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To go to a rave at 40...

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Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

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JerkintheMerkin · 12/10/2024 07:49

I'm 51 and off to Ally Pally in a couple of weeks to finally dance my heart out to Black Coffee. I'll be too busy on the dance floor to wonder whether a 1 year old or a 100 year old person is there. I'll stop raving when I'm dead. You go and have fun. Seriously no one cares what age you are, just as long as you're appreciating the music and having a great time. House music all night long! 💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾💃🏾

Moonshiners · 12/10/2024 07:41

Ponoka7 · 11/10/2024 19:17

Of course you can still enjoy it. You haven't got long before peri menopause hits, make the most of these years.

I'm 50 and still go raving. Peri and all! Love a dance.

PeachyKeane · 12/10/2024 07:40

I'm post menopausal and still love going raving. As someone said, we original children of the rave culture are all in our 50s now. Still avin it large when we get the chance. Great exercise. I don't need drugs now, muscle memory takes over as soon as I hear the music.

Time4changeagain · 12/10/2024 07:39

I’m going here soon and CAN NOT WAIT!
Last time I went I’d say most are mid 40’s+
The atmosphere was amazing 😄

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Spectre8 · 12/10/2024 07:29

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 12/10/2024 00:59

Can one if you crazy ravers explain what you actually mean my raving. Does it have to be chaotic hedonism in a field or a warehouse? Or are you going somewhere with 10 quid entry, a stamp on your hand and aircon. I need to know what I am missing out on.

Raving back in the day was gling to a club or warehouse dancing to electronic (edm) music which is house, techno dance, trance styles with lights (lasers) and its fairly high energy

Now a days whilst there are still clubs and warehouses its branches into festivals too, but the music style is the same anything that's under the edm genre

You wouldn't say you are going to a rave it it is rnb or drum n bass music

Worldgonecrazy · 12/10/2024 07:16

Dancing is a great way to keep fitness levels up. I’m a bit old for rave music (though do love Trance). I’m off to a ska gig tonight, definitely won’t be the oldest there.

I hope I’m still dancing in my 80s.

wulves · 12/10/2024 07:12

As they say: 'You don't stop raving when you get old, you get old because you stop raving.'

Ah, so that’s my problem.

Carabelliana · 12/10/2024 07:10

Go! You'll love it. Age is no barrier. Love an old skool rave :)
Just be prepared to sit down for a rest every now & then! Do report back on what a good time you had x

OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 07:05

Oldraver · 12/10/2024 06:21

Andy Farley is one of my all time faves, I saw him the other week and managed a wiggle down the front

My friend said I could post this pic of The Roundhouse queue last night

Typical Sasha and Digweed gig audience. Not a woman in sight in that queue. The majority crowd is coke fuelled men pilled up. My friend calls the crowd the spaced sausage factory. 🤣

Scorchio84 · 12/10/2024 06:36

offyoujollywelltrot · 12/10/2024 02:35

YES.

yes right... 🙄 get your pant suit on & start cutting up your coupons

Scorchio84 · 12/10/2024 06:33

No actual way @Oldraver pics to follow so...
I love this! Thanks for sharing this

Oldraver · 12/10/2024 06:21

Scorchio84 · 12/10/2024 02:30

Christ go!!! I still run gigs, don't play anymore in fairness, it's easier 😆We're off to my gig tomorrow (Andy Farley, Hard House) now my Thursday - Sunday days are over but a few times a year? Why not

I hope you have a great time

Andy Farley is one of my all time faves, I saw him the other week and managed a wiggle down the front

My friend said I could post this pic of The Roundhouse queue last night

To go to a rave at 40...
offyoujollywelltrot · 12/10/2024 02:35

Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

YES.

funny face dancing GIF
Scorchio84 · 12/10/2024 02:34

OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 00:15

Sasha played the most unbelievable set on Hastings Pier back in May this year. There was only about 200 of us there, so he really upped his game to keep our attention. Easily one of the best sets I've ever heard him play, including the sets I've listened to online.

My OH LOVES Sasha, he travels at least 2x a year to see him & Digweed with his pal, I'm not into it, I prefer Hard House

Also thanks I'll give him a heads up for the online set

Scorchio84 · 12/10/2024 02:30

Christ go!!! I still run gigs, don't play anymore in fairness, it's easier 😆We're off to my gig tomorrow (Andy Farley, Hard House) now my Thursday - Sunday days are over but a few times a year? Why not

I hope you have a great time

onwardsup4 · 12/10/2024 02:22

Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

Haven't read the thread but do it ! I'm 42 and I think I may have one left in me! Have to be soon though haha

Crushed23 · 12/10/2024 01:56

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 12/10/2024 00:59

Can one if you crazy ravers explain what you actually mean my raving. Does it have to be chaotic hedonism in a field or a warehouse? Or are you going somewhere with 10 quid entry, a stamp on your hand and aircon. I need to know what I am missing out on.

Perhaps it means different things to different people.

For my friends and me, it's hedonism in fields and warehouses. Very much about the music / DJs - we care who we go and see.

£10 entry, stamp on hand, etc. sounds like clubbing to me.

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 12/10/2024 00:59

Can one if you crazy ravers explain what you actually mean my raving. Does it have to be chaotic hedonism in a field or a warehouse? Or are you going somewhere with 10 quid entry, a stamp on your hand and aircon. I need to know what I am missing out on.

Crushed23 · 12/10/2024 00:50

Love this thread - I've found my people 😁

I'm 35 and love raves. They're a re-discovery after coming out of a lacklustre relationship with a man who didn't like techno (I know, what was I thinking...).

I go to a rave on average once every 2 months, which is about right to really enjoy it.

Have fun, OP!

Jumpingthruhoops · 12/10/2024 00:40

Surely us 40-somethings are the only demographic who are actually 'raving'? By that I mean, I don't think anyone below that age truly knows what it means! I'm 45, and wouldn't think twice about whether to go or not - if there's a dance floor, I'm on it!
As they say: 'You don't stop raving when you get old, you get old because you stop raving.'

KlaraSundown · 12/10/2024 00:28

Do it!

Young people mostly can't afford to do this any more, sadly, so you'll be with a relatable crowd...

PeriPeriMam · 12/10/2024 00:20

Oooh definitely take your Zimmer frame, it'll come in handy at 4am when your legs are aching, and you can hang fluorescent stuff off it too.

ncncncncncnchhh · 12/10/2024 00:20

I love dance music. I try and see something each year. Earlier this year it was Carl Cox for the first time. He was a masterclass. I'm 44. I probably do it differently now - day time outdoors events. Very tempted by clubs that start early and finish at 10pm is, there's one I Tottenham I forget the name of. I used to love the Fridge in my teens. I drink zero alcohol and dance sober which feels great.

OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 00:18

Time40 · 11/10/2024 22:05

Do it. (If it's an all-nighter, be prepared for very sore feet the day after ... I find the painful feet are the only bad thing about raving over 40.)

It was the sleep routine being broken I found really hard.

I don't normally drink caffeine, so was on the coca cola to keep me awake until the dawn.

It took several days to want to sleep again at bedtime and not need a nap around 3pm.

Disturbia81 · 12/10/2024 00:15

@Ponoka7 You sound so negative, it's bollocks. Just keep enjoying life OP 🖤