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To not be surprised a 35 year old with a history of eating disorder would struggle to get pregnant (lily Collins)

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Waterweight · 01/02/2025 13:36

In regards to the news lily Collins has welcomed her first child via surrogacy & the whole issues surrounding surrogacy

A few people have questioned why another celebrity has gone down the route of surrogacy when they can afford fertility treatment/time off/therapy if unable to conceive

But surely at 35+ with a history of having an eating disorder she would be, to put it "lightly" basically barren ? & Viewed as such by any professional doctor who understands realistic fertility windows & health

Not saying she didn't/doesn't deserve children but where do you draw the line at the right to have kids versus the reality of some people being unable to ?

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ExercicenformedeZ · 15/02/2025 20:01

Absolutely nobody else's business. It's between her and the surrogate. People commenting on her instagram just come across as losers. Why on earth do people care what celebrities do outside of their work, anyway? They aren't politicians.

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Waterweight · 15/02/2025 22:38

ExercicenformedeZ · 15/02/2025 20:01

Absolutely nobody else's business. It's between her and the surrogate. People commenting on her instagram just come across as losers. Why on earth do people care what celebrities do outside of their work, anyway? They aren't politicians.

Same could be argued about why post it on social media if it's a family matter.
It's a controversial subject which they would have known of assuming they looked into it/followed other celebs who've been criticised

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Katbum · 16/02/2025 09:33

ExercicenformedeZ · 15/02/2025 20:01

Absolutely nobody else's business. It's between her and the surrogate. People commenting on her instagram just come across as losers. Why on earth do people care what celebrities do outside of their work, anyway? They aren't politicians.

So if you heard that a celebrity had trafficked a child to do domestic work in their home would you consider that a 'private matter'? Surrogacy is a human trafficking issues. This is babies and women's bodies being bought for sale, it's absolutely the concern of anyone who is interested in an ethical society to speak out against surrogacy.

ExercicenformedeZ · 16/02/2025 09:39

Katbum · 16/02/2025 09:33

So if you heard that a celebrity had trafficked a child to do domestic work in their home would you consider that a 'private matter'? Surrogacy is a human trafficking issues. This is babies and women's bodies being bought for sale, it's absolutely the concern of anyone who is interested in an ethical society to speak out against surrogacy.

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Oh, come on. Those two issues aren't the same and you know it. You can be against surrogacy without making ridiculous comparisons like that.

queenmeadhbh · 16/02/2025 14:27

ExercicenformedeZ · 16/02/2025 09:39

Oh, come on. Those two issues aren't the same and you know it. You can be against surrogacy without making ridiculous comparisons like that.

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But in what way are they not the same? Because the baby doesn’t exist before being bought? That’s even worse, it’s ordering a baby.

Katbum · 16/02/2025 14:29

ExercicenformedeZ · 16/02/2025 09:39

Oh, come on. Those two issues aren't the same and you know it. You can be against surrogacy without making ridiculous comparisons like that.

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For me they are exactly the same. And I’m not a lone lunatic. The EU is set to ban surrogacy on the basis it constitutes human trafficking, many countries, including Italy, have already done so. There is mounting evidence about the harm it causes the infant from birth through the life course. There are global campaigns to stop surrogacy on the basis of the harm it causes. So perhaps you need to know more about the issue before you dismiss those of us involved in campaigning for its end.

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