… for married couples, to ask what age you stopped having sex?

Just after mid 40s. We are just getting our sex groove again now kids are older and thanks to hrt I have a good drive

I’m mid sixties and have been on HRT since I was 30 (early hysterectomy). I stopped having sex a couple of years ago, when my DH died, but have now met someone and hope to start again. 👍👍👍🎉

On antidepressants since 20 years so no libido to speak of. Made an effort because I was in love so liked the closeness. But stopped when I didn't want to have sex anymore, like 12 years ago (2 Dc). I'm mid forties and I can't say that I regret not having sex. DH is understanding because he wouldn't want to have sex with someone who doesn't want to. So he masturbates (in privacy). It is what it is. I have told him he's free to leave me if sex is important to him but he says he loves me more than sex so...

I'm 42, we've been together 17 years, have 5 children and I'm a week away from having number 6 so, not just yet. That isn't to say we haven't had dry spells what with all the children and the trials that go with that, plus he works away a lot.

If we split I'd not be bothered about looking elsewhere for sex, it's not at the top of my list of priorities, but together I can't see a permanent end to it any time too soon. My husband is the back end of his 40's and show zero signs of slowing down!

Around 58. It just fizzled out and neither of us has initanything for the past 5 years.
Absolutely no interest in ever having it again.
Tbh it was always a bit of a chore.

It's not the only purpose, though, is it? There's a reason sex gives intense pleasure to both partners and releases bonding hormones.

Back on the OP's question: I'm not in a relationship now, which is probably a good thing as antidepressants killed my libido stone dead. It drops in to say hello about twice a year! The drugs saved my life, not without cost.

My perimenopausal libido was absolutely rampant. Seems to happen for a lot of women, then for others it's the opposite.

Btw, having regular sex helps keep things in good working order down there. Invest in a Rampant Rabbit if your partner isn't great at making you orgasm. I'm single but I have regular DIY sessions to help keep things healthy.

Good for you both. Great to hear you are both fully engaged in the relationship and discussing it.

I’m late 50s so post menopause and feel the same as you. We have discussed my low libido and worked on it. Measures that have really helped us are setting agreed days for sex, making it a nice relaxed evening with time spent together chatting to build intimacy, spending more time on what works for me, taking longer. You say you know what he likes but do you know what you like and need?

I’m 66, DH 70. Lucky enough to still enjoy an active sex life.

It doesn't matter what anyone else does. The answer could be anything from 25 to 85 and every age in between.

You need to talk to your husband. It's not fair for him to find out he's having sex with a wife who doesn't really want to have it. Ask him if he's happy with intimacy, see what he says and go from there. You married him, you should be able to talk to him.

I’m 46, peri-menopausal and not allowed HRT OP. It sucks. My libido has all but disappeared. DH and I are working on it by talking about it.

Sounds like your DH just isn't very good at satisfying you. Get him to use a Magic Wand on you while you're having sex - it'll blow your mind.

I always find it amazing when someone in a long term loving relationship just stops engaging in meaningful physical intimacy with their partner and just "shrugs their shoulders". It's like "my libido is gone so that's that", to hell with the consequences.

It's as if they completely misunderstand the purpose of being in a meaningful loving intimate relationship. Why do they bother from the outset?

People forget about biology and what the purpose of sex is (and sex drive and libido). And people should never forget about biology, because it does not, unfortunately, forget about us.

We are late 40s , married since we were 20, 2 now adult kids, one still at home.
We are still pretty active, a few times a week, but no longer daily

I hope never. Been with my husband since late teens and now late 30s. He’s early 40s and still had amazing stamina. I hope we never lose out intamacy and will strive to make it a priority for as long as possible. I think it’s very important to make it a priority, as I believe the more you have it, the better it is and the more you want it. But I guess im still “young”!

I thought I'd totally lost interest. And then two years into HRT and a year after starting Testosterone AND after prolpase surgery, I found I could barely think about anything else. Bought new underwear, got the new Gillian Anderson book.

So I'm now 47 and want sex like I did when I was 25. I'm more surprised than you can imagine.

If you can't have oestrogen surely you can have testosterone or Addie (sp incorrect) and vaginal oestrogen?

You need to enjoy it to want to do it so tell your dh on what turns you on. Is he very attentive or is it all very wham bang?

Mid forties is no age op. Try and find ways to reconnect physically.

It’s not “normal” and can be indicative of lots of health issues.

I’m early 60s have zero interest in ever having sex again but I’m not in a relationship and have no intention of being in one again, partly because I don’t want sex to be reintroduced into my life. Everyone is different though. It’s a subject I haven’t discussed with friends since my twenties though so I have no idea how my friends feel.

@chargeitup If a man in his mid 30s experiences a great decline then they should go and seek medical advice.

Why? It's normal, it isn't causing any issues, and seeking medical advice about such a matter is just wasting doctors' time.

Around 51, combination of peri, ED that DH did nothing about, and resulting poor relationship with DH. Now I DIY, and I prefer it after many years of poor sex due to his problems caused by antidepressants.

Whilst libido can start to decline in the 30s for men it isn't usually 'greatly'. Just a bit calmed down from the frenzy of teens and 20s. If a man in his mid 30s experiences a great decline then they should go and seek medical advice.

Mine went mid 40s - end of marriage, had no desire to ever have sex again and just took that as given. Then a new relationship and guess what… libido back with a bang. Early 50s now.