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Freysimo · 22/11/2024 07:08

Ytcsghisn · 21/11/2024 07:18

Why the faux disgust at the ‘daily fail’? You clearly read it. It doesn’t make you look virtuous, but a bit silly to pretend not to when you are literally quoting it.

Performative, much?

This, it's absolutely pathetic. Read what you like. I read the paper version (different editor) and there's often excellent articles, often from the left as well.

DanielaDressen · 22/11/2024 07:03

StMarie4me · 22/11/2024 06:05

I still think of him walking his garden. I believe he was innocent of the later duplicity.

Who knows? He might have been in on the plan from the start. He could be as bad as his daughter. She’s ruined his reputation as well as her own for a lot of people.

hopeishere · 22/11/2024 06:57

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 21/11/2024 21:09

Does anyone understand why she isn't being taken to court over this?

It depends on whether what she did was illegal or unwise. I'm not sure it was illegal.

Getting yourself paid a big salary - unwise. Charging for a public appearance - unwise. Implying a book deal will result in money going to charity - grey area.

I've not read the full story so I'm not sure exactly what she's accused of.

Toomanywars · 22/11/2024 06:54

hurlyburlywhirly · 21/11/2024 23:31

Off topic but I'm wondering what it must have cost in travel insurance to get a 100 year old to Barbados. That must have made a dent.

They are scumbags. Shameful and I hope they're held to account.

Took him away and he caught covid and died. Odd family. They fancied a holiday and didn't consider him catching covid on holiday problematic? Odd.

StMarie4me · 22/11/2024 06:05

ThianWinter · 21/11/2024 07:00

Sheer greed, coupled with lack of morals and blatant dishonesty. They have tainted Captain Tom's name for ever. He will never be thought of as that benevolent old man, walking round his garden to raise money for the NHS, he'll be remembered for his scrounging family.

I still think of him walking his garden. I believe he was innocent of the later duplicity.

roastiepotato · 22/11/2024 06:05

User135644 · 21/11/2024 22:12

Only thing more weird than the hysteria over Captain Tom - and the banging pots and pans for the NHS on Thursday night - was the mass mourning when he died. It was more hysterical than anything since Diana at the time.

Edited

A lot of people did weird things during covid lockdowns

Hhyjmhyu · 22/11/2024 05:53

socialdilemmawhattodo · 21/11/2024 21:08

Your're right. But he's still very young. And can't have ever given full consent to being in the public eye. I don't doubt that his adoptive parents deeply love and care for him, but the constant publicity?

100% agree. She had a FB page going for him before the adoption even went through - cannot believe social services never challenged this. I have mutual friends so he showed up on my feed a lot and it made me so uncomfortable. It’s his story to tell, not hers.

mids2019 · 22/11/2024 05:38

Disingenuous not to have had

mids2019 · 22/11/2024 05:38

I think it would be disingenuous to think that Hannah really had the optics of this in mind from a early stage when she set about promoting her father. In a sense she did her job well as a PR professional; maybe too well.

the success and national attention may to her have been a reward for self cloned marketing genius and as the 'marketing professional' behind Tom thought she deserves appropriate remuneration somehow. I suppose it's like the blokes who came up with the prime drink during that craze.

the money for her PR coup obviously was misdirected from his charity and maybe in her mind she was just using a method to acquire the money she felt she deserve d and it's all went south big time for her.

Dibbydoos · 22/11/2024 00:06

So when's the prosecution going to be announced? £1m taken from a charity without the necessary evidence ref its use etc.

Sounds like a case of F to me...

I have to admit when they took him overseas on holiday I knew he'd get covid. That made me question her.

Salome61 · 21/11/2024 23:59

Seeing Captain Tom's sweet face on the news tonight I feel glad he has passed on, thank heavens he knows nothing about it.

ExitPursuedByAGummyBear · 21/11/2024 23:42

TheHangingGardensOfBasildon · 21/11/2024 07:55

To be honest, I often feel the same about immensely rich celebrities on gameshows or telethons/other fundraisers for charity.

So much energy (and good PR) put into urging Joe and Joanna public to give or to urge them on, when they could just quietly write a cheque for ten times the amount or more as 'back of the sofa' money to them.

George Michael, Ricky Tomlinson and probably countless others have managed to give discreetly from their personal good fortunes in support of causes that touch(ed) their hearts, without the need for a massive 'hey, folks, look at how great I am!' song and dance.

