New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

I think he realised he'd put the relationship at risk with his rules and rigidity. He did some backpeddaling to see how that went down but because you didn't gush and jump straight back in, he couldn't be bothered to make any more effort and just sank into feeling more and more sorry for himself. This is a pattern that I recognise from my ASD partner. It's very hard to deal with. I would have told him about the Fosters though and probably enjoyed doing so

Wow! He sounds so much fun!

Just a thought OP
it sounds like he could have OCD and he has safe and unsafe places and foods to eat
my daughter is terrified of uncooked meat making her sick
places she hasn’t eaten before could contaminate her
showers could have dirty water that make her sick
places with swings have had sick children on them which would make her sick
she also doesn’t like to think people know where she lives because what if they come in and hurt her or us ? hence him wanting the curtain shut.
not making excuses for his behaviours but it’s food for thought and perhaps he needs help
does he check dates on food constantly ?

He'll transfer that to your future kids if planning any.

If he is that rigid and obsessive I would say it’s a red flag

Your very early on in this relationship, do you really want to be this restricted refusing to eat in restaurants or takeaway having to pack picnics,social events he won't eat.
I'd see this as a no no especially if you enjoy eating out and your a foodie it's part of being social and enjoying yourself.

I dated someone once and he was always watching calories he done my head in .. he would drink plenty of beer & wine though.

YABVU. You can swing with your feet off the floor. Just pump your legs a bit.

But Anti-fa is very much not just anti racist. They are the ones that go around in black (check) wearing face masks so they can scream at feminists but their mums won't see them on telly.

Are you sure he's not married and hiding?

Are you asking us a question?

This is a person with serious food issues, maybe even an eating disorder, and it’s going to cause chaos in your life you continue this relationship. Unless everything else is amazing and you can live with never being relaxed about food again for the rest of your life, then I’d move on from this man.

Tofu me once, more fool you. Tofu me twice, more fool me 😉

This isn't true at all. Breweries will brew one beer at a time, the equipment is cleaned out with caustic after every single brew. Vegan or not. There are 2 things that make a beer non-vegan. The use of isinglas finings (fish guts) which makes the beer clear, and lactose used in milkshake type craft ales. Many breweries these days brew hazy beer without the finings, or they use vegan finings. If they do use isunglas, they won't brew vegan beer.
Regardless, they will only generally brew one beer per set of equipment in a day due to the time it takes, the equipment is then thoroughly cleaned.

My ex was like this , he wouldn’t even eat with my family who lived 5 mins away and adored him , I’d go home to theirs for Sunday lunch and on Christmas Day I’d go to theirs for lunch as he refused to go out . If we went on holiday ( was only ever in this country he’d want to eat in the hotel room or fish n chips on a bench at a push ! After 6 years I’d had enough . He said he just didn’t enjoy food it was just fuel to get thru the day . But ruined so many social occasions, birthdays , attending weddings etc

Soz.. didn’t read full thread.. I get you’re sad but honestly… life will just pass him by unfortunately x

Isn’t life too short for this hum drum existence?

Lots of signs he is likely on the spectrum. But he sounds like a hermit OP and I think I’d find it very hard to be with someone who doesn’t like holidays or eating out!

It’s 100% not vegan, I used to work for the company that made it. I know exactly how it’s made and its ingredients. It isn’t vegan

What on earth do you see in him. Sounds like a complete prat. Jettison him pronto.

Oh dear, not good

My daughter started seeing a guy with crohns. He only ate pasta and pork mince and he carried tupper ware containers of this everywhere. She finished with him for other reasons, but boy it was hard. He wouldn't eat our food, only his own stuff, and eating out was completely out of the question.

I'm vegetarian and I think he's overthinking what he can/can't eat and applying a hearty dose of paranoia. I think you should sit him down and talk about this but I'm afraid his problems will manifest in other ways as his suspicious nature probably doesn't just apply to what chefs might put in his food. Good luck.

What DOES he like?

think long term
holidays
days out
days out with children
weekends away?
a spa day

all of these things you have to cook afterwards????

This is what concerned me the most …. He turned up at 430 in the afternoon, in a park with four beers? Op, try not to be sad , I think in a few days you’ll realise you’re best off out of it.

Sorry , you lost me at him bringing a potato and 6 tomatoes to your house !?!? There are too many oddities. Unless the good times ( are there any ? ) outweigh the peculiar stuff then set him free ….