Was I being unreasonable posting about this on FB?

I don’t think you’ve done anything wrong- his ego is bruised from you publicly celebrating (and you have every right to be!) it’s been 8 years and you are now free! I would shout it from the rooftops!! Well done!

he also doesn’t get to kick off about your DP moving in- it’s your house and your rules- he gets no say, unless you signed something to that effect?? So he’s basically angry that he didn’t get to control you further and forbid you from moving your partner in as he didn’t know!! Did he think you were never going to live with anyone ever again??

I think your biggest problem is not your ex. It’s your lack of faith in yourself. You sound like you haven’t yet started to believe that he and his opinions are now completely irrelevant to you, unless they concern your 17 yr old and your 14 yr old.

Well he is livid Well so fucking what? How is that your problem? Why should you care? You aren’t seeking his approval. You don’t need his approval.

someone sent him a copy of the post and Ive been sent a message calling me a fucking juvenile dickhead and to ‘sort it or he will’ He’s threatening the mother of his children over something insignificant to him, and he’s calling you a juvenile dickhead? Who the fuck does he think he is? 😂 He doesn’t get a say in what you can and can’t post! I’m glad you’ve spoken to the police about it. What you also need to do, after years of being convinced that he’s in charge, is start telling yourself that he’s no longer in charge of you. He might still think he is, but he’s wrong. Very, very wrong.

I get that it was maybe silly posting on fb and I have never posted anything personal but was just so delighted with myself being in a position to secure this home on my own Why was it silly? I don’t have fb, but you weren’t airing your dirty laundry, you didn’t name him or tell anyone how abusive he’d been, or what a cheat he was, and it’s not something that would hurt your DC. Fuck him. You’ve achieved something massive. You’re allowed to celebrate that.

He has threatened legal action as in divorce matrimonial agreement in June I said I had no plans to co habit but did give him a heads up last week that my partner of 7.5 years would possibly be moving in in November. (After looong discussions with my dc who live here 21,19,17 and 14) 😂 I can just see it now. ‘Judge, when I left Fortygin after years of subjecting her to abusive behaviour and unfaithfulness, she said that she had no plans to live with anyone, and now she’s just told me she might choose to live with someone in the future. It’s outrageous that she isn’t living alone for the rest of her life and I want compensation as I feel I’ve been deceived. If I thought she was ever going to be happy again, I never would have let her buy me out’ 😂😂 Fuck off you twat! Let him threaten you with whatever he likes. Go and stand in front of the mirror and tell yourself that he has no say in what you choose to do. None at all. He’s ridiculous. Laugh at him because he’s pathetic. He doesn’t like that he’s lost control over you. You just need to start believing it.

wibu?! I’m not in a great place right now No, of course you weren’t being unreasonable. You just have to start believing that you’re free of him.

fb has been deactivated btw Why? If you want to have a fb account, that’s your choice. The only other person who has any sort of input in that decision is Mark Zuckerberg. Every other person on the planet can go fuck themselves, including your ex. Barring libellous or slanderous statements, you can post whatever you bloody like. So please reactivate your account. If he contacts you again, then tell him that you have zero interest in communicating with him unless it directly concerns the youngest two children and any threats will be reported to the police. And then grey rock him for anything else other than child related communications.

Who can see your FB? Friends and family or the public? Someone has obviously not hit your best interests at heart do you may want to review that.
I probably would have posted ‘after 8 years I now fully own my house happy days’ or some such vague thing - those who know would know what I mean. But well done hope you can finally move on.

I wouldn't be bothered by his opinion. It's worthless, as is he. It's a pathetic attempt by him to control the narrative .

He's angry because your post didn't reflect his narrative Op, he's told people you didn't care he left or you stole his house, that one sentence showed up his lies. Congrats on owning your own home

What? What would be the point of that? You can't post on your own page with a different name anyway as far as I know. You can post anonymously in groups, but not on your own page.
It's not that personal anyway. Buying a house is normal news for people to share with their friends.

Yes, of course her friends are interested in her news.

Fair enough. I realise I see things from a different perspective to most - I’m a SMBC who will never bring a bloke into my DC lives until they are adults .I have unfortunately seen too many mixed households where the kids (often teens) have been emotionally messed around when there has been another break up. But hopefully you will be one of lucky ones - obviously there are always exceptions!

He's desperate to try and continue to control your life. You can say what you want on Facebook or anywhere else.

Just block him on everything and tell him if he continues attempting contact you'll get a restraining order against him.

