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New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

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Beautifulbouquet · 12/03/2025 22:43

I've started seeing someone. He told me yesterday that he doesn't like dining out. Ever.

He would rather I cook or he cooks and if the relationship continues will apparently never go out for brunch or lunch or dinner with me.

I could of course dine out with friends without him. He would not come for example to any meal with friends he was invited to.

His reason is he is vegan and he says he doesn't trust chefs not to contaminate his food.

I honestly feel like saying I cannot see this relationship going anywhere.

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ValentinesGranny · 12/03/2025 22:49

Think of how many of life's celebrations he'll be missing from. Does he make up for it with regular days/nights out? If not, I'd suspect be was jusr tight with money and would get rid.

Edited to add, I can't eat due to a life limiting condition (fed via a jtube), but I never miss a meal out. I'll ring in advance and pay a cover charge if necessary. I refuse to miss out on those times with DH, friends and family.

dottiedodah · 12/03/2025 22:48

So no holidays,lunches out,bbq or street food then?are you vegan too? Sounds a bit excessive. My friend is vegan we are eating out tomorrow for lunch together! Lifes too short and all that

WhatDidIComeInThisRoomFor · 12/03/2025 22:48

Erm what? Does he never go more than 2 hours from home or always pack a full day’s worth of food if he has to go further? No holidays, nights away?

I guess you could go away if you camp always, everywhere. Sounds miserable and limiting though.

snowflakelake · 12/03/2025 22:48

It wouldn't work for me.
If he only ever eats homemade food then travel is out, a lot of socializing, traveling for work, visiting friends and family.
It seems very restrictive and a possible warning sign of significant mental health issues. Does he actually live like this.

user2848502016 · 12/03/2025 22:48

Dump!

MoodEnhancer · 12/03/2025 22:47

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 12/03/2025 22:46

That on its own wouldn't bother me toooo much. You can have non eating dates!

Forever??

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Beautifulbouquet · 12/03/2025 22:47

cestlavielife · 12/03/2025 22:45

You will have great holidays won't you? (Not)
Move on. Bye bye

I haven't even thought about holidays!! He did say once that he would never go on a beach holiday. I don't think he's been on holiday for 6 years actually. He also doesn't like going to the cinema as he doesn't like sitting still for long periods.

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Suzuki76 · 12/03/2025 22:47

Nope. Is he going to want to bring a doggy bag to family weddings? Cringe.

angelspike · 12/03/2025 22:47

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 12/03/2025 22:46

That on its own wouldn't bother me toooo much. You can have non eating dates!

But you could never go on a day out and grab food or a holiday or a takeaway or... anything like that
Packed lunches only

Mumblechum0 · 12/03/2025 22:46

Dump

Viviennemary · 12/03/2025 22:46

Goodbye and next please.

angelspike · 12/03/2025 22:46

That's one to bin then

Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 12/03/2025 22:46

That on its own wouldn't bother me toooo much. You can have non eating dates!

Waterlilysunset · 12/03/2025 22:46

Sounds miserable.

cestlavielife · 12/03/2025 22:45

You will have great holidays won't you? (Not)
Move on. Bye bye

CostcoBuns · 12/03/2025 22:45

Throw this one back.

TheOccupier · 12/03/2025 22:45

Oh god. Fussy eaters are the worst. Dump him!