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Dh wants to vote BNP.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:13

So everyone has the right to vote for who they want. It’s a democracy after all. However, dh just informed me that he plans to vote BNP this year. I was stunned into silence. I will admit I do not follow politics in the way others do but from what I’ve heard and read about BNP I feel differently about dh now. I’m looking at him differently and feel a bit ashamed of his decision.
what does everyone else think about BNP? Am I missing something?

I guess my AIBU would be
IABU as BNP are a decent political party and it’s up to him.
or IANBU they are homophobic racists who don’t deserve to be a legal party.

OP posts:
Merryoldgoat · 23/06/2024 13:14

This would be enough for me to end my relationship.

AffIt · 23/06/2024 13:17

Merryoldgoat · 23/06/2024 13:14

This would be enough for me to end my relationship.

Me too.

OP, the BNP is not a mainstream political party: they're a bunch of extremist lunatics with some very nasty extreme right-wing / fascist tendencies.

This is isn't the difference between voting Labour vs voting Conservative.

PetulantPenguin · 23/06/2024 13:18

It would be enough for me too. I would be horrified and feel like I didnt know my DH at all.

sleekcat · 23/06/2024 13:18

I would not stay with someone who even thought about voting BNP.

Sirzy · 23/06/2024 13:18

I am with the others it would be end of relationship to me.

I appreciate everyone has different views but I couldn’t respect someone who will support a racist party.

SweetFemaleAttitude · 23/06/2024 13:19

There must have been signs OP. The odd racist remark here, homophobic comment there.

No decent person suddenly announced they are voting BNP.

araiwa · 23/06/2024 13:19

I didn't realise they still existed and were standing

murasaki · 23/06/2024 13:19

Definitely a deal breaker.as others have said, there must have been some sign that his views are like that.

tobee · 23/06/2024 13:20

Where are they standing ? I thought they barely existed anymore?

YaWeeFurryBastard · 23/06/2024 13:20

How’s he planning to do that? They only stood one candidate in 2019 and as far as I’m aware they are thankfully not standing any this time. I call bullshit.

marigoldandrose · 23/06/2024 13:21

tobee · 23/06/2024 13:20

Where are they standing ? I thought they barely existed anymore?

I read a while ago that the electoral commission had banned them so I don't know how op's partner could vote for them?

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:21

AffIt · 23/06/2024 13:17

Me too.

OP, the BNP is not a mainstream political party: they're a bunch of extremist lunatics with some very nasty extreme right-wing / fascist tendencies.

This is isn't the difference between voting Labour vs voting Conservative.

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I know. I actually feel sick. This is not him at all. We’d always think anyone who voted for this kind of party of follows trump are lunatics. He said he’s not telling anyone as he knows the reaction. My last words to him were ‘don’t dare tell anyone because I’m absolutely ashamed of you right now. We haven’t spoken since. He said he brother and business partner are voting the same. His brother is one step away from being a full blown conspiracy theorist so I’m not really interested in his reasoning. I said to him but BMP are clearly racist, he said it’s not all about that. I asked him what has he been watching/listening to. He said podcasts and I said well you have probably ended up on very specific podcasts. He said ‘no question time also’

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MidnightPatrol · 23/06/2024 13:22

He’s going to struggle, as I don’t think they’re fielding any candidates…?

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:22

marigoldandrose · 23/06/2024 13:21

I read a while ago that the electoral commission had banned them so I don't know how op's partner could vote for them?

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Is this true? Is it for local seats? I’m terrible with politics to be honest?

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MateyMusings · 23/06/2024 13:22

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:23

MidnightPatrol · 23/06/2024 13:22

He’s going to struggle, as I don’t think they’re fielding any candidates…?

He’s quite into politics in general, I said ‘we have election coming up, he asked when and that’s when he said I’d be surprised at his vote this year. I assumed they could be voted for otherwise why would he say that? im confused now!

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AmusedMaker · 23/06/2024 13:24

Are they even around anymore?

MidnightPatrol · 23/06/2024 13:25

@Poltershighclimb99 he can’t be that into politics.

You can easily find out who is standing in your local constituency. Look it up.