Girl pulled dd’s pants down

Go on then, what do you suggest?

Sadly this could be a red flag that the girl is acting out behaviour from home and she is being abused - so absolutely tell the school safeguarding team.

wtf!
a young girl has been forcibly exposed to a bunch of boys. At 7 almost all children have a sense a shame and embarrassment…

this will stay with her for life and that’s not an exaggeration…I was made to strip wash on a camping site by my dad age 7, he being a bloke didn’t see the issue, and probably thought it safer than sending a 7 year girl unaccompanied to women’s communal washrooms where I might not wash properly 😳🙄. I’m 60 and have never forgotten the experience. and my dad didn’t set out to do this to humiliate me

the girl in question does need to be spoken to by adults. This isn’t normal. It isn’t acceptable. Frankly the apology will be forced and re-shame the girl she did it to possibly. There needs to be consequences for something so disturbingly deliberate. I’m not saying this needs police etc, but if parents don’t react with horror their daughter has done this, I would take it further to whoever was organising event and get girl banned/suspended until she understands implications of what she’s done.

Totally unacceptable. Very surprised other children didn't comment and raise the sports instructors attention to it.

If I was sports instructor I'd be giving the parents a warning that any other incidents then child cannot attend. I would expect the school to give the year group a general talk on the pants rule etc

And kid could have learnd it from older siblings or you tube etc.
Called pantsing back on my day and I'm old

And it's crap. If helps dc feel comfortable leggings with tie waist may make her feel confident that it can't happen again. And no you shouldn't have to do this but crap happens and hopefully other child will be properly spoken with.

This happened to my child at school nursery. It was taken very seriously, safeguarding, social services etc plus things put in place at the nursery.

But realistically, what do you think will happen. Obviously it’s horrible, however it can’t be undone so making the organisation aware and getting an apology seems like the appropriate next steps.

Not good enough. I would be replying again asking about their safeguarding training.

If it had been a boy the replies would be so different.

I am shocked at the responses. This is not acceptable. The girl's parents should be doing more than making her apologise.

If you let his go your daughter will think this is acceptable. Well done for taking this seriously.

Ensure training is up to date.
Talking to children about inappropriate behaviour.
Not dismiss it as something the parent is to sort out and actually deal with it as a club

Definitely speak to the head this should be treated as a safeguarding issue and a if they're using clubs that aren't dealing with it appropriately they need to know.

I wouldn't be happy with that response. I would ask what measures they have in place already and what else they'll be putting in place as a result of this incident. They should be liaising with the girl's parents rather than "hoping" you've managed to do it

So what was done is an act of bullying for which there would be consequences if it happened in school and in school hours if it was seen by the teacher. An extra curricular teacher ought not to have missed it and the children should have made the teacher aware of it at the time. The extra curricular teacher should be having a word about behaviour expectations

The child that did this should be banned from the club for the rest of the year. Harsh? Maybe but nothing more than is deserved. She’s 7, she knows this was wrong. Why must the OP’s daughter suffer when she did nothing wrong?

Appalling response, ask for the name of their safeguarding lead and speak to the school safeguarding lead.

That's not good enough. Their safeguarding training is not up to the standard in the Sunday School setting I'm familiar with and I'd have thought it would have to be.

There are two issues, one it's the nature of the act - you know what I mean. Two, it's bullying if a child does something that's potentially humiliating.

These club teachers want to be treated like proper teachers so they need to have standards

It is definitely a safeguarding issue. I've known this happen in a school, perpetrated by a 5-year-old, and it was recorded as a sexual assault. I thought at the time that was OTT, but now I know more about the background of the child who did it, I realise it was appropriate.

You should make a big fuss. Demand to speak to their person in charge of safeguarding.

The club should be putting out a message to parents stating they are aware of a safeguarding incident occurring on that date, that it is being dealt with internally and that any further comments with regards to it, or similar incidents, will be dealt with seriously and could lead to children being banned from the club.

The girl in question should then be suspended from attending the club for a set period.

That way the child in the wrong is punished, the victim is supported and other kids get the message that this is not acceptable and won't be tolerated.

And no, I don't think that's taking the hard line in the slightest. It's the least they could do.

Children should be taught from a young age about private parts and how others have no right to touch them/reveal them without consent.

Plenty of age appropriate videos out there on websites like the NSPCC.

I would be wanting the club to be sending out a letter to all parents remind them how important bodily autonomy consent is and how they should be talking about it at home.

I've already replied to this above.

The club are not meeting safeguarding standards by fobbing this off on parents. It happened on their watch and their current reaction wouldn't meet Ofsted guidelines.

And yes, as an ex teacher I can confirm that this IS a safeguarding incident and should be officially logged as such.

They are taught this.

And that's why the child who did it needs consequences.

Not playing anything down. Just applying common sense. They’re seven - very young. What punishment would you like to see applied ?