Fuck him. Him and his opinions are nothing to you.

Enjoy your lovely house with your fantastic partner and let him spin.

He's a prick and you can post whatever you like on your FB. Block anyone who is likely to tattle to your ex, you are not a child to be told what to do. And enjoy your home now that it is ALL yours.

I'm not personally one for posting about financial stuff, but I'd be tickled pink for a friend or family member who'd bagged themselves some security. Your whole worldview changes when you don't have to worry about the basics so much.

I think it would be a mistake to take your post down. Pandering to bullies encourages them and what's more, this particular bully did a bunk eight years ago. You responded by refusing to sit on your derrière and cry and he's taking that as an affront. Well let him; he ceased to be your concern when he took up with his lady friend. However, in your situation, I'd go through my SM friends list with a ruthless eye and block everyone I thought still had a connection to him. Their sharing of your post was intended to cause you trouble and who needs friends like that?

Well done on buying him out!
As long as the post was factual you've done nothing wrong in posting to your personal page. Sharing it far and wide to humiliate him may be crossing a line but I assume your friends and family already know what he put you through so a post with them celebrating your success is fine.

Social media causes no end of trouble.

But honestly, I don't see the problem. I put a post on when I bought a house because I was so thrilled and just wanted to share. That's effectively what you've done. It's security for you and your kids (whether grown up or not) for the future. Why shouldn't you?

Reactivate your account and just get rid of the people who are feeding information to your ex.

This is such a non-issue it's unreal.

Well, he shouldn't have cheated, then he would still be married. If he is struggling, it's entirely his own doing.

Posting about personal financial matters on Facebook is tacky and was bound to wind people up.

It'll only wind up dickhead exes - who don't matter - and disloyal flying monkeys - who also don't matter.

Anyone else would be delighted for a friend or relative in the OP's shoes.

Well how dare you be happy, independent and successful??

Ignore him.
Keep copies (photos) of threats and a log.

None of his damn business is it?

Why are so many people saying it’s a stupid thing to post

be proud @fortygin. You have achieved something by yourself

assume you are divorced now. If been with new partner 7+ yrs the ex must be in the past many years ago

he can stay there !

I would wonder who told him out of your friends on fb as they are not a friend !

It is irrelevant whether you were unreasonable or not: He has no business telling you what to do and absolutely no business threatening you.

Take no notice - hahaha at what I imagine the police's response would be if he goes to them whining that the woman he left 8 years ago posted that she had gained ownership of her house.

Neither it is any of his business who moves into your house.

Personally I would lock down my Fb and have a good look at what sort of trouble-stirring spiteful dick goes running to him with your posts. And personally I don't post explicit messages about personal stuff including this sort of thing.

Look forwards, not back - you are free - you don't have to invent chains by being stressed by his attempts to harrass you.

Block whoever sent him the copy. They're no friend of yours.

You wanted to share a big moment in your life with friends and family on social media. That's not unreasonable even if others have different views on privacy. Your Ex does not get to tell you what you can and cannot do. He can ask you to remove it (nicely), not threaten you to do so. It's dented his ego and he's probably getting asked questions about it. His problem given what he did to end the marriage.

A friend had something similar a few years back. Her marriage had ended and she used that as an opportunity to improve herself and undertook a degree, passing first class. She did it whilst a single parent on a low income and struggling financially whilst her Ex refused maintenance. Good for her. She posted about her success and intention to move on and look for work in her new field of expertise, leaving poverty behind. He was furious and threatened her too. She ignored it and followed up with a second post which we, her friends, fully supported.

Now, she is forging ahead in her new career, going from strength to strength and people respect her for her hard work and commitment and her kids are also thriving. Her Ex? He's still bitter and resentful and has had a string of failed relationships. The FB post was not the problem here. Her Ex was.

so it was an empty threat?

If he can’t do anything now before you get the decree absolute- ignore. If he can go back and ask for an amendment then seek legal advice.

Well done you and is just ignore him or give him a 👍

I wouldn’t give a flying fuck about his opinion and any messages from him would be met with a laughing emoji or just being ignored. His opinion is nothing to you now. Let him stew in his own rage sea of twatishness. Congratulations on moving your life forwards op.

If you really must post such personal things on facebook, do it with a different name so nobody can identify you or anyone concerning you. It wasn't fair, or necessary, for you to do it that way.

He'll calm down but I don't blame him for being upset by it. It's not just your business, it's his.

People share far too much on facebook. It is embarrassing, silly and pointless.