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Why tell the receptionist why I'm seeing the doctor

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Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

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sonoonetoldyoulifewasgonnabethisway · 19/06/2025 08:48

pre screening so that they can direct your appointment to a GP or nurse or HCA, dependent on the problem, and how long you need, or if you need to bring a sample with you or tell you to go to A&E, etc. I always just tell them, they have access to your medical records anyway

Gingernaut · 19/06/2025 08:48

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:19

Ok so how does it work when it's one gp and one nurse ( p/t) in the practice to. " Refer" all these people to services the surgery isn't providing?

Depending on whether the GP practice is part of a group or not, you could be referred to 111, a walk in centre, an urgent treatment centre, a pharmacy or another surgery if they are part of that network

If your surgery is too understaffed to meet your requirements, why don't you register somewhere else or move to a place with better healthcare coverage?

You know, instead of bitterly complaining to a bunch of people who can do nothing to help you

tearingmyflippinghairout · 19/06/2025 08:44

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:29

So they can't be " referring" you to people that don't exist. Hence why this scenario of they " need to refer you to the right clinician" doesn't wash.

You mentioned a GP and a nurse. So that’s two different clinicians. They’re also trying to ascertain if it’s urgent or not. Gp today or in two weeks? GP today or A&E? Nurse or local pharmacy?
But of course you know this

CharlotteCChapel · 19/06/2025 08:44

I've had a couple of times when I've been offered same day appointments, despite me not knowing I'd need them. One was an itchy mole and the other I had breathing problems.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 19/06/2025 08:42

Kingsleadhat · 19/06/2025 08:36

I've had a lot of kindness, patience and compassion from my GP receptionists. They are under a lot of pressure and have never been anything less than helpful. It must be a pretty thankless task at times

Mine too. They are fab. They always do their very best to get us seen and are just so kind. I've taken the surgery gifts more than once.

My whole surgery is just amazing tbh. They are so supportive.

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:42

luckylavender · 19/06/2025 08:41

You sound like a charmer. Also people lie

Lie about what?

luckylavender · 19/06/2025 08:41

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

You sound like a charmer. Also people lie

luckylavender · 19/06/2025 08:39

Eldermileniummam · 19/06/2025 07:23

Why do they ask this? Is it so they can give you an appointment with the appropriate person or some other reason?

I usually don't mind but sometimes I'm embarrassed to say and never sure how specific I need to be.

So they can work out the doctor’s schedule and ascertain if you need an urgent appointment. Not difficult to understand

Kingsleadhat · 19/06/2025 08:36

Papergirl1968 · 19/06/2025 07:46

That is really rude. I’m a GP receptionist and we always stress we aren’t medically qualified. However we do work darned hard, under huge pressure, and take a lot of flack and abuse from patients, all for minimum wage.
I live locally and many of my neighbours are patients but I respect their confidentiality and frankly I’m not interested in their ailments, other than to get them in with the right clinician.
Most of our patients now fill in online triage forms and we have a quick look, mark as urgent for under fives and over 75s, and forward straight to a GP. We do fill in the forms for those who can’t and we have to ask for some details so it can be triaged, but if someone really doesn’t want to say, that’s ok.
I’m kind, compassionate and helpful, and go the extra mile, not a dragon like people often think of us, and frequently patients express their appreciation which is lovely to hear.

I've had a lot of kindness, patience and compassion from my GP receptionists. They are under a lot of pressure and have never been anything less than helpful. It must be a pretty thankless task at times

Wheech · 19/06/2025 08:32

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

We can't always be up to speed on the latest NHS guidance though. Not so very long ago you'd have seen a GP to get antibiotics for cystitis. Even where we go locally for bloods has changed and is no longer the local GP surgery.

It's easy enough to summarise in a couple of words even if sensitive. Just say it's to discuss mental health, gynae problems, HRT or whatever.

WasherWoman25 · 19/06/2025 08:29

In principle it’s so they can signpost to the best person, however in practice, 99% of the time they then say there is no appointments anyway so all a bit pointless.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 19/06/2025 08:29

Our gps phone message thing says “in order to direct you to the most appropriate care”. Can you tell I’m caller 12 in the que?? 🤣

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:29

tearingmyflippinghairout · 19/06/2025 08:28

What do you expect the receptionist to do? They can only work with what they have.

So they can't be " referring" you to people that don't exist. Hence why this scenario of they " need to refer you to the right clinician" doesn't wash.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 19/06/2025 08:29

It's also not fair to blame receptionists for doing what they have been told to do.

Do people think receptionists just decide to ask for this stuff because they've taken it upon themselves to triage?

No. They've been told to and trained to. Don't like it then the thing to do is complain to the practice manager.

tearingmyflippinghairout · 19/06/2025 08:28

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:19

Ok so how does it work when it's one gp and one nurse ( p/t) in the practice to. " Refer" all these people to services the surgery isn't providing?

