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Can I refuse to go on a PIP if I don’t agree with it?

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Gamecha · 14/03/2025 15:41

Do I have any rights? I feel like this has come out of the blue and absolutely do not feel it is justified. Can I do anything?

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BagaChips · 03/07/2026 18:20

This post is over a year old. I imagine it’s been sorted now

IDontHateRainbows · 03/07/2026 18:01

Yeah saying you shouldn't be on it won't go well. PROVE you shouldn't be on it!

theemmadilemma · 03/07/2026 13:44

Speak to HR that you're concerned there's a level of discrimiation here and while you are not against going on a PIP, you are struggling to understand why it's being invoked given the lack of work since your returm which you feel has been discrimiatory.

Generally speaking, when working through a PIP with someone, it's not necessarily that I want them to leave at all. In fact, 2 people have had them and retained their positions, it was simply a tool to ensure they understood their role and were compentent in doing what was being asked of from them - behaviour change which despite trying was not happening without the 'threat' of PIP.

When it has ended with someone being let go, it was because I was able to provide clear documentation of failings. Not a pointy finger, not an 'I think', clearly documented examples of ignoring standard processes, not doing as asked, not meeting easily achievable targets.

dancehysterical22 · 03/07/2026 13:23

If you dont feel you should be on it, you should pass it no problem 🤷🏻‍♀️

BagaChips · 03/07/2026 13:04

SummerCycling · 03/07/2026 12:38

OP wrote 'to go on a PIP'

a PIP (not go on PIP)

That poster was corrected and apologised a year ago on the very first page of the thread

SummerCycling · 03/07/2026 12:38

Noshferatu · 14/03/2025 15:42

Why would you though? You must have difficulties to be awarded PIP?

OP wrote 'to go on a PIP'

a PIP (not go on PIP)

Quitelikeit · 03/07/2026 12:31

@Gamecha what happened in the end

Hortus · 18/03/2025 12:20

Did you decide what to do OP?

TorroFerney · 17/03/2025 12:02

Dogsbreath7 · 16/03/2025 09:42

I think your option is to raise a grievance before the PIP is formalised. It does sound that there is post ML discrimination here, but I think you would need to be much more specific than you have been in these lists so far. Must be worth some legal advice to either save your job or save your good reference.

Where I work a grievance stops the pip temporarily. Which is a tactic one of my (now resigned) team members used and I am sure many others use. Frustrates the process.

IDontHateRainbows · 16/03/2025 19:41

Marieb19 · 16/03/2025 18:37

I would get some legal advice quickly. If things are as you have described, if sounds like there is something amiss in the way you are being treated. Do you work in the public sector? Is there an option to move to another dept? If your manager is determined to get rid of you, your days may be numbered but raising a grievance or a claim for sex discrimination may make your HR dept think twice.

It would make them think twice for long enough to investigate the grievance and then, if it wasn't upheld, it would be back to the PIP. It is very very common for employees to raise a grievance when put on a PIP and I can't think of one time where the grievance was upheld. Not saying the OP's wouldn't - or that she shouldn't do this. But without a watertight case it is so easy for it to be seen as employee resistance and working for a manager who thinks you are underperforming and who you've just raised a grievance on isn't a situation many people would like to be in.

So if you take this step OP - beware

Marieb19 · 16/03/2025 18:37

I would get some legal advice quickly. If things are as you have described, if sounds like there is something amiss in the way you are being treated. Do you work in the public sector? Is there an option to move to another dept? If your manager is determined to get rid of you, your days may be numbered but raising a grievance or a claim for sex discrimination may make your HR dept think twice.

AllyDally · 16/03/2025 11:19

Laura95167 · 16/03/2025 08:11

Good job you're here with all your sage advice and sarcasm! At least youve made sure my contribution isn't the least useful on here 👍

Why not read the thread or at least the first page/OPs posts? I have given my thoughts very early on, thanks though, I didnt need to explain what a PIP was as it was cleared up on the first page, I scanned through responses before giving my response to the OPs issue.

katmarie · 16/03/2025 10:07

If there is a clear timeliness between mat leave, return and the reduction in tasks being given to you, then I would document all of this, and take it to HR as a first step.

Out of curiosity, are there any other women at your level who have taken maternity leave and returned? What was their experience like?

GhostHunterPlay · 16/03/2025 09:47

You must be experiencing difficulties at work to be put on a performance improvement plan. So no, you can't refuse, or you may be warned about your performance.

Dogsbreath7 · 16/03/2025 09:42

Gamecha · 15/03/2025 08:42

@Ashshandmaid yes there is a grievance process. It’s not something I would want to do but I would do if pushed. I can’t understand how him not even responding to various pieces of work (which I know are good) and then tearing down a draft letter with cosmetic changes can be in any way ‘supporting me to improve.’

I think your option is to raise a grievance before the PIP is formalised. It does sound that there is post ML discrimination here, but I think you would need to be much more specific than you have been in these lists so far. Must be worth some legal advice to either save your job or save your good reference.

