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If you add random extra letters into a name, don't be pissy when people mispronounce it!

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BoobsOnTheMoon · 27/05/2025 20:08

I met someone recently who has a young child with a name that is actually quite a old/traditional English name, rare but not unheard of. Almost the perfect sweet spot, you'd think.

When I heard the name I immediately said oh how beautiful, I love that name. Which then set the mum off on a big rant about how nobody can ever pronounce it. Strange, I thought, it's not that unusual and tbh it's pretty phonetic when written down.

Except I found out later via FB that the mum has added two letters to the name (a consonant and a vowel), in two different places, that make it look like you pronounce it completely differently to the way she wants it pronounced. It's not an alternative spelling (which the name does have a couple of, both of which are completely obvious how to pronounce). If you were to see it written down you'd add an extra syllable when reading it out! And probably mispronounce the one of the consonants because it's had a random other consonant put next to it for...no reason? She must just like how it looks Hmm

I can't say what the name is because this child is literally the only person in the world with the name spelled that way, I've googled it and got the total of 2 results (both of which refer to this child, via their hobby). The closest examples I can come up with would be calling a baby Phetier when you want it pronounced Peter, or Elixzabieth but wanting it pronounced Elizabeth, or Dharrien and expecting everyone to know you say it Darren.

Anyway I don't particularly care how people spell names but to then be huffy that it gets mispronounced is just silly, right?

OP posts:
LesMisSaigon · 27/05/2025 20:40

Arrahminntah

SeriousFaffing · 27/05/2025 20:39

Copiousamountsofpulses · 27/05/2025 20:28

I read somewhere that people who add extra letters to their names are psychopaths, I wonder if this applies to the parents who impose it on their kids.

@Copiousamountsofpulses

Wow.

My sister actually did this for a long time; adding an extra letter to her name to make it a slightly different name that wasn’t hers. And she is DEFINITELY a psychopath.

x2boys · 27/05/2025 20:39

Hoogey · 27/05/2025 20:32

Its Marillion...unless you were being clever?!

🤣 no just an error I wasn't paying attention ..

BruceAndNosh · 27/05/2025 20:38

Tradjdeigh

YesThatsATurdOnTheRug · 27/05/2025 20:38

YABtotallyU to start this thread without name changing so that you can tell us the name!

ZippyPeer · 27/05/2025 20:36

Gaerthude?
(Gertrude)

ZippyPeer · 27/05/2025 20:35

Aetheehal?
(Ethel)

BlueEyedBogWitch · 27/05/2025 20:32

Is it Booby? Pronounced ‘Bob’?

Hoogey · 27/05/2025 20:32

x2boys · 27/05/2025 20:26

I assume Kayleigh ?
My friends daughter is Kayleigh after the Marriliion song.

Its Marillion...unless you were being clever?!

feelingbleh · 27/05/2025 20:30

CaptainFuture · 27/05/2025 20:29

Next option Pelhiliipiahha?

Philipa

ExercicenformedeZ · 27/05/2025 20:29

I find it annoying when people start these threads and then refuse to give the specific name. Just spell it with spaces!

FortyElephants · 27/05/2025 20:29

Lots of people don't understand the rules of spelling in English so they think it's fine to add extra letters or change them or decide on random pronunciations because they don't know what the letters they have chosen are supposed to sound like.

CaptainFuture · 27/05/2025 20:29

Next option Pelhiliipiahha?

MidLifeWoman · 27/05/2025 20:29

YANBU. My pet peeve is random umlauts. They change the pronunciation, as Mötley Crüe found out when they came to Germany…

Copiousamountsofpulses · 27/05/2025 20:28

I read somewhere that people who add extra letters to their names are psychopaths, I wonder if this applies to the parents who impose it on their kids.

ThejoyofNC · 27/05/2025 20:28

I also hate this. It's always been somewhat of a thing, people used to replace the Y on the end of a name with IE because they thought it was somehow more posh.

It's definitely escalated over the years, lots of unnecessary 'eigh', especially.

Purplecatshopaholic · 27/05/2025 20:27

A friend of a friend has a daughter, whose name is pronounced Olivia. Except it’s spelt with an -Aa at the start, and ends with -yah….. I can’t even remember what’s in the middle. Poor kid.

x2boys · 27/05/2025 20:26

feelingbleh · 27/05/2025 20:14

I wouldn't that could be kayleigh or Kylie

I assume Kayleigh ?
My friends daughter is Kayleigh after the Marriliion song.

feelingbleh · 27/05/2025 20:26

CaptainFuture · 27/05/2025 20:24

Oh like this game!! Lhucsea?!

Lucy

greatyak · 27/05/2025 20:24

Can you tell us the normal spelling of the name? That wouldn’t be outing

CaptainFuture · 27/05/2025 20:24

Oh like this game!! Lhucsea?!

feelingbleh · 27/05/2025 20:23

SeriousFaffing · 27/05/2025 20:20

@feelingbleh Surely it can’t be anything other than Kayleigh… I hope!

Who knows it could be pronounced Norman the way some parents spell names. I was thinking it could be Kylie based on the first 3 letters being Kai which as a name is pronounced Ky

SeriousFaffing · 27/05/2025 20:21

BoobsOnTheMoon · 27/05/2025 20:13

Well at least I'd know how to say that!

I'm not posting the name. Even with spaces.

@BoobsOnTheMoon even the normal spelling?

SeriousFaffing · 27/05/2025 20:20

feelingbleh · 27/05/2025 20:14

I wouldn't that could be kayleigh or Kylie

@feelingbleh Surely it can’t be anything other than Kayleigh… I hope!

Screamingabdabz · 27/05/2025 20:15

Yanbu. Weird and wonderful names just to be ‘unique’ are so eye wateringly pretentious and try-hard.