Have a partner or a year - we’re both divorced, both with teen kids.
He has his kids 50/50 and I have mine all the time so it’s fallen into a bit of a dynamic of me fitting in when his kids aren’t around, which made sense esp as my kids are older than his so easier for me to leave alone.
But still, it sometimes feels like he expects to put me up and pick me down according to his schedule.
Anyway, he’s been on a weekend away this weekend and all week has been very preoccupied with the planning etc. So I’ve just written off any expectation of engagement with him thinking. Well I’ll see him tomorrow when he’s back and child free.
He asked me last night if I was available to see him tomorrow. Today I messaged and basically said I’d like to see him tomorrow, but only if it’s quality time and he actually has the time to see me and won’t be unpacking/ hanging washing etc.
He ignored the message then sent me some photo from his holiday, so I said great etc would you mind responding to what I said about tomorrow.
He’s replied basically oh I’ll see you but I’ll be tired so I’ll try my best.
so I said, ok, well I’ve got a lot going on and only want to see you if we’re making time for each other so let’s see each other another day then.
Now it’s deteriorated into an argument.
is it wrong to say to a relatively new partner I’d love to see you, haven’t sent you in a week, but only if it’s quality time?