To ask how you use unpaid parental leave

I take two weeks each summer tacked on the back of two weeks annual leave to get most of the summer holidays off with the kids. It works out as similar cost as summer clubs.

Someone from my work used it to support their ND child through GCSEs and then through A Levels. She had multiple children but think she used all her leave for all children on this as her NT children didn’t need the same support.

I haven’t used it as can’t lose the money but I wish I had used it to take an extra months maternity leave

I have found that employers can be quite flexible when it comes to parental leave.

My employer allowed me to use it as 1 day per week rather than go on a part-time contract. The benefit was retaining full holiday allowance and easily returning to full-time work.

My husband took 1-2 weeks each summer to manage holiday childcare.

Different friends have had different arrangements. Some did 1 day per week like I did. One friend took 2 half-days per week. Another took 3 weeks in the summer along with AL, and her husband took the same. They overlapped for a family holiday and then covered must summer hols between them.

So it's worth having a conversation with your employer about what they're open to. But it can be a good idea to keep some to cover school holidays - clubs are expensive and the times are usually a pain.

I use it. I have four children, so lots of Parental Leave weeks to take (18 weeks per child to use before child is 18 years old).

I take 4 weeks unpaid each year, at times when I am booking a full week anyway (you have to take full week blocks, unless disabled child or employer allows days).

People ask me how I can afford it, but taking 4 weeks unpaid is the same as working 4.5 days per week over the year. Obviously the £££ hit all comes in the months you take the leave, but it is the equivalent of 4.5 days per week.

You are limited to 4 weeks per child per year, so you couldn’t use it one week per month.

I use it to help cover school holidays.

Yes. Ideal if your only option during school holidays is paid childcare. When daycare is £70+ per child per day it makes perfect financial sense to take unpaid leave. I take 2 or 3 weeks every summer, as do some colleagues.

A few years ago dh used 12 weeks in a block (4 weeks x 3 dc). He'd not long set up a business and he used the 12 weeks to ensure it was viable before taking the leap and handing his notice in.

Obviously not what it's for but no one was checking!

I used it last year for the big school holidays. I did use 2 weeks but due to my role requirements I split them up with a working week in-between (my bosses preferred option) I actually found it okay and I planned it so one week came out of one months pay and the second week out the other so it wasn't such a shock.

Your supposed to get 18 weeks per child over 18 years of working but who actually tracks that unless you stay in the same job? I assume there's some kind of record.

No it's not, you have to give a certain amount of notice so it is very similar to annual leave just unpaid and only for parents

I work for the nhs and we (in our trust - this varies by trusts) are currently allowed to buy one weeks extra annual leave (which I do) and my 37.5 hrs are deducted out my salary monthly so I loose just 3 hrs pay a month but it gives me another week off which is helpful for the school holidays etc… They can withdraw this and have to give I think 6 months notice prior to 1st April when it starts again for the new year so Sept/Oct this year they could withdraw this.

Ive never used any of my entitlement personally but next summer my childminder is going on holiday for 4 weeks and so I may look to take advantage of this as I don’t have enough annual leave to cover all of this.

Depends on the employers policy. Where i work, they HAVE to approve the time you request. Its actually really annoying if you have people in your team who decide they all want a month off in August and you arent able to say no..

In the nursery years we used 1 or two weeks as a main holiday which freed up annual leave for one day a time things like covering a child’s illness. During the school years my partner used his for full weeks holiday leaving the annual leave for him having holidays on the days I worked over the summer (I was part time).

I took a week last year to care for DD whilst husband was away on a foreign business trip. I was working termtime only so had no annual leave to take. DD is due major surgery in the next 6 months requiring a 7-10 day hospital stay. We will have to use parental leave then to support her.

They don’t have to accept the dates you’ve asked for but have to show it’s because it will affect the business. They also have to offer another suitable date within 6 months of the one you originally requested.

I’m taking 4 weeks this year in total at different times throughout the year.

