New boyfriend won't dine out. Ever.

I love eating out so this would definitely be a deal breaker for me. No meals out at all as a couple? No.

I'm afraid I'm with him about the cinema. Something that's happened as I've gotten older and I also hate the aircon.

The food thing is a deal breaker though.

i cant actually believe after listing all you have about him that you havent blocked straightaway. what a misery guts he is.

This relationship was nice when it lasted, but it just doesn't have the legs to go long term. He's too weird. Too inflexible. All the good things in life would be impacted by his fussiness. No meals out, no cinema, no holidays, no travel at all.

It's nothing to do with him being Vegan - my son is Vegan and he eats out all the time, also travels loads.

Add to that the bonkers shit like sitting in the dark, and not driving. Jeez, he's a total weirdo, sorry.

That was for some general tofu inspiration. I'm not even vegetarian let alone vegan. I just like all types of food. What did you do about food while he was eating his?

Your soon to be ex would find my kitchen very racist. My most used pan is a wok

Eating deicious food is important to me so the relationship wouldn't even have got this far for me.

He clearly has a whole host of issues and you should avoid him like the plague.

if the relationship continues will apparently never go out for brunch or lunch or dinner with me.

He did say once that he would never go on a beach holiday.

He also doesn't have a car so going anywhere eh day trips is difficult.

He wears the same clothes constantly

He also refuses to wear anything that isn't black. Because his favourite colour is black.

It's quarter to 11 and he's not said good morning.

He won't open the blinds as he says people will see his stuff and then steal it.

I'm sorry to tell you OP, but he's quite obviously a vampire.

I made this last night:

https://www.lazycatkitchen.com/shredded-tofu-tacos/

And this would be a reason to ditch him I'm afraid. It will become UNBELIEVABLY tedious and restrictive for you, having to plan your life around this for years on end if the relationship goes the distance. And I imagine there will be absolutely no room for compromise on his part, all the compromise will have to come from you.

I quite like Tofu but in a sandwich? Was the bread vegan?
Frankly he sounds awful for a variety of reasons OP and I am sure you can do better

He might be vegan but the over-arching reason here seems to be a form of extreme anxiety and control issues over food. I know someone who won't eat anywhere but her own home and all food has to be cooked by her. It's irrational of course, because she'll open a tin or packet and she has no idea what went on in that factory where it was processed. She will go to parties and barbecues and weddings because can get around eating in front of other people by pushing a bit of buffet food around a plate and then just ditching it, but she would have a meltdown at being invited for dinner because she'd find it hard to disguise the fact that she's not eating the food you cooked and put in front of her.

If he wasn't a vegan he'd probably be exactly the same, he just wouldn't be able to make it about his veganism and his distrust that someone won't accidentally or deliberately adulterate his food with animal products.

Ah yes, sounds about right. Reminds me of someone who isn’t an animal lover but is vegan. Thinks sausages are disgusting - ice cream too because of the UPF nature. (I do know how it’s made and have read UP People.)

My daughter became a vegan in 2012 when it could be quite difficult to get a vegan meal in a restaurant. It was frustrating at times.

But she came to every meal (sometimes eating beforehand) to enjoy the company of the people she dined with.

Your boyfriend would have no problem having a vegan meal out nowadays as it's become mainstream.

He's being a miserable git.

@Lentilweaver

you would think so, but then again there is a poster on here whose husband doesn’t ever eat out in case anyone overhears his conversation…

Don't use Wikipedia as a source as anything political there is 'policed' by (ironically) anti-police leftist activists. Use a neutral source 👍🏾

How on earth do men like this get dates?

I'd have thought you were a close friend of mine if you hadn't said he was vegan. My friend (she's in her 60s, he's about 70) has been with this bloke for about 14 years now. He will not eat out, will not go to the cinema, theatre or anywhere other than 'for a walk' (free activities, basically), has agreed to a small number of UK cottage holidays in very recent years but about once a year only.

She does ALL the cooking, cleaning, etc.

I'd rather be on my own.

I think he has some mental health issues. This is seeping into all aspects of his life it seems, not just eating out.

As a vegan myself, yanbu. There are very strict vegan places which wouldn’t allow contamination anyway so he could easy find some to enjoy with you.

You misunderstood me - I enjoyed the gay reference! Anyway, this is possibly the most interesting thread I have ever seen on MN. Hope you manage to sort the situation out to your satisfaction 🙏

Oh my goodness!! He conforms to every cliche in the book 🤯 Next thing you will find that he aggressively protests Let Women Speak events!!

I knew someone like this. I don't think he was motivated by animal welfare as he wasn't a very nice person, it was more of a disgust of animal products and animals in general, and a need for control. He was extremely obsessive about it, I think he probably would have met the criteria for OCD. Certainly not something I'd want to have to deal with.

Vegans and antifa used to be against multinational corporations, what changed?

Vegan Beer List (UK)
This list refers to beers and lagers that you can buy in the UK. In other countries, different ingredients may be used.
Beer brandIs it vegan?
Amstel
VEGAN
Beck’s
VEGAN
Birra Moretti
VEGAN
Budweiser
VEGAN
Camden Hells
VEGAN
Carling
NOT VEGAN
Carlsberg
VEGAN
Cobra
VEGAN
Coors Light
NOT VEGAN
Corona
VEGAN
Desperados
VEGAN
Estrella Damm
VEGAN
Foster’s
NOT VEGAN
Grolsch
VEGAN
Guinness
VEGAN
Heineken
VEGAN
Kronenbourg 1664
NOT VEGAN
Miller
VEGAN
Peroni
VEGAN
Red Stripe
VEGAN
San Miguel
VEGAN
Skol
VEGAN
Sol
VEGAN
Stella Artois
VEGAN
Tiger Beer
VEGAN