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To go to a rave at 40...

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Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

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StandFirm · 16/11/2025 12:06

Squigglewigglediggle · 11/10/2024 19:14

Just that really, I've been invited to a rave with some old friends from university. I'm thinking I'm just going to look like an absolute tool arent I?

Part of me is really excited - I've not been to one since my 20s and it's so far out of my usual weekend plans but heck, you only live once right?

Aibu to go, is it a young person's game or can I still enjoy some good psytrance and a dance at 40?

Raves are for 40-50 somethings :)

MoodEnhancer · 16/11/2025 12:04

Oooh, I see this thread was resurrected a couple of days ago. Yesterday, 5 friends and I - all in our mid to late 40s - went to a day rave at Fabric. Loads of D’n’B djs from the 90s so most of the people were our age. It was such a happy crowd! We danced all day! And it all finished by 10pm, so we could get home at a reasonable time. Perfect.

Crushed23 · 14/11/2025 20:30

Resurrecting this thread to hear about your latest raves!

I went to a festival in Orlando last weekend which had an amazing line-up. Flew home Monday and still very much recovering 😅

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 12/11/2024 21:05

MyKidsAreTooNoisy · 12/10/2024 00:59

Can one if you crazy ravers explain what you actually mean my raving. Does it have to be chaotic hedonism in a field or a warehouse? Or are you going somewhere with 10 quid entry, a stamp on your hand and aircon. I need to know what I am missing out on.

I was never brave/flush/quite old enough to go to an actual "Rave" but think of the act of going to any music venue, having a few glasses of Dutch courage then dancing till my feet give in as "raving" . I use the word in a depreciating kind of way

RMNandthensome · 12/11/2024 17:02

HornyHornersPinger · 11/10/2024 20:40

Is it 1 of the Sanctuary Forever events on the 2nd and 9th of November? If so I'm going to the 1st one on the 2nd and I've just turned 44... 😄

I went to the Sanctuary Forever reunion on the 2nd too, brilliant time, everyone was well in their older years, average age 40-60 years.

Fab time, go for it and have a rave up, always a better atmosphere than any club ive ever been too also.

TizerorFizz · 12/11/2024 16:12

So did you all go to the Tony Hayter events?

TwistedWonder · 12/11/2024 16:08

I’m 58 - me and my friends are regular ravers though it’s much more of a day rave culture nowadays.

At 40 you’d be at the younger end of the spectrum - there plenty in their 60’s still going strong

PeachyKeane · 12/11/2024 16:06

I'm an old original raver. 54 now so there at the birth. Used to be the Hacienda, now there's a once a year reunion which is in Manchester in December and is fab. Also love my festivals although haven't ventured abroad for one yet as still have school age children.

ShinyPebble32 · 12/11/2024 16:02

Just came across this thread, how did your night out go OP? Hope you had a good one!

If anyone is up for turning this thread into a Mumsnet ravers chat then I’d be up for it! 😃

I’m 40 next year and still going out as much as possible, always looking for new raving mates as they are getting rarer at this age! I went to Defected in Malta this year and it was magical, planning to do the Croatia one next year. House music all life long!

Disturbia81 · 13/10/2024 18:01

@Ponoka7 I've always shagged with lube and been hungover for days after a night out, so nothing has changed so far 😆

PeachyKeane · 12/10/2024 19:13

Went to this last year, was absolutely brilliant. Danced from 4pm until 2am ( I am 54) got tickets for this year's event. Loads of people my age there all having a brilliant time.

Ponoka7 · 12/10/2024 18:24

Onetypeofraver · 12/10/2024 11:44

Well as I said above I'm 59 and of course I've got less energy and the odd health concern but you made it sound like menopause was the END , it definitely isn't!

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It can be the end of shagging without Lube and not as often as you used to. It's the end if drinking like you used to. It's the end of not feeling a all-nighter. So if anyone is thinking should I? yes, you should, because you aren't promised tomorrow.

onwardsup4 · 12/10/2024 18:06

wulves · 12/10/2024 07:12

As they say: 'You don't stop raving when you get old, you get old because you stop raving.'

Ah, so that’s my problem.

Ha! Love this think it might be my problem. Couldn't listen to rave music for years because it made me feel so gutted not to be raving. Best times

Oldraver · 12/10/2024 17:46

xxSideshowAuntSallyxx · 12/10/2024 12:36

I went to The Sanctuary for New Years eve one year, best night I had (other than Ministry of Sound at the Dome) even if the music wasn't always to my taste that night.

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I did New Years at the Sanctuary once and even though we were there around 9 pm we didn't get until after midnight due to chaotic ticketing and the New Years at the Dome it flooded 😅

Wouldn't of missed it though

AutumnalCosiness · 12/10/2024 17:34

How is this even a question?

OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 13:44

HornyHornersPinger · 12/10/2024 11:30

I really wanna find some people going to this! There's going to be 5,000 of us aged-ravers there, most of us with our adult kids... I'm taking my 23yr old daughter! 🤣

Ooooh...my friend lives near Milton Keynes. I'm up at his that weekend. It looks rather interesting...

OfcourseitsaNC · 12/10/2024 13:39

Time4changeagain · 12/10/2024 07:39

I’m going here soon and CAN NOT WAIT!
Last time I went I’d say most are mid 40’s+
The atmosphere was amazing 😄

www.rejuvenation.me/

That looks amazing fun. Sadly it's too far for me to travel.

Crushed23 · 12/10/2024 13:16

mindutopia · 12/10/2024 13:06

I can’t imagine the 30s and under crowd is going much raving. 😂 It’s definitely going to be an ageing crowd. Young people today are not at raves.

Hey those of us in our 30s are very much raving! 😜

mindutopia · 12/10/2024 13:06

I can’t imagine the 30s and under crowd is going much raving. 😂 It’s definitely going to be an ageing crowd. Young people today are not at raves.

TriangleSquareFringe · 12/10/2024 13:05

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 12/10/2024 12:51

Not only should you go, you should wear something absolutely fucking ridiculous and dance the night away!! Can I come?

Totally this.
Go enjoy yourself OP.

TaraRhu · 12/10/2024 13:01

Just take a few days off after...

BooseysMom · 12/10/2024 12:58

DaveWatts · 11/10/2024 19:19

God I'd love to go to a psytrance rave, and I'm 41 - only thing stopping me is that I'm 8 months pregnant, otherwise I'd be right there with you 😆

Congratulations! Oldie-skool raver here! I had DS at 41 and never went to another rave after that. I'm wondering whether I'd get away with it at 52 but why the f**k shouldnt i??!!