I only started using it when DS was unable to attend school due to illness from year 8 onwards. I hadn't given it much thought before. Initially, I was allowed to use it to take one day per week off for 10 weeks (using up 2 weeks parental leave) but it is really intended to be taken in 1 week blocks. After that, I tended to use it for planned holidays as they were in full week blocks and it left me with more annual leave to take ad hoc days as and when needed.

My son was home educated in years 10 and 11 so taking unpaid leave along with flexible hours, home working and annual leave allowed me to spend more time with him and support him thoughout his GCSEs. I did take the full 4 weeks those last couple of years but it really was a massive help. I should add, I was able to continue to work full time while home educating as by that age he didn't need looking after and did online courses/self study for most of it. My job was to facilitate and motivate and then pick up on things like exam prep, life skills and PHSE! I didn't use the full 18 weeks in the end because I was late to the party but I was glad to have the option when it was needed, especially as a single parent.

I’ve only just started to use mine now DD is mid way through primary. I use it as extra annual leave (albeit unpaid) to cover the school holidays. Previously I didn’t need it so much as I was part time. I’m now full time and in a position financially that I can lose a weeks pay. It’s a bit more than 75% of your pay as there are 52 weeks in the year not 48 and factoring in tax adjustments etc

You got me all excited. The first 4 weeks paid is for NHS staff only.

Single parent here. I didn’t use it at all in the nursery years or primary school years as there were always childcare/sports camp options available. Once they get to ~10, they start to age out of these options. Since that age I have taken 2 weeks per year, one in Easter holidays and the other at October half term. My child cannot be alone for long periods and planning in this way leaves me the more flexible annual leave to take in odd days throughout the year as needed. By having two separate weeks about six months apart, the unpaid part doesn’t bite quite so hard and can be planned for. It also helps (a bit like paying into a pension) to bring me down a tax bracket over the year!

It wasn't a thing when mine were young but my staff use it to cover a week of the long summer holidays, and that's what I would have used it for too. Thats where I always felt myself falling over with my eldest 2. Practically nowhere offered the hours I needed (most were 9 to 3 or 9 to 4). My kids weren't sporty.
I know the pre school years cost a fortune in nursery fees but they are geared up for working parents. It's a breeze compared to 14 weeks to cover on 5 weeks holiday

It's not something I've ever known anyone to use to be honest in our department and we'd know if they had as they'd obviously have had over normal amount of annual leave and because we all talk to each other. I don't think it would be accepted very happily even though it's in the contract as we are just so busy.

I disagree it's for emergencies though in my work as we get paid for stuff like that. I got a week paid special leave when my child was admitted to hospital and a day when another was sick and I've had two half days when I've been sent to hospital with them from doctors appointments.

I've just realised I've only a year until both dc's are 18. I should make the most of the parental leave left.

I don't know anyone that uses it to cover normal school holidays. Here it is generally used for planned surgery and hospital time for DC, as my DC will likely need surgery in the future and time off school for that I save mine for this eventuality.

A lot of people don't seem to understand this is separate from unpaid emergency leave - it has to be booked in a planned way. I'm in Scotland so the 1st 4 weeks are paid. You can generally use a max of 4 weeks per child per year.
We didn't use any with DC1 before she started school.
My DH used his after DC2 was born (DC1 had just begun P1 at that point) so he got his paid paternity leave then 4 more weeks off with us - he used 2 of his paid weeks per child.

So I've got 8 weeks paid leave to use, 28 unpaid to use over the next 16 years (DC2 is nearly 2 now). DH has 4 paid and 28 unpaid left. Our plan is to use some to cover school holidays and the half day week when DC2 transitions to school.

When it was first brought in I was a teenager and my dad used a whole chunk to be off with me during my study leave for my exams. It was fab - he spent loads of time helping me revise, testing me on past papers etc. Our intention is to try and save up enough to do similar with our DCs once they're that age.

I only use it for when the kids are ill or when I’m genuinely stuck for childcare. I’m not keen to lose pay, I don’t get paid much as it is.

A friend of mine had to use some when her child was having half days at the beginning of starting school.

Thanks for this, it will be my exact scenario (the week unpaid will put me back on basic rate)

Using it for the first time this year (one 8 year old) but plan to every year from now on or until she doesn't want my company in the holidays.