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Our new Neighbours and my loud children

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Marley11 · 15/05/2025 17:53

Hi
I wasn’t sure where to start this thread as it covers two areas but il try here first.

We have recently moved into our dream family home ‘ which is a huge project. We chose it due to the size of the garden for our children , and the large summer house at the bottom.

We have two young boys. Who are lovely, kind boys, but v loud characters. ( 2 & 6 ) one has asd & add. The other just has the loudest & deepest voice 😂. trust me I try to tell them to speak quieter I think it’s impossible . ( They are both in bed by 7 ish pm and both asleep till 7 )

They are just being kids in my opinion . And obviously the odd 3 daily meltdowns from my two year old as I buttered his toast wrong.

But Today she put her radio on at 4.30 am. Blaring through our 2 years old wall. woke us all. The reason in her words “ Was to show me how thin those walls are, As my kids scream and shout in the garden so much making us terrible neighbors “

she has never had children and isn’t keen on them .

my issue is , little does she know I am in the process of setting up as a childminder. But I am now doubting if this is the right choice ….. because of our neighbour !

my question is , would you pre - warn her ? Is there anything she could do to deter me / stop me in setting this business up ? Or would you just set up and not mention it or is this unreasonable to do ? Do I Have to tell her ?

Thank you

OP posts:
ArtTheClownIsNotAMime · 15/05/2025 18:06

You can't get your own children to speak at a normal volume, how are you qualified to be a childminder?

SodOffbacktoaibu · 15/05/2025 18:06

My new neighbours all shout. Their kids are noisy. Their dogs are noisy. They are noisy. I feel for you neighbour. Try and teach your kids consideration for neighbours. There's reasonable noise and of course kids get excited and make some noise....but the thought of loud people child minding next door. Oh dear.

Dramatic · 15/05/2025 18:04

She is being very unreasonable, unless you live in the country with no neighbours you can't expect perfect silence. Kids playing makes noise and so it should. Unless they are literally screaming for hours then she doesn't have any right to start blaring music at daft o clock in the morning.

GabriellaMontez · 15/05/2025 18:03

screaming

Yabu.

EdisinBurgh · 15/05/2025 18:03

You have to find a way to teach / make your children be quieter OP

For their sake, and everyone else’s. And make an effort to get on with your neighbour. You catch more flies with honey.

WomenInSTEM · 15/05/2025 18:02

Nice of you to shoehorn in the fact that she doesn't have children.

FFS.

MysteriousFalafel · 15/05/2025 18:01

If the house is a big project it’s well worth putting additional insulation and sound blocking plasterboard on any adjoining walls as you do rooms up. We did this at ours and it really helped with neighbour noise

PeapodMcgee · 15/05/2025 18:00

Meltdowns aside of course, I do think it is irresponsible parenting / childminding to have children actually screaming in the garden all day long.

TizerorFizz · 15/05/2025 17:59

Your neighbour probably is ok with dc. Just not noisy ones like yours. I agree with her. They sound ott. I would be getting cross too. And yes, I do have dc. You can do what job you want as pp says but I’d be selling up if I lived Nextdoor.

Doggymummar · 15/05/2025 17:55

As long as you have the proper per mission from the council. And appropriate qualifications I don't think so.

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