New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

Dump him. If you marry him and have children, they will need meat. Will he be worried you will contaminate the kitchen?

You two are just not compatible, that's all there is to it.
( unless you want a miserable life)

This guy's brother also would only eat about three vegetables. His partner and I used to text frequently with new ideas of how we could hide vegetables in food without them realising.

Agreed. Removing "was gay" makes no difference to the meaning.

I think most people with a medical reason would be able to explain to hosts and take their own food, even to a wedding, everyone would understand the medical situation.

But the OP is saying it's the boyfriends choice not to go out. Ever. This isn't just about food.

Fussy eaters give me the ick.

Same! Life's too short to tie yourself to one of these miserable people. Every single one of them that I know makes anything difficult because it becomes all about their food.

Sorry, whats the relevance of this guy’s brother being gay? You’re talking about aspects of these men which you didn’t like (the fussy eating) so why comment about his brother’s sexuality as if it is also an insult? It’s kind of shown you in a pretty bad light actually.

As for the guy you’re currently dating; he just sounds like a total drip. End if, find someone else. There are lots of men.

To me this sounds less like it's because he's vegan and more like he has a need to control his environment. I've known a few vegans and they all felt able to eat out.

Could he have some OCD tendencies maybe?

Either way, it's going to put stress on your relationship.

He is obsessive and rigid. About clothes, eating out, activities.

Honestly the tofu antics is one of the most un-sexy behaviours I have ever heard about.

You don’t need a justification to ditch, just say it isn’t working for you and that’s the end of it. Cite his tofu eating refusal to go to a cinema, beach, cafe as an example of you want, just say you have differs ways of making decisions and you can’t live like that.

As it stands I can just say he's brilliant but sadly my main interest in / motivation in having a boyfriend is someone to go out for dinner with.

You sound as weird as each other!

Run

I would be bored to tears by a beach holiday and I can't remember the last time I went to the cinema, probably over 20 years ago. However I love holidays and eating out, I just wish it was cheaper to go to a restaurant and I'd do it more often!

That’s not demanding that’s just normal everyday stuff.

I will give you a warning though if you really want to keep the relationship going, I have known one guy like this and heard about another from a friend

The wife of the guy I knew ended up leaving him within a week of them getting back from their honeymoon and the guy my friend was telling me about, his wife divorced him after a few months
Both cited the restrictions they faced because eating out was off the cards

Save yourself a lot of time and a huge amount of money as life is too precious to lead a restricted life and divorce isn’t cheap

Interesting that all those things are a no no, but he’ll happily sit in a pub.

Not necessarily self catering we go to the Egypt regularly (Luxor) we go self catering. Yes and do go out for several meals but other times buy food and cook. Some places in the world you could make lovely meals take packed food on trips etc.

@Beautifulbouquet And we can hopefully just both accept this sad reality of two souls mates sadly cut asunder through incompatability without me ever having to listen to a stupid word that comes out of his mouth.

I love this. Just make sure he doesn't resolve to become a bit less annoying for your sake, because such efforts won't last and it's better to break it off sooner rather than later.

I’m not sure you know what demanding means! He on the other hand obviously has no issue stating his demands. No meals no cinema or theatre or comedy club or watching your children’s school plays or going on a train or a car journey or a plane.

Does he exercise a lot/have an eating disorder? Seems quite a lot of control is needed.

Again, they don't take meat, so that's a no.

life is too short for this nonsense, find someone you can enjoy life with 😀

Bloody new app haha I meant to click YANBU obviously you’re just not compatible.

Probably like anyone else with problems around food. They make excuses & basically go out of their way to avoid situations where food is involved. If forced to have a meal for example at a wedding they would move food around their plate,take a few mouthfuls then head to the toilet.

Is it just eating out? Do you go out anywhere else? Perhaps he is hiding something (other girlfriend or wife???)

In the bin with him

Found it, I knew this was fishy:
https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-37350233

BIN