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Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations

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cauliflowercheeseplease · 18/07/2024 22:32

I understand it's an awful thing that's happened but the Gofundme has reached almost 60k and Jay's mum is asking for more donation to give him a memorable send off.
I'm sure there is more than enough left to enable her to do this after she's paid out those that have helped with the search? Although I did read somewhere some of those that flew out went home earlier as she didn't pay as promised?
Is this wrong of me to say?

OP posts:
AllyCart · 19/07/2024 07:21

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

Maybe the "foundation" could donate money to the victim of their late son's disgusting violence?

MrsGlennBulb · 19/07/2024 07:22

Is it begging or bullying though?

If you live in their community or if the family or their acquaintances know you then I imagine £10 or £20 to GFM is a reasonable price to pay to avoid having your windows put in.

This latest bleat for more donations reads like a second round of low level extortion.

AGodawfulsmallaffair · 19/07/2024 07:23

billyt · 18/07/2024 23:08

You really think she's going to contribute towards these costs?

I’d be very surprised, if she hasn’t so far…

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 19/07/2024 07:26

Itisjustmyopinion · 18/07/2024 23:29

Do people put their salary on a Facebook post these days? How do you know that the majority of people come from the “lower” class 🙄

I can't speak to their class but if you've seen any of the posts on those pages it's safe to say that the vast majority of them were absent on all the days that spag was taught at school. A lot of it borders on incomprehensible

Noras · 19/07/2024 07:29

I would rather that the money was given to find the other missing lad Jack who has been missing since Spring. He is an Exeter graduate and was doing the law conversion. The lack of cover by media is unnerving. He went to a party and left to get an Uber …

x2boys · 19/07/2024 07:33

People set up go fund me accounts for all kinds of reason's you can either donate. or don't.

Clafoutie · 19/07/2024 07:33

IllMetByMoonlight · 18/07/2024 23:15

Reporting this thread as in incredibly poor taste. A woman has lost her son.
What's the matter with you.
Ffs.

Agreed.

mrsdineen2 · 19/07/2024 07:38

janintherain · 19/07/2024 03:16

Because it is not nice.
Do you understand that?

Attacks with golf clubs and machetes are less nice.

Lwrenn · 19/07/2024 07:41

@Manhere2024 well you seem an absolute fucking joy. And clueless. But mostly a joy.

EmilyGilmoreCardiganEnergy · 19/07/2024 07:41

Noras · 19/07/2024 07:29

I would rather that the money was given to find the other missing lad Jack who has been missing since Spring. He is an Exeter graduate and was doing the law conversion. The lack of cover by media is unnerving. He went to a party and left to get an Uber …

Because the fact someone has gone missing however sad that is isn't the story, Daily Mail readers want to paw over salacious gossip and pictures of common people being common is the bottom line, how ever it's dressed up to be news.
The boy you are talking about and his no doubt educated and socially conditioned to be more dignified parents probably don't want to be part of a circus.
It's just like when pictures are posted of a celebrity that has dared to age or put on weight under the pretence it's a story about something else.
There is no genuine care for these people or their families from the media, it's just click bait.

Noras · 19/07/2024 07:43

EmilyGilmoreCardiganEnergy · 19/07/2024 07:41

Because the fact someone has gone missing however sad that is isn't the story, Daily Mail readers want to paw over salacious gossip and pictures of common people being common is the bottom line, how ever it's dressed up to be news.
The boy you are talking about and his no doubt educated and socially conditioned to be more dignified parents probably don't want to be part of a circus.
It's just like when pictures are posted of a celebrity that has dared to age or put on weight under the pretence it's a story about something else.
There is no genuine care for these people or their families from the media, it's just click bait.

The parents are dignified but the family is desperate to get their boy back. I can’t even imagine what they are going through but it could be one of our kids so hope that any publicity helps.

x2boys · 19/07/2024 07:46

EmilyGilmoreCardiganEnergy · 19/07/2024 07:19

Totally agree with this from @PyongyangKipperbang

'A similar thing happened locally to me.

A lad of 19 died on his scooter, he was using it for drug runs and was an absolute arsehole. He was violent and threatening.

But when he wrapped it, and himself, around a tree, he was a caring loving son, a great friend etc. The shop I worked in was stripped of flowers to lay at the site because word had got around that there would be cameras. Some of the girls especially looked like they were ready to go clubbing.

Its all about wanting to be seen on SM or on TV.

When my DD's best friend was murdered in Jerusalem 8 years ago this happened too. Interviews on Sky with her "besties" because DD and their other mutual best friend couldnt face talking about it, so Sky would just interview anyone who said that they knew her. The victims father said that he was disgusted about how so many of her so called "friends" had actually been vile to her in school and turned up to her funeral dressed like it was a party as they thought cameras would be there'.

Young people die tragically all the time and while that obviously affects those involved it's a non story really.
It initially got so much coverage off the back of the Michael Moseley tragedy and then gained traction because of the criminal links and mawkish gossip, even the vile TikTokers getting involved become a story , people love to gossip and judge and this story had it all.

The red top media are still posting non stories about it and will be looking forward to a divisive and tacky huge 'send off' with photo opportunities at every turn they can feed to the public to either sneer at, get angry about or to grieve vulture over.
They are probably willing it on.

His parents managed to raise a young son to be a violent drug dealer of course they will be taking every opportunity thrown to them.

People can be both ,a young drug runner who is generally q waste of space can also love and care for their mum.
And People grow up my dh has s not great past but as a neatly 50 year old hes a completely different person from the person he was in his youth
Jay was only 19 he will never get a chance to make something g of his life .

NalafromtheLionKing · 19/07/2024 07:47

Manhere2024 · 18/07/2024 22:51

I actually think it would be amazing if in future we see Jay Slater’s parents Debbie and Warren set up charitable foundations and can make something positive happen out of this.

The amount of hatred they’ve received on social media is grotesque. A lot of it is simple prejudice because they are white, Northern, and working class.

If they came from a socially approved minority I’m sure their family tragedy would have been portrayed far more sympathetically.

No way could you set up a charitable foundation with £60k. It might be a nice thing to do (with a lot of time and effort spent on fundraising) but I don’t see why losing their son means that there is any such expectation of them.

dad11122 · 19/07/2024 07:48

I have never used go fund me so don't know but is the original fund restricted to search operations and that's why she's now asking for money to pay for his funeral ?

Scarletttulips · 19/07/2024 07:49

means that there is any such expectation of them.

Some people give, some people take.

I think paying it forward is a good idea. They have been through something most of us will never experience, they could use that knowledge to benefit others.

Jaboody · 19/07/2024 07:53

My immediate thoughts were, your son has just been found dead and you're on the Internet asking people for more money??

PylaSheight · 19/07/2024 07:57

I'm also fascinated by what motivates the outpouring of grief for someone not well known, and although I wouldn't donate I don't begrudge people who do. But I judge harshly anyone who is part of a balloon release. The fact the balloon release is for a dead person is irrelevant to me, I'll think you're arseholes like these people:
www.blackpoolgazette.co.uk/news/people/emotional-vigil-held-in-oswaldtwistle-for-jay-slater-19-as-his-body-found-in-tenerife-4706027

Jay Slaters mum asking for more donations
Manhere2024 · 19/07/2024 07:57

Jaboody · 19/07/2024 07:53

My immediate thoughts were, your son has just been found dead and you're on the Internet asking people for more money??

Well, I wasn’t going to go there, but the racing commentator whose wife and two children were just brutally murdered immediately set one up too. It’s so that his surviving daughter has some financial security:

uk.news.yahoo.com/gofundme-set-bbc-commentator-john-171951833.html

EmilyGilmoreCardiganEnergy · 19/07/2024 07:57

@x2boys yes I appreciate that but it was really the point I was making.
Teachers will often tell you the 'naughty' kids are their favourites because they also have charm and humour and the ability to show kindness.
They (teachers) will also probably tell you though that their home life is troubled and their parents are unsupportive, unconcerned or even worse proud of the bad behaviour and think it's funny 'boys will be boys' 'they are just kids' 'you are picking on him' etc

*and yes there are always exceptions to this and some caring and brilliant parents have kids who do bad things.

I think it's clear what sort of people J's parents were , which in no way means they are not devastated by their loss but they and their behaviour including the GFM make for fantastic click bait.

Beautiful3 · 19/07/2024 08:00

Yes I saw this. It seems very greedy to me as she has so much already. What does she need more for?! Very grabby and greedy.

BarcardiWithGadaffia · 19/07/2024 08:04

Noras · 19/07/2024 07:29

I would rather that the money was given to find the other missing lad Jack who has been missing since Spring. He is an Exeter graduate and was doing the law conversion. The lack of cover by media is unnerving. He went to a party and left to get an Uber …

Unnerving in what way? Are you saying that there is a deliberate cover up? It would be impossible to report every one of the 1000s of people who go missing. Once there's nothing more to say what can they print?

Every now and then a case grabs the attention for whatever reason but thats pretty rare

Garlickest · 19/07/2024 08:04

Manhere2024 · 19/07/2024 07:57

Well, I wasn’t going to go there, but the racing commentator whose wife and two children were just brutally murdered immediately set one up too. It’s so that his surviving daughter has some financial security:

uk.news.yahoo.com/gofundme-set-bbc-commentator-john-171951833.html

Wow! That's at £85k already 💰

These things baffle me.

Chenecinquantecinq · 19/07/2024 08:05

TAKE OUT TRAVEL INSURANCE AND TEACH YOUR CHILDREN HOW IMPORTANT IT IS

OnAndOnAndonAgain · 19/07/2024 08:06

AllyCart · 19/07/2024 07:21

Maybe the "foundation" could donate money to the victim of their late son's disgusting violence?

What? To the guy who was up in court for trying to break into a house before stealing a car and being chased by police going over 70 mph , maybe not

StJanetof · 19/07/2024 08:06

I don’t see why this requires so much debate.

She can ask, and people can make their own decision about whether they contribute.

I wouldn’t but that’s just me; others will make their own decision.