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Why tell the receptionist why I'm seeing the doctor

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Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

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Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 19/06/2025 16:17

tuvamoodyson · 19/06/2025 13:52

She pushed a calculator IN YOUR FACE??? Did it hurt???

It's just a saying were I live when something is shoved in your direction to prove they are correct, but 6 tablets a day for 28 days is 168 she was saying it should last 56 days and used a calculator to try and prove it

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 16:08

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:51

And it’s normally receptionists who do the triaging

I know. Not sure what point you're making.

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 15:54

Papergirl1968 · 19/06/2025 07:46

That is really rude. I’m a GP receptionist and we always stress we aren’t medically qualified. However we do work darned hard, under huge pressure, and take a lot of flack and abuse from patients, all for minimum wage.
I live locally and many of my neighbours are patients but I respect their confidentiality and frankly I’m not interested in their ailments, other than to get them in with the right clinician.
Most of our patients now fill in online triage forms and we have a quick look, mark as urgent for under fives and over 75s, and forward straight to a GP. We do fill in the forms for those who can’t and we have to ask for some details so it can be triaged, but if someone really doesn’t want to say, that’s ok.
I’m kind, compassionate and helpful, and go the extra mile, not a dragon like people often think of us, and frequently patients express their appreciation which is lovely to hear.

You sound like one of the good ones and we need more like you. But if you've been in the job for any length of time, presumably you've come across some receptionists who are rude/abrasive/unhelpful, etc?

People definitely shouldn't tar an entire profession with one brush, and the receptionists at our place have been super helpful to me recently and I'm grateful. And I couldn't do your job, I know receptionists take a lot of unwarranted flak and it's not right. However, I do think some receptionists are in the wrong job and shouldn't be working with people.

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:51

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 15:49

Speaking to someone and being triaged aren't the same thing...

And it’s normally receptionists who do the triaging

ruethewhirl · 19/06/2025 15:49

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:40

Who do you think you should speak to when you ring up for an appointment?

Speaking to someone and being triaged aren't the same thing...

Parker231 · 19/06/2025 15:40

Alonebutmarried · 19/06/2025 08:00

This really winds me up - GP receptionists are not even remotely medically trained, and should not be triaging patients.

Who do you think you should speak to when you ring up for an appointment?

dogcatkitten · 19/06/2025 15:14

CassandraWebb · 19/06/2025 13:57

That's lovely for you.
Other people have a chronic health condition or care for someone with a chronic health condition that means GP visits are inevitable. We aren't going there for fun.

Who said you were, but if I ring up I know nothing about them and they know nothing about me. I would be relying on the receptionist to point me in the right direction. A lot more things seem to be outsourced, dealt with by a pharmacy, physio, specialist nurses or you can bypass the GP for altogether (according to this and other threads) but I would have no idea. I could just ask for a GP appointment and expect them to make one blind, but it could well be a waste of time for me and the GP. If you know exactly why you need to specifically see the GP for, something like a chronic problem, surely it is easy enough to just tell the receptionist.

Although I have been pretty healthy my DH has some serious health problems and has treatments by the nurses at the GPs (specified by his hospital consultant) he just rings up and says can you make my 3m appointment for xyz on or about a specific date and I need the prescription a week before to make sure it's available, and it's all arranged. He was seeing the GP in the past when he was first diagnosed but now it's all done between the hospital and the GP nurses. He also has various repeat prescriptions for other problems that are all dealt with very professionally.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 19/06/2025 15:12

Receptionists are usually sharp with people who are rude to them. If the receptionist comes across rude and unkind then ask yourself why that might be.

Because they think they know better than you? I went into reception to chase up a referral to a particular consultant that I'd discussed with my GP. She rolled her eyes and asked me why I thought I was being referred. I explained I was switching from private to NHS, the consultant had asked me to get a GP referral and he had agreed but it looked like it had been missed. She had the cheek to say it doesn't work like that and didn't bother looking at my notes! I suggested she check the letter from the consultant that I'd emailed and it would explain everything. When she'd bothered to do that I finally got my referral done. All she had to do was read the notes and not presume she knew best!

