it or not - almost certainly weren't 'happy' with how they looked/the impact their weight was having on their life/health. Saying that they were, was absolutely a coping mechanism (just like when they claimed they 'couldn't' lose weight for whatever reason) - it was an effort to convince others, and themselves.

I genuinely believe that the majority of those people were in that position because they weren't willing to regulate their food intake or do the requisite exercise to improve their situation.

So now that those people have found a cheat code - the ability to lose the weight without putting in the effort to exercise, or having the willpower to control their eating - of course they're going to be happy. They got their desired result, and can claim it was only possible via medical intervention, while maintaining their fantasy that it was nothing to do with them not moving enough and eating too much.

Thingyfanding · 06/08/2025 14:32

Brownbearwhitebear · 06/08/2025 10:03

I'm sick of hearing about these injections - the people who take them never seem to shut up about it. I think that's the bigger issue - attention seeking (usually on SM) from both 'body positive' people and the jab users.

I can imagine it’s quite annoying - especially if you haven’t any weight issues yourself. It’s incredibly freeing not thinking about food all the time and being drawn to healthier choices instead of the crap food that just depresses you and makes you feel terrible. You feel wonderful, so it’s true, people have become preoccupied with the jabs - but deservedly so in my opinion.

TheAdeptTaupeBear · 06/08/2025 14:29

Nobody likes being fat. If there was a magic button to press to automatically make you a healthy/slim body, I'm sure that 99% would press it. All of this glorifying obesity is utter bs. Just an excuse to be fat and lazy.

goldenquestion · 06/08/2025 14:27

samarrange · 06/08/2025 14:22

0.6ml is 600mg. 100mg per day (700mg per week) is an effective oral dose of thalidomide for some indications. (Thalidomide is still very much around and it's a pretty good drug apart from the effects in pregnant women.)

There are no studies demonstrating the safety of semaglutide in pregnancy. Some animal studies suggest an association with birth defects.

These things are complicated. I'm a believer in science, and obesity is a crippling problem for many. But I don't think you have to be a swivel-eyed antivaxxer to question whether an expensive course of injections of appetite suppressants that also have a number of immediately noticeable side-effects is right for you until we have learned more about the longer-term effects.

Edited

And for this reason, you are very clearly told to avoid WLI in pregnancy.

Semaglutide has been used to treat diabetes for almost a decade. Being honest, if the drug wasn't being used for weight loss and purely for diabetics, would you be worrying about them using the drug prescribed by their doctor?

Gettingonwithgettingon · 06/08/2025 14:26

LucasBuck · 06/08/2025 14:23

If you read what I wrote, you’d realise I am a fat person still (and used to very fat in fact, 23 stone so morbidly obese before counselling helped me to just be “overweight”). I didn’t say for ALL fat people - if you noticed I said the word “personally” , based on my own experiences and to be honest talking to the many, many others I met at weight loss groups over the years who felt the same way. It might not be for you, but I and others found it very helpful and I think counselling can be a reasonable thing for some people to consider before trying weight loss jabs first that could have significant side effects.

What's the success rate of having counselling to lose significant amounts of weight?

LucasBuck · 06/08/2025 14:23

SwingTheMonkey · 06/08/2025 13:50

It’s so bloody tiresome hearing that fat people need counselling, or they’ll put all the weight back on. I definitely don’t need counselling. I ate massive portions of dinner because I gradually started eating the same size dinners as my much taller husband. I didn’t know what my tdee was and didn’t have a good grasp of how many calories were in the foods I ate. There’s no mental health issue here and I now know exactly how many calories I need to lose and maintain. I keep a tight check on my weight - something I’ve never done before.
Please stop assuming all fat people need mental health intervention, it’s simply not true.

If you read what I wrote, you’d realise I am a fat person still (and used to very fat in fact, 23 stone so morbidly obese before counselling helped me to just be “overweight”). I didn’t say for ALL fat people - if you noticed I said the word “personally” , based on my own experiences and to be honest talking to the many, many others I met at weight loss groups over the years who felt the same way. It might not be for you, but I and others found it very helpful and I think counselling can be a reasonable thing for some people to consider before trying weight loss jabs first that could have significant side effects.

samarrange · 06/08/2025 14:22

BriceNobeslovesMurielHeslop · 06/08/2025 14:11

A 0.6ml subcutaneous dose, once a week, is hardly “pumping yourself full of drugs”. Do you meticulously research everything you eat? Do you abstain from alcohol? Do you take the contraceptive pill?

0.6ml is 600mg. 100mg per day (700mg per week) is an effective oral dose of thalidomide for some indications. (Thalidomide is still very much around and it's a pretty good drug apart from the effects in pregnant women.)

There are no studies demonstrating the safety of semaglutide in pregnancy. Some animal studies suggest an association with birth defects.

These things are complicated. I'm a believer in science, and obesity is a crippling problem for many. But I don't think you have to be a swivel-eyed antivaxxer to question whether an expensive course of injections of appetite suppressants that also have a number of immediately noticeable side-effects is right for you until we have learned more about the longer-term effects.

Ginburee · 06/08/2025 14:14

I agree, I am overweight and envious of other people's losses. I have epilepsy and other issues and am way to wary of any unknown side effects.