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Could you be with someone with alcohol problems?

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DaytonVlogger · 17/06/2025 12:34

Could you be with someone who has alcohol issues to the extent they pour alcohol into a coffee mug to drink in the evenings to disguise it.

Also same person has alcohol fuelled Andy outbursts when they can’t cope with something.

Could you be with a partner/spouse who is like this?

Would you say “no way!” and ends the relationship? or would you say

“well to be fair their life is stressful I’ll cut them some slack and try and support them”

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Original poster
DaytonVlogger · 17/06/2025 13:08

Angry* not Andy outbursts !! Sorry for typos!

Thanks again for everyone’s feedback on this it’s good to get your views ❤️

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angelandspike · 17/06/2025 12:59

Nope. I am casually seeing someone who is an alcoholic but he’s been sober for 3 years, attends regular meetings which are set in stone

Bikergran · 17/06/2025 12:58

Addicts of any kind are a nightmare. The substance they crave will always be their first focus. If they want to get clean/sober and can stay that way, all well and good, but in my personal experience that is rare.

madaboutpurple · 17/06/2025 12:58

I don't drink alcohol by choice. I would not choose a partner who drinks. He would be booted out as far as I am concerned.

GreyCarpet · 17/06/2025 12:58

Well, I could yes. But would I? No.

Tangerinenets · 17/06/2025 12:56

No. I couldn’t. My dad was an alcoholic so 🤷

Verv · 17/06/2025 12:56

Absolutely not. I would end the relationship.

BiscuitBotherer · 17/06/2025 12:55

Nope, I’ve lived with that. Miserable experience and not one I’d like to repeat.

Justchillinhere · 17/06/2025 12:54

He'd be out, I've been there, I had no children and not married, he used all the excuses under the sun to drink, he never got angry tho, couldn't rely on him for anything, even excuses why he couldn't leave, it might sound harsh but I was desperate to finish the misery he was causing so, I just packed his stuff, with him still saying I can't because bla bla bla, fell on deaf ears. I grabbed them and slung them on the pavement outside. It's not your job to support and fix a grownup when they don't want to help themself. Look after yourself, he needs to take responsibility for his choices.

Clarinet1 · 17/06/2025 12:42

No way - their relationship with alcohol is more important to them than their relationship with you.
They may need support but that doesn’t have to come from someone emotionally involved with them - there are counsellors, therapists, AA for that.
You may want to “fix” them but some people can’t be “fixed”, especially if they don’t want to.

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DaytonVlogger · 17/06/2025 12:40

Thank you for your responses thus far, I really appreciate them x

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Ponoka7 · 17/06/2025 12:38

I'd end it, they just get worse and more bitter. Unfortunately I've got a friend with this issue, she's becoming increasingly nasty as she heads towards 60 and now, her drinking is killing her. Their focus will always be alcohol, even on holiday. Nights out are ruined. Don't waste your time.

Wakeywakey678 · 17/06/2025 12:38

If I were already married I'd persevere. If I weren't, I'd be telling them they need to get help. If they didn't engage with support I'd have to consider ending it.

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