SemperIdem · 19/06/2025 14:34

Alondra · 19/06/2025 13:14

This thread is not about retail or hospitality. It's about health and making an appointment with a doctor.

And no, it's not the two sides of the same coin.

I’m well aware what the thread is about. I was making a comparison. One you’re welcome to disagree with, of course.

Bonbonthechewyone · 19/06/2025 14:23

Alonebutmarried · 19/06/2025 08:00

This really winds me up - GP receptionists are not even remotely medically trained, and should not be triaging patients.

Receptionists are trained to triage calls. If there is a particular concern about a patient, they will speak to a GP immediately. Triage exists so that the 28 year old with a bad cold wanting a same day appointment gets signposted to the pharmacy, and an 85 year old with abdominal issues asking for a routine appointment is told to come in that morning. Urgent appointments are for those that genuinely need to be seen that day, not the slightly unwell.

It's a low paid role that requires an awful lot of knowledge. It really doesn't help when people who know nothing about the health service make ridiculous comments like yours.

IamMaz · 19/06/2025 14:19

My neighbour is a receptionist at a surgery. She says she needs to know to give best advice to the patient and establish how urgent an appointment is so she can book it with the most appropriate person. She’s far too busy to just be nosey and has probably heard all symptoms etc anyway!

Cattenberg · 19/06/2025 14:19

dogcatkitten · 19/06/2025 13:40

How many people go that often that they would know all this? I last saw a GP in 2018, only had the odd vaccination since then, nurses all seemed nice, but I don't know anything else about them. I don't even know which Doctor's work there now let alone their specialities or how nice they are.

I hope you realise how lucky you are.

CassandraWebb · 19/06/2025 13:57

dogcatkitten · 19/06/2025 13:40

How many people go that often that they would know all this? I last saw a GP in 2018, only had the odd vaccination since then, nurses all seemed nice, but I don't know anything else about them. I don't even know which Doctor's work there now let alone their specialities or how nice they are.

That's lovely for you.
Other people have a chronic health condition or care for someone with a chronic health condition that means GP visits are inevitable. We aren't going there for fun.

tuvamoodyson · 19/06/2025 13:52

Keepingittogetherstepbystep · 19/06/2025 09:03

I got a message last week that my GP surgery is swapping to this system from 1st July.

I've recently had a receptionist push a calculator in my face arguing that using 6 tablets a day with 168 tablet should last 2 months after a repeat for my meds that are in the toxic category was declined in thethe same query I was told it was a pharmacy issue, then told GP's don't decline meds. Eventually got to the bottom, it's an algorithm related to blood tests for the drug. I managed to remain calm though.

She pushed a calculator IN YOUR FACE??? Did it hurt???

RosesAndHellebores · 19/06/2025 13:43

dogcatkitten · 19/06/2025 13:40

How many people go that often that they would know all this? I last saw a GP in 2018, only had the odd vaccination since then, nurses all seemed nice, but I don't know anything else about them. I don't even know which Doctor's work there now let alone their specialities or how nice they are.

You are lucky perhaps that you don't have a chronic underlying medical condition that needs monitoring. I also used to have to make apps for the children and support my elderly mother.

dogcatkitten · 19/06/2025 13:40

RosesAndHellebores · 19/06/2025 07:46

Your team must be significantly better than at my old GP then. There, some of the receptionists were wonderful, well trained and compassionate. Some, regrettably were: rude, unkind and totally incompetent.

I'd say a large proportion of the patients knew the Dr's who would listen and get something sorted out and who would fob them off. A large proportion of the patients also knew which HCA took blood painlessly and which nurse was both kind and competent. Never much of a wait to see a member of staff not worth seeing.

Your posts seems to indicate very little respect for 95% of your patients.

How many people go that often that they would know all this? I last saw a GP in 2018, only had the odd vaccination since then, nurses all seemed nice, but I don't know anything else about them. I don't even know which Doctor's work there now let alone their specialities or how nice they are.

CassandraWebb · 19/06/2025 13:20

Alondra · 19/06/2025 10:38

I really wish your experience is the norm in the UK, There are too many threads about how difficult it is to see a doctor and the answers to this one, shocked me.

The majority of people are not stupid or idiots. Most of us don't want to see a doctor if we could help it, and if we make an appointment, it's because something is wrong. Making an appointment with a doctor should never be screened/culled by a receptionist without any kind of health background - that's admin guidelines without any consideration to health.

People don't tend to come onto forums to post about their great experiences. So it's quite weird to think you can judge a healthcare system based on a rather ranty forum

Alondra · 19/06/2025 13:14

SemperIdem · 19/06/2025 12:41

You have misunderstood my post.

“people are intelligent enough to know when they need a doctor” and, “the customer is always right” so often heard in retail/hospitality, are two sides of the same coin.

I was not in fact, referring to patients, as customers.

This thread is not about retail or hospitality. It's about health and making an appointment with a doctor.

And no, it's not the two sides of the same coin.

NamechangeGPreception · 19/06/2025 13:09

Many GP receptionists are medically trained in triage to help them direct you to the most appropriate service. It's essential to share information about your condition confidentially, as this allows them to ensure you receive the right care quickly. My sister, a GP receptionist for over 20 years, received this training and once saved a life by arranging an urgent ambulance instead of a routine GP appointment.

The training involves things like care navigation/active signposting, listening out for red flags or anything urgent, and from what I remember there are strict confidentiality pathways in place. You cannot, for example, access a patient file for any reason, your name is logged with each access and you have to justify why.

So, in all GP receptionists deserve far more credit!

Auburngal · 19/06/2025 13:00

When I was a child, the GP practice I was with at the time, went through a phase where every time someone rang up for to make an appointment, the receptionists asked "is it for a smear test?". Did not matter if the patient was a child or male.
"No its not she's only 9" was DM's response

Auburngal · 19/06/2025 12:58

I was 8 years old and complained of toothache and a puffy face. At that age, teeth move about a lot. DM booked an appt at the dentist. You have mumps was the dentist.

RosesAndHellebores · 19/06/2025 12:54

Fetaface · 19/06/2025 12:31

Receptionists are usually sharp with people who are rude to them. If the receptionist comes across rude and unkind then ask yourself why that might be.

I teach my kids that if you are rude to someone they will likely respond in the same way. If you shout they might shout back. When they come crying saying someone shouted at me I ask how did they speak to that person first. 99% of the time it was them who shouted initially.

Not at my old practice. Some of the receptionists were breathtaking from the get go regardless of how polite the patient or carer was.

GoodbyeRosie · 19/06/2025 12:48

Our practice, which is incredibly busy, doesn't do phone appointments any longer. No more 08.00 a.m. lottery.

I believe the form you fill in gets seen by a GP as first contact, and they refer you or make you an appointment accordingly.

It was starting to get ridiculous at our place, a queue of old people waiting for the surgery to open so they could beat the phone queue. Now they are more than welcome to phone in for an appointment, but they will have a form filled in over the phone by the receptionist

ChampagneLassie · 19/06/2025 12:46

My Drs and i think many others the receptionists are essentially triaging and identifying whether you need GP appointment, whether telephone or face to face, whether nurse or pharmacy or should you be going somewhere else. My gps run very efficiently and everyone who needs gets same day appointments.

Mischance · 19/06/2025 12:45

I work in a GP surgery and the general public are very bad at self diagnosis and knowing who they need to see and when!

But a receptionist is no better! They know what services are on offer, but they do not have the qualifications to know which person needs which service - that is a medical decision.