Was I being unreasonable posting about this on FB?

And how is him struggling (if) because of his own actions a concern for OP???
Especially considering that his actions fucked up her and her children’s lives.

It’s just a tacky thing to post. It’s airing your dirty laundry in my opinion. Share the news with your parents or best friend but don’t put things like this on social media. No one needs to give details about their financial status or home ownership details on Facebook for gods sake. We paid off our mortgage recently, it was an absolutely momentous day in our own little world, we are so proud of ourselves. But no way in the world would I want Jenny Baker a girl I went to school with 30 years ago to know this or the bloke four doors down that I say hello to if he’s washing his car.

You wanted the post to be ‘a fuck you’ to your ex, but now he’s kicked off, the Police are involved and all your friends will be gossiping about the post and the fact it’s now been taken down. Was that all worth it? Being private is such a dignified trait in my opinion.

Who sent him a copy? Some friends they are. He is also a massive knob.

I posted on Facebook when I was divorced from my ex. I set it so that none of his family who I was still friends with could see.
Mainly I posted because I'd never even mentioned on there that we'd split up, but had posted about my new bf (who I started dating 2.5 years after we separated) so that people didn't think there was an overlap.

I'd want to share that, too. But I'd edit who could see the post fairly mercilessly, keeping it just to very good friends and my own supportive relatives, and block it from being seen by anyone who is still in contact with him.

The Facebook facility to choose who can see one's individual posts, isn't used enough, imo. I suspect that many people don't know it exists.

But well done on your achievement @fortygin . This episode aside, it must feel amazing!

It is proof that living your best life is the best revenge - particularly when it's someone so self-absorbed that they are apparently hugely invested in your life when it really isn't theirs anymore.

Oh and definitely remove and block anybody who is still friends with the ex shitwit on FB.

I don't do FB but I would be thrilled for a friend in this situation.

I love celebrating life's wins with my friends, so yes I would be delighted to hear this from a friend.

Ignore the twat, if he’s talked to the police, I bet they laughed at him!
You don’t have to put up with his tantrums anymore, block him.

I would very definitely re open Facebook and leave the post up and not respond to this abusive shitwit in any way. But that's just me.

Oop sounds like someone is bitter your not letting the grass grow under your feet and moving forwards

It's been 8 years does he really think things will never change? He probably feels all superior that he has a house a girl and his own happiness he resents you having yours

How sad of him

I dont think you should have to take it down, but I also dont think you needed to post it.
I appreciate different people use FB for all sorts of things, but its pretty personal, and if you have shared friends or family with him on fb its not going to sit well with someone.

It's up to you if you feel compelled to take it down or just think 'fuck it'.

I'd bin the 'friend' that shared this with him.

Also, you dont need the extra validation and 'well dones' from fb likes and comments.

You should feel proud enough of yourself, and if you want to share with others, message a friend or phone one maybe for a good conversation.

Not unreasonable at all. Or juvenile or a dickhead move. He is though, for getting so angry about it and threatening you, who the fuck does he think he is? If and when you do reactivate your FB have a look through your friend list and delete and block people who are still friends with him. The person sending him the screenshot is a shit house who deliberately stirred up drama and is no friend to you.

You've done absolutely nothing wrong. He's a bully, whose ego has taken a bashing. Tough. Well done in getting where you are xx 👏

Meh. So he's pissed off you aren't weeping and wailing and wishing he'd come back to you and he's only got 30% of the value because he tried to fuck you over financially and failed. Big deal.

You aren't beholden to him anymore, so you can post whatever you want that's legal (and 'I'm happy I own my home' is perfectly legal).

This is worth nothing more than rolling your eyes and getting on with your lovely life without him ruining it.

I would be happy for a friend in those circumstances. She can post what she wants.

I wouldn't deactivate Facebook over it OP, but I would lock it down. Make sure it's private and only your own friends and family are on it. That way your nosey ex and his flying monkeys won't see what you post.

Well done for reporting that dickheads threat to you.
Congratulations on moving forward without the dickhead.
Ignore him completely.

It's fuck all to do with him. He wasn't mentioned, because he's not part of your life. I guess being a pointless cheating bastard makes you bitter, rather than happy. He can suck it up. Glad you've reported the threat. Let him throw his little tantrum and ditch the.mutual contact who has been stirring the pot.

Probably doesn't fit the usual narrative of 'the bitch took my house' that he's spouted. Reinstate your FB and put a cryptic post up about, spies or being watched. You can block people from seeing it, so don't make it visible to your children.

wash your dirty linen in public?
i dont really know what you wrote exactly
and what the point was

Me too...

With a "looks like i have upset someone here 🙄 "

Fuck him, its your Facebook, you put what you want.

@CopperWhite I don't think OP owes her ex 'nice' given that he has form for not being particularly nice himself.

Well done, OP. I 100% get that this must feel like a wonderful achievement -one which I aim to emulate. I would be SO proud in your shoes.

I'd have been tempted to screenshot his abusive message and post that onto FB as well, but that's because I'm a fucking juvenile dickhead 😁

Keep your FB and post what you like. But lock down your privacy settings and unfriend anyone who might send your posts to your ex. They are not your friends.