@TheHangingGardensOfBasildon I’m at two minds about celebrities participating in game shows and other fundraising events for charity. On one hand, it can feel a tad icky knowing they often have the means to quietly donate without making a spectacle of it. On the other hand, these events do shine a spotlight on lesser-known charities and organizations that might otherwise struggle to gain attention and recognition. There’s only so much that they can do to raise awareness on their own, and this kind of exposure that the celebrities’ participation can give, can make a significant difference.

EasyPeelings · 21/11/2024 23:41

ShouldIJustKeepChangingTables · 21/11/2024 07:30

True - at least the right are honest that they despise the vulnerable and have no intention of supporting anyone but themselves.

I read the DM, along with the Times, FT and Guardian. I find it useful to calibrate my views and understand the perspectives of other people with different life experiences to mine - I find it stops me making sweeping generalisations about large groups of people that can come across as ignorant.

Very nicely put!

hurlyburlywhirly · 21/11/2024 23:31

Off topic but I'm wondering what it must have cost in travel insurance to get a 100 year old to Barbados. That must have made a dent.

They are scumbags. Shameful and I hope they're held to account.

1dayatatime · 21/11/2024 23:27

There were Captain Tom duvet covers and even mini skirts...

www.independent.co.uk/life-style/captain-tom-moore-mini-skirt-b1798227.html

EdithBond · 21/11/2024 23:26

dayswithaY · 21/11/2024 22:59

Feels like the wheels are coming off celebrity endorsed charity. Children in Need’s viewing figures slumped and people complained about Paddy and his kid’s bike being shoved in our faces.

Ed Sheeran and others have started a conversation about how patronising Band Aid is towards Africa.

Captain Tom was not what he seemed.

As others have said, rich celebs pestering ordinary folk to give up their hard earned cash to a charity feels wrong, Just shut up and donate privately like the wonderful George Michael did.

https://www.channel4.com/news/tax-avoidance-george-michael-melua-arctic-monkeys-liberty

murasaki · 21/11/2024 23:23

For someone who was allegedly good at PR, she's certainly shit at reputation management.

EdithBond · 21/11/2024 23:12

Blinky21 · 21/11/2024 22:40

The whole thing was incredibly jarring from the start. The awful privilege he had to walk around the family estate while his poorer peers were perishing in old folks homes and the jingoistic obsession people had with it

What I found quite extraordinary is lots of people seemed to think the money was going to the NHS, rather than NHS charities.

But when it comes to taxpayer funding for the actual NHS, lots of people are less keen to stump up.

mrshoho · 21/11/2024 23:02

Blinky21 · 21/11/2024 22:40

The whole thing was incredibly jarring from the start. The awful privilege he had to walk around the family estate while his poorer peers were perishing in old folks homes and the jingoistic obsession people had with it

Yes it felt orchestrated from the start. A combination of the government, mainstream media and unscrupulous family members went into overdrive to promote Captain Tom as a national treasure. I really don't believe he was aware of the personal financial gain. It seemed to me he just did as his daughter instructed.

dayswithaY · 21/11/2024 22:59

Feels like the wheels are coming off celebrity endorsed charity. Children in Need’s viewing figures slumped and people complained about Paddy and his kid’s bike being shoved in our faces.

Ed Sheeran and others have started a conversation about how patronising Band Aid is towards Africa.

Captain Tom was not what he seemed.

As others have said, rich celebs pestering ordinary folk to give up their hard earned cash to a charity feels wrong, Just shut up and donate privately like the wonderful George Michael did.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 21/11/2024 22:43

Really? That’s very surprising. An intention to defraud and actual fraud, but doesn’t meet the threshold? That drags the law into disrepute, on top.

Blinky21 · 21/11/2024 22:40

The whole thing was incredibly jarring from the start. The awful privilege he had to walk around the family estate while his poorer peers were perishing in old folks homes and the jingoistic obsession people had with it

User135644 · 21/11/2024 22:12

Only thing more weird than the hysteria over Captain Tom - and the banging pots and pans for the NHS on Thursday night - was the mass mourning when he died. It was more hysterical than anything since Diana at the time.

Arraminta · 21/11/2024 22:11

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 21/11/2024 20:11

Or maybe you get to walk up and down a field all day long while listening to Michael Ball?

Pretty sure that's how the journey into Hell begins.

It's not the journey. You've already there, in Hell.

Arraminta · 21/11/2024 22:07

Why was he still being called 'Captain' Tom? It's my understanding that if your rank is anything below Major you're not allowed to use it once you have left the military? My father served in the forces for 12 years, but never tried to utilise his rank once he was out.