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AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 08:58

Dd has one of her artworks on exhibit at the Royal Scottish Academy’s Annual Open Exhibition. I don’t think I’m BU to be so proud of her, although IRL she doesn’t think it’s worth mentioning to friends! She’s the youngest in the show.
https://rubymitcham.com

AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?
AIBU for being so proud of dd achieving this at 17?
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beetr00 · 03/05/2025 11:32

@Ahappymediumlarge

Purely reading between the lines, I think funding may be an issue for Ruby, could you suggest organisations to approach?

gavelgirl · 03/05/2025 11:32

I work in ‘the arts’ and her paintings are exceptional for her age - it took some of the old masters decades to achieve works with such detail. I look forward to seeing her name come up at work one day!!

ShrunkInTheWashAgain · 03/05/2025 11:32

Wow! And she's self taught ?!

Lilactimes · 03/05/2025 11:32

Theyre truly fabulous - I just looked at her website. She’s amazing. … you probably know all this but I just asked ChatGPT based on a portraiture old masters type courses for 18 year olds…. !! Def start a GoFundMe !! X

  1. Full-Time Atelier Programs (Professional Track)**
If you're ready to commit full-time, many ateliers accept students straight out of high school. These are immersive, 3-4 year programs similar to how the Old Masters trained their apprentices.

Best Options for 18-year-olds:

  • *Florence Academy of Art*
  • *Angel Academy of Art*
  • *Grand Central Atelier*
  • *Swedish Academy of Realist Art*
  • *London Fine Art Studios*

These schools do not require a university degree. They focus on building skill, not academic prerequisites.

financialcareerstuff · 03/05/2025 11:31

Whatahardlife · 03/05/2025 09:12

I think that's wonderful OP.

I think you have every right to be proud of her talent.

But I think you should be very proud that she isn't boastful and is being mindful of her friends and their feelings. Not everyone has such a lot going for them and such a bright future ahead of them and her consideration becomes her.

Hmmmm- I’d say it depends. Yes, absolutely, consideration and lack of boastfulness is good.

BUT, I think particularly women are often socialised to avoid taking credit where credit is due, or avoid expressing self confidence, in case they will be attacked for getting above themselves.

im not saying you are doing this, OP, but I do think it’s right that you assure her she has much to be proud of and that anybody who cares about her will be delighted for her. I hope she feels and knows that.

I know that I ended up in a first marriage, sub consciously underplaying all my achievements, because deep down I knew he didn’t want me to shine. I hope your daughter knows she is allowed to shine!

and her painting is amazing- the technique, yes, but also the character that shines through in the portrait. Fantastic!

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:30

Ahappymediumlarge · 03/05/2025 11:10

I'm a professional artist and I'm in awe of your daughter's talent at such a young age. You should indeed enjoy being a proud mum!

Wow! Just thank you.

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FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:29

HotCrossBunplease · 03/05/2025 11:05

Incredible work, so talented. I’m curious though, why study GCSE and A Level in Scotland? Does the syllabus for Higher Art fall short in some way?

She is super lucky and was awarded an art scholarship to a school which follows the English system. We wouldn’t have been able to send her otherwise.

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OrsolaRosso · 03/05/2025 11:29

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:28

The first painting she did at 15 is of her dad ‘I love dad and dad loves me’

Wow, that's incredible!

Strangeworldtoday · 03/05/2025 11:29

Be proud, we need more artists and inspiring young people.

Matronic6 · 03/05/2025 11:29

She is incredibly talented! That artwork is amazing especially considering her age. It's a wonderful achievement and I am not surprised you want to share it.

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:28

OrsolaRosso · 03/05/2025 11:02

Is that the self portrait? It's beautiful 😍

The first painting she did at 15 is of her dad ‘I love dad and dad loves me’

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Arancia · 03/05/2025 11:27

No, you're right, that's an amazing achievement! Good on your girl!

ErrolTheDragon · 03/05/2025 11:27

Having just looked at her website, there are some great titles!

Bigfatsunandclouds · 03/05/2025 11:25

Wow - she's incredible!! I would be beaming with pride OP.

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 11:22

https://gofund.me/cd80781a

Ok, here it is I think. Thanks all for the advice. Taking her back to school now as she was only home for the RSA opening reception.

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Kaybee50 · 03/05/2025 11:22

Wow she is super talented!! You have every right to be very proud of her!

Treesarenotforeating · 03/05/2025 11:21

Oh wow , I wish I had half her talent
that’s fabulous

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/05/2025 11:13

She is ridiculously talented, OP, and it sounds like she is humble and modest too. Of course you should be proud...I imagine that you're bursting with it. Well done to your dd.

Ahappymediumlarge · 03/05/2025 11:10

I'm a professional artist and I'm in awe of your daughter's talent at such a young age. You should indeed enjoy being a proud mum!

LlynTegid · 03/05/2025 11:09

OP, you should be proud and thank you for sharing this with us.

MrsMitford3 · 03/05/2025 11:06

Wow that is amazing and she is such a talent!

Off to follow her on instagram

HotCrossBunplease · 03/05/2025 11:05

Incredible work, so talented. I’m curious though, why study GCSE and A Level in Scotland? Does the syllabus for Higher Art fall short in some way?

Iloveyoubut · 03/05/2025 11:04

OP that is wonderful! That a talent! You have every right to be proud, so pleased to see all the lovely responses on here. Congratulations!

OrsolaRosso · 03/05/2025 11:02

FriendlyLaundryMonster · 03/05/2025 10:46

She used to draw but a couple of years ago her art teacher suggested she try painting, so she did and she could pretty much just do it. The first painting she ever did is on her website. She just started painting like that. 🤷🏽‍♀️

Is that the self portrait? It's beautiful 😍

Kidsrule43 · 03/05/2025 10:59

Stunning 😍

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