To go pick brother up? Released from prison

Go for it, give him all the help you can and try and keep him away from his old life.

Just manage your expectations.

I think you sound very kind and caring .Yes it would be a lovely thing to do , I think you can only do your best though.It will be up to him as well.Could he move closer to you maybe ,to keep away from temptation.He would benefit from time with you and your Mum together .Hopefully all will go well and he will turn his life around .Even if not you will have done all you can

Google naltrexone implants

Definitely worth a shot

Focus on setting him up with some support systems as well as a nice holiday

He needs to be at NA very regularly

Be mindful that if he has been released on licence he is only approved to reside at your mums address, he will need permission to go away and stay elsewhere for a break.
good luck helping your brother!

Of course you're not being unreasonable. 💐

But ultimately he has to choose recovery for himself

His local recovery service may be able to help with support towards employment too they often do volunteer roles with loads of training that progress to paid work.

You sound amazing.

I think you need to try for your own peace of mind.

If the worst happens, you need to know you did all you could to help him.

I think that would be a beautiful thing to do, you know you can't save him right? But showing him hope and love is kind.. what support have you got in place for you though? Alanon are good to chat to. Is he engaging with the fellowships or a recovery service? The fellowships are amazing and everyone I know who has successfully long term recovered has been through CA or AA but obviously he has to be in the right place to want to do that.

…., and regarding the job he had in prison.

Was it ‘just’ an assigned job in the prison or one of the ‘prison industries’ workshops etc ?

I visited a prison workshop many years ago that had sub contracted under some of our contracts.
They learned trade skills and the prison had a list of companies that would take their prisoners on leaving
(They didn’t give personal details of prisoners to the companies but would refer the prisoners on)

@Mrsgrapesauce
Good luck, I really hope it works out and he can stay on the right path.
Was he able to get clean in prison? Is he continuing with counselling?

I totally see where your DH is coming from.

But ultimately, you would probably never forgive yourself if you didn't at least try.

Sorry for your loss. 💐

It may work or it may not. I think if you can afford to give the time, money and emotional energy, knowing that he still might go back to using, then it would be a lovely thing to do. It might help him, and if not then you'll know you did what you could. Id prioritise making sure he is linked into local addiction services so that he has other avenues of support once you're back at work.

You sound amazing. Do what you want to do to support your brother.
It's a shame your husband isn't supporting you though. Especially as you have lost one brother already.
I really hope your brother can turn his life around, but remember he has to want too, first and foremost 🪻

It might not work - but it also might work

This is a good time to keep his mind elsewhere, and away from his usual environment
Do it