What do you expect the receptionist to do? They can only work with what they have.

LazyDinner · 19/06/2025 08:27

tearingmyflippinghairout · 19/06/2025 08:25

They are trained to triage, just like 999 and 111 call handlers.
I work in healthcare. There are still a lot of people who think that only a doctor can address whatever issue they have when in fact another HCP is more appropriate.

I still think it’s a lot of responsibility to take on as a receptionist.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 19/06/2025 08:26

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 07:34

This has been going on for years. Most of us are intelligent enough to know whether we need to see a doctor, nurse or whoever without being made to disclose our medical information to some unqualified jumped up receptionist. .

I think that's the first time I've genuinely laughed out loud at a post.

An alarming percentage of people are as quick as a glacier.

Notsuchafattynow · 19/06/2025 08:26

Game0fCrones · 19/06/2025 08:24

It is embarrassing having to disclose your piles, STD, yeast infection etc.. but I can see why they do it. Awful if you have to call whilst at work or on the bus, or in a crowded house share. Similar to being interrogated by the pharmacist while buying laxatives or pile cream - is it for you? Have you taken it before etc. whilst there's a queue behind you. Mortifying.

Maybe don't call up to make an appointment for your piles whilst in the office? Pop into an empty meeting room?

tearingmyflippinghairout · 19/06/2025 08:25

LazyDinner · 19/06/2025 08:11

I am always surprised that receptionists are expected to take on this level of responsibility. I know they have some training. But they are gatekeeping access to medical care, and have to make significant decisions with potentially serious consequences. I am not sure that as a receptionist, I would want to have this role, esp on the low pay.

They are trained to triage, just like 999 and 111 call handlers.
I work in healthcare. There are still a lot of people who think that only a doctor can address whatever issue they have when in fact another HCP is more appropriate.

Game0fCrones · 19/06/2025 08:24

It is embarrassing having to disclose your piles, STD, yeast infection etc.. but I can see why they do it. Awful if you have to call whilst at work or on the bus, or in a crowded house share. Similar to being interrogated by the pharmacist while buying laxatives or pile cream - is it for you? Have you taken it before etc. whilst there's a queue behind you. Mortifying.

RosesAndHellebores · 19/06/2025 08:21

The only thing I can't stick about GP receptionists is their tendency to call people "love". My name isn't love and I don't hear them calling the doctors love.

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:19

Papergirl1968 · 19/06/2025 07:46

That is really rude. I’m a GP receptionist and we always stress we aren’t medically qualified. However we do work darned hard, under huge pressure, and take a lot of flack and abuse from patients, all for minimum wage.
I live locally and many of my neighbours are patients but I respect their confidentiality and frankly I’m not interested in their ailments, other than to get them in with the right clinician.
Most of our patients now fill in online triage forms and we have a quick look, mark as urgent for under fives and over 75s, and forward straight to a GP. We do fill in the forms for those who can’t and we have to ask for some details so it can be triaged, but if someone really doesn’t want to say, that’s ok.
I’m kind, compassionate and helpful, and go the extra mile, not a dragon like people often think of us, and frequently patients express their appreciation which is lovely to hear.

Ok so how does it work when it's one gp and one nurse ( p/t) in the practice to. " Refer" all these people to services the surgery isn't providing?

RosesAndHellebores · 19/06/2025 08:17

Lemmywise · 19/06/2025 08:10

A GP is not a dentist. It’s not the GP’s fault it’s hard to see a dentist, they don’t pick up the slack for every service, yet they are expected to. Dental services get funded for dental and Gp’s don’t get funded for dental

Edited

Indeed but someone cannot get ABs fir a tooth infection, they may develop sepsis and I'd have thought that is best avoided for the individual and the NHS as a whole. Whilst it is not the fault of the GP that NHS dentistry is a mess, neither is it the fault of the patient. My dentist can prescribe ABs for dental issues. He also will cover an emergency at weekends - it used to be £250 - not sure what it costs now. Poor people don't have the privilege of paying that sort of money but they should have the privilege of avoiding sepsis and I'd have thought any GP with two brain cells would appreciate that from the oersoective of the patient and the NHS.

Fundayout2025 · 19/06/2025 08:15

RightOnTheEdge · 19/06/2025 07:45

I feel so sorry for any receptionist having to deal with you.

They don't anymore. I just don't go after they have twice not allowed be to make a doctors appointment and told me to buy painkillers OTC which led to me being in hospital for a month while they removed my burst appendix and tried to the the sepsis under control

CharlotteBakewell · 19/06/2025 08:14

theunbreakablecleopatrajones · 19/06/2025 08:09

quite tricky on the phone..

Apologies, I thought you meant you were talking to the receptionist in front of a queue of people.