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To go to a rave at 40...

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Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

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OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 00:15

Quacksalver · 11/10/2024 19:55

Bit jealous, I love Sacha's music. Never seen him play though (that I remember 😁)

You'll have a great time OP! But the "supplements" are shite nowadays

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Sasha played the most unbelievable set on Hastings Pier back in May this year. There was only about 200 of us there, so he really upped his game to keep our attention. Easily one of the best sets I've ever heard him play, including the sets I've listened to online.

Spectre8 · 11/10/2024 23:48

Alot of the trance crowd is mixed ages actually you will be surprised they are more around your age. I know I'm one of them and go. It's a great crowd and you'll have a ton of fun.

We are all.clesry stillving out our 90s days of clubbing 😆 but it's great and I have so much fun

Lizzie67384 · 11/10/2024 23:45

I’m in my 30s and love going to raves! I find they’re super inclusive and no one cares about anyone else 🤣 there’s people raving in their 60s, so you definitely won’t be one of the oldest! Also, who cares? You’re a long time dead as they say, so go and enjoy your life!

Ponoka7 · 11/10/2024 23:38

Begsthequestion · 11/10/2024 19:41

Are those in peri not allowed in?? Or is it something else that stops you going due to peri? I need to know!

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Most women find that their energy drops, their tolerance for alcohol gets less. A lot of women are knacked, hormonal, anxious and feel like shit. I'd always say get your drinking and shagging in, because things do change after the menopause.

Justalittlenaughty · 11/10/2024 22:20

Ponoka7 · 11/10/2024 19:17

Of course you can still enjoy it. You haven't got long before peri menopause hits, make the most of these years.

Quoted wrong comment! 🫣

You make menopause sound like a death ☠️ sentence!!

Justalittlenaughty · 11/10/2024 22:18

UserNameOfShame · 11/10/2024 19:18

I didn't even know raves were still a thing!
Go for it OP no one will notice or care about your age I'm sure.

You make menopause sound like a death sentence! 😳

19lottie82 · 11/10/2024 22:17

A photo I took of my mates at an outdoor rave in the summer, Im 42 and they are 44, 45 and 52! We all Love clubbing and wouldn’t even think twice about it?

To go to a rave at 40...
Time40 · 11/10/2024 22:05

Do it. (If it's an all-nighter, be prepared for very sore feet the day after ... I find the painful feet are the only bad thing about raving over 40.)

Lunabetty · 11/10/2024 21:47

Go and enjoy yourself !!

stanleypops66 · 11/10/2024 21:32

Do it. I've been to Ibiza closing parties and I'm over 40.

HornyHornersPinger · 11/10/2024 20:40

Is it 1 of the Sanctuary Forever events on the 2nd and 9th of November? If so I'm going to the 1st one on the 2nd and I've just turned 44... 😄

Motherrr · 11/10/2024 20:39

Do it and fuck what anyone else thinks! God im 37 and love a rave and its scaring me that you think 40 is too old as that will be me soon! Just go for it and enjoyyyy

teatimefortiger · 11/10/2024 20:37

Go! I'm jealous!

KendraTheVampyrSlayer · 11/10/2024 20:25

I went to Cream Classics 5 years ago (at 41), and again last year at 45. I fucking loved it! 💃

BobbyBiscuits · 11/10/2024 20:16

I doubt anyone at a psytrance rave would accuse you of looking like a tool! Make sure you brush up on your fire poi technique. And find some clothing with mushrooms printed on it?
I've seen people from two to eighty at outdoor trance raves/festivals before so just enjoy it. It's not really a very poseur type scene at all.

19lottie82 · 11/10/2024 20:01

I’m going an “I love acid” night next weekend and I fully expect it to be mainly over 30s (I’m 42 btw)

MymateDave · 11/10/2024 19:57

Do it!!! I'm 41 and still go. Young at heart. Enjoy! X

Quacksalver · 11/10/2024 19:55

OfcourseitsaNC · 11/10/2024 19:23

My friend is currently at Sasha and Digweed @Roundhouse.

I joined him at one of their gigs earlier this year. We walked back to the hotel while the sun was coming up.

I'm older than you.

Do it. Do it. Do it.

Bit jealous, I love Sacha's music. Never seen him play though (that I remember 😁)

You'll have a great time OP! But the "supplements" are shite nowadays

Oldraver · 11/10/2024 19:48

OfcourseitsaNC · 11/10/2024 19:23

My friend is currently at Sasha and Digweed @Roundhouse.

I joined him at one of their gigs earlier this year. We walked back to the hotel while the sun was coming up.

I'm older than you.

Do it. Do it. Do it.

Ah that's whose on tonight Jusy seen photos of my just 40 friend in the queue

I'm 60 next year and try and do at least one a year. I was out a week or so ago and certainly wasn't the oldest there

Monvelo · 11/10/2024 19:44

Amazing! I'm jealous! Last time I went to something I swore I'd book.the physio in advance next time though 😂

Begsthequestion · 11/10/2024 19:41

Ponoka7 · 11/10/2024 19:17

Of course you can still enjoy it. You haven't got long before peri menopause hits, make the most of these years.

Are those in peri not allowed in?? Or is it something else that stops you going due to peri? I need to know!

MoodEnhancer · 11/10/2024 19:40

I’m older than you and going raving in a few weeks - with a group of friends who are all older than me. Don’t worry, there are loads of us old skool ravers out there!

TheDandyLion · 11/10/2024 19:35

Give over, the best ravers are usually the over 40s. They did it properly first time round back in the late 1900s 😂, they know how to party.

EngineStartStop · 11/10/2024 19:34

You won’t be the oldest by a long chalk. In fact, a wide range of people and a general acceptance of everyone is one of the great plus points of rave culture.

BrainLife · 11/10/2024 19:31

Compared with clubs, raves tend to have a much more varied crowd. Old school ravers are a different breed in the best possible way and I assure you will be respected by the younger ones simply for being there.