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AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 08:58

Dd has one of her artworks on exhibit at the Royal Scottish Academy’s Annual Open Exhibition. I don’t think I’m BU to be so proud of her, although IRL she doesn’t think it’s worth mentioning to friends! She’s the youngest in the show.
https://rubymitcham.com

AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?
AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?
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ChoccieCornflake · 03/05/2025 13:08

She might also need a business-type facebook page so people can follow her abd her art but she can keep her private life separate

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 13:06

HiRen · 03/05/2025 13:04

She needs a patron, OP. There are ways and means of finding one, but it’ll be your job as her parent to ensure she picks the right one, to protect her from exploitation. Her talent is her gift, that she can give to whomever she chooses. There are people out there who will want to pimp it for themselves. But good patrons are out there. You need to help her grab their attention.

Yes, I agree. I feel a little out of my depth with this one. But she does need a patron.

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ChoccieCornflake · 03/05/2025 13:05

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:58

You ladies have made me get my act together! There’s now a link to her GoFundMe on her website here:

rubymitcham.com/contact/

Donated (and bumping this link 🙂 )

HiRen · 03/05/2025 13:04

She needs a patron, OP. There are ways and means of finding one, but it’ll be your job as her parent to ensure she picks the right one, to protect her from exploitation. Her talent is her gift, that she can give to whomever she chooses. There are people out there who will want to pimp it for themselves. But good patrons are out there. You need to help her grab their attention.

WickWood · 03/05/2025 13:00

Wow! I love this thread!

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 12:55

WellINeverrr · 03/05/2025 12:51

That's fabulous! What an achievement. Does she get her artistic talent from you or her dad?

Neither! It’s all her!

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Musicaltheatremum · 03/05/2025 12:53

Just Wow! She's amazing

WellINeverrr · 03/05/2025 12:51

That's fabulous! What an achievement. Does she get her artistic talent from you or her dad?

RedWhite · 03/05/2025 12:50

She’s an incredible artist OP. Making me cringe as I can’t even draw a bludy stick man.

beesandstrawberries · 03/05/2025 12:48

I’m a photographer and I feel like I can relate to your daughter. she seems so incredibly talented and not only such an amazing achievement, but at a young age shows she’s got an amazing future ahead of her. But artists and anyone in the realm of creatives are the most critical of yourselves. It feels like no matter what you create is not good enough, you want more or you feel like you can do better. I also feel like a lot of creatives, unless you have creative friends or family - you don’t really speak about this passion as it’s not seen as everyone’s tastes. I was the only creative in a friendship group of academics, I felt like I wasn’t good enough so I didn’t speak about my passions, my achievements.

I would speak to your daughter, try to get to the bottom of why she doesn’t want to tell people. I would tell her that the arts is a career worth perusing if that’s what she wants and regardless what people think, she can do whatever she puts her mind to. If that’s what she wants, having this going for her already is going to look amazing in her portfolio.

Oldandcobwebby · 03/05/2025 12:47

I was confused for a minute - I couldn't grasp how that "photo" was a painting! Bloody hell! She's got such an incredible talent, and to get her work exhibited in such a prestigious event is wonderful. Congratulations! 👏 💐

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 12:41

BoredZelda · 03/05/2025 12:32

Where about is this exhibition. I’m going to try and go see it.

It’s in the Royal Scottish Academy on Princes St, Edinburgh. 🙏🏽

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harijes · 03/05/2025 12:41

@FriendlyLaundryMonsterabsolutely incredible.

i will give a wee donation and try to get to city to see this.

Maneattraction · 03/05/2025 12:36

Absolutely amazing talent.

BoredZelda · 03/05/2025 12:32

Where about is this exhibition. I’m going to try and go see it.

BoredZelda · 03/05/2025 12:30

She is amazing. You are totally allowed to have bragging rights on this one. We should normalise it being ok to shout about our children’s achievements and not always having to be humble about it!

Thank you so much for sharing her art with us.

beetr00 · 03/05/2025 12:25

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:58

You ladies have made me get my act together! There’s now a link to her GoFundMe on her website here:

rubymitcham.com/contact/

@FriendlyLaundryMonster Just to suggest bumping occasionally to keep this link visible to anyone who may like to donate. 🌻

JadedCat · 03/05/2025 12:23

It’s amazing! Your daughter is incredibly talented and you’re absolutely right to be proud of her. Hope she achieves her dream of studying in Florence 💐

Thisisittheapocalypse · 03/05/2025 12:20

What an amazing talent!

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 12:19

@Jane958 🙏🏽 I have PM’d you.

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Jane958 · 03/05/2025 12:15

Terrific achievement, great painting and well done!
I have 2 schoolfriend, who are artists/sculptors - we are all in our 60s now, so they are well-established. If your daughter would like any advice (on funding Florence, for example) please PM me.

ChoccieCornflake · 03/05/2025 12:15

Bloody hell! I thought that was stunning and talented photography, then saw it's a PAINTING!!!! Shout about this to the world!!

Callipygion · 03/05/2025 12:13

That’s an oil painting?! She’s amazing! I thought it was a photo! What a talent!

Goditsmemargaret · 03/05/2025 12:11

Oh my god. Amazing

QueenAstrid · 03/05/2025 12:11

Amazing! Your DD is so talented!