New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

You get though that most people who go on a self catering holiday will actually eat some of their meals out too? I would think it’s pretty rare that all the meals you eat on holiday are eaten in your SC accommodation. Even if it’s just fish and chips on the beach.

Vegans impose their choices on everyone else.

Don't tar all vegans with the same brush please.

Don't be so rude

We’re coming to the end of a 2 week self catering holiday and it’s been lovely, so much better than the shit 3 weeks we spent abroad having to spend a fortune eating out.

A lot of shallow people on here. It's his preference, don't damn him for it. But if you love dining out, then maybe look elsewhere.
I suppose it depends how much you are into him.

What like being in a home from home?

So you can’t be more than two hours away from that, even when on holiday?

What woopie do break that would be!

It's almost like nobody on here has ever heard of self catering.. renting holiday homes. . with kitchens!!?

This thread is a work of art. Modern-day Adrian Mole (despondency, odd habits, absolute lack of self-awareness)/Pandora Braithwaite (middle class cupboards) melancholy romance.

He’s either having you on (surely it’s a joke?) or he definitely has some issues he needs to work on. Probably a reason he was single… throw him back either way.

Are you able to read past the very first post?

No, that's not normal to be telling you how things are going to be in a relationship. Sounds like the start of something sinister. If he never wants to go out and eat, then he can always cook for the both of you or make up for it by buying you something to eat on a date while he eats at home pre-date.

Is it genuinely something to do with his diet or is he just being a cheap arse?

I would end the relationship. My daughter sas vegan for a year and we still went out fr
for meals.

I've just spent 4 weeks in hospital due to Crohn's Disease and have to go on low fibre diet, which is very complex to understand and restrictive, but me and my DP will work it out.

However I enjoy going out for a meal with friends once a fortnight. So i will get a menu in advance to check what I can have over and then double check over the phone to make ¹sure no ingredients that i can't have are in the dish. If need be I'll ask the venue if they mind me going and just drinking coffee.
The same with days out and holidays.

There's no way I am missing out on socialising with family and friends.

I’ve never met a vegan who expected any of that at someone else’s house. That’s very unusual.

I mean meats not cooked throughly

He values his food faddism above your happiness or his relationship with you. You don’t need any part of this narcissistic nonsense. Bin him.

My wife is a coeliac and has no choice in what she eats: wheat, oats etc make her very ill. Vegans impose their choices on everyone else. We wanted to invite a Vegan to dinner: I could find recipes to suite, so that was not a problem. Getting her new plates, knives and forks and pans that have never had meat in them, was a red flag to us.
In your case, he is manipulating you with his food, so what other restrictions will he impose later. Stop seeing your non vegan friends? Isolating you from non Vegan family? Sounds like a "My way or the highway" relationship. I would take the highway!!

Op you know deep down that this cannot work LTB while you can. This behaviour won't change and will only worsen you deserve better.

You should absolutely have told him about the Fosters. I could not have resisted and seen his face when I said it!

It sounds like you really have no closure and don't even know if you've even split up or not so it was a bit of a waste of time wasn't it. This is why I agree with a previous poster that you should have texted, but I personally would have written a long personal email and got out everything you needed to that way. Often I struggle or choke up or get nerves and get thrown face to face and I find a personal email the best way if I cannot say what I need to say face to face.

He just sounds so boring. Is he anti everything? Only wears black, doesn’t have a driver’s licence, won’t do the table quiz, antifa, vegan, afraid of being burgled - where’s the fun and curiosity and spontaneity in his life? I’d be half expecting him to go off grid and/or join a movement. Does he have a job? I think the potato and six tomatoes would have done for me!

Fosters ain't a drink, it's piss water 😅

Who eat's uncooked meats?

Humans aren't unique in celebrating milestones with a good feed shared in their social group. My goats do it all the time. I can watch the herd chomping with the new kids and letting them eat first as the collective is important to herd animals. They celebrate Spring and new pasture together. Moving as a herd and playing and having fun as they eat. They lie next to each other ruminating and chewing the cud.
It's rubbish that social interactions around food are unique to humans, but it is true it is one of the most important bonding experiences for mamals.

You said he drinks Fosters Larger but that isn't vegan. They use isinglass (fish swim bladder)

Loads of animals eat socially. Humans aren't special, they just think they are, as they destroy all their resources.

Seems like a nightmare. What about at weddings, christenings and family meals out? That just mad. If yous went out for the day will he not even get a sandwich or chips or something? I can't imagine it. I don't go out much but it's nice to have a treat for my birthday or mother's day. For me it would be a deal breaker and would cause loads of arguments. I love going on holiday and trying the local food or eating at my mam's house for Christmas.
I work in a restaurant and they have got to be really careful with cross contamination because of allergies.