LaceWeightWool · 16/03/2025 09:01

If you feel this is linked to your mat leave then it might be worth getting in touch with Pregnant Then Screwed https://pregnantthenscrewed.com. Good luck OP.

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Laura95167 · 16/03/2025 08:11

AllyDally · 16/03/2025 07:47

Good job you came along to say this as in the 7 pages of the thread no one else had figured that out.

Good job you're here with all your sage advice and sarcasm! At least youve made sure my contribution isn't the least useful on here 👍

WompWompBoom · 16/03/2025 07:50

If you've got email evidence of all of this, I'd raise a sex discrimination case with HR. Advising it's not a grievance yet, but you want this sorting.

I would factually lay out the timeline for it.
eg returned to work on x
asked for work y
state prior to maternity leave you were covering projects of x level, now being ignored on being given projects and asked to do z tasks.
Attach the emails in order.
Give evidence you have asked for feedback on each task you've been given and completed. Attach evidence from others where they have given positive feedback.

At this point you've got not a lot to lose, so I'd fight fire with fire (so long as I had evidence).

I've been at one company for over 25 years. Had a pants manager, we are supposed to have clear objectives set at specific points in the year, he was useless and didn't, nor did he do regular reviews and document them. I asked several times on email, but to be fair didn't really push. but did (luckily) have an email trail that showed I'd tried. That Nov redundancies were announced and if it goes to formal, they review your performance based on objectives. He sat me down in Dec and told me I'd failed my objectives that year, and I was being marked down (his mates though all got marked up!). I emailed HR and him, stating it wasn't a grievance as yet, but I'd had no formal objectives throughout the year despite me asking, nor formal reviews and I had evidence that I had tried at least half a dozen times, as such I was not accepting the lower grade at year end, as I'd not been told once there was an issue. HR agreed with me and I received a "good" PDR and rating in line with what I expected that year.
Sometimes managers are just crap and if you have evidence to support your cause I would raise it.

AllyDally · 16/03/2025 07:47

Laura95167 · 15/03/2025 18:32

She means Personal Improvement Plan at work.

Good job you came along to say this as in the 7 pages of the thread no one else had figured that out.

Gamecha · 16/03/2025 07:34

Fundays12 · 16/03/2025 07:30

OP I had a similar situation when I returned from maternity in the sense I got given no work then the manager tried to put me on a PIP. I raised a complaint over sex discrimination with HR and they agreed it was and dealt with it. I was literally begging for work, bored out of my brain and the little work I did get given was mind numbing.

@Fundays12 that is exactly what has happened. I’ve been given really basic tasks intermittently and regularly asked for proper work. I was senior for 3 years before mat leave and had been there longer before then. Just feels very shitty

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Fundays12 · 16/03/2025 07:30

OP I had a similar situation when I returned from maternity in the sense I got given no work then the manager tried to put me on a PIP. I raised a complaint over sex discrimination with HR and they agreed it was and dealt with it. I was literally begging for work, bored out of my brain and the little work I did get given was mind numbing.

IIlolamay · 16/03/2025 06:08

#blueshoes You would have thought it would have been more of the same. However, she told me she didn't understand what a process person did and started sending me admin work eg she sent me a document that had track changes on it and asked me to remove them as she didn't know how. I found I was increasingly sidelined and she stopped including me in meetings and, basically, sidelined the process part of the project. When it came to review time my line manager had been told by her to mark me at the lowest score possible. Fortunately I had the review from my previous role where I managed the QHSE team and successfully gained QHSE certification. There was an HR person on the team who suggested I should think about going on sick leave because of my mental health. That's when I started collecting evidence and looking for another job. I moved to a different part of the organisation within a matter of months

blueshoes · 15/03/2025 20:22

It does sound like it could be professional services to the extent that someone who is experienced but not partner level does not generate their own work and has to be fed to justify their existence (targets).

eurochick · 15/03/2025 20:08

Is this professional services by any chance? It sounds very familiar. I’ve seen many people (women) be pushed out this way.

ime there is no coming back from it so get some applications out.

IDontHateRainbows · 15/03/2025 20:07

Wellretired · 15/03/2025 19:53

Formal PIPS in this way seem to have come in since I retired, but I assume that there is some sort of joint process involved in setting out the goals? If possible ensure that HR is part of this process and ensure you take the evidence that shows that a) you haven't been given work, b) that you've asked for feedback and haven't received it (if necessary take contemporaneous notes, if you have them) c) what feedback you have had hasn't been substantive and hasn't been clear on what you need to do to improve and d), most importantly, that it appears to be directly related to your return from maternity leave. Join a union if you can to help with representation. Take evidence of previous good performance. If you're happy to leave see what exit package they can offer you. Good luck.

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When I manage this process I'll work with the line manager to identify the performance gaps and then facilitate a conversation between the manager and employee to explore and look at how the performance gaps can be addressed and improvements identified.
Manager can identify what needs to improve, employee and manager should identify how. If extra training or support is needed this us also identified in the plan meeting.

I'd advise both parties to gather evidence on what's been done/ outcomes/ feedback etc throughout the Pip. Manager has final say on whether objectives have been met buy employee should have an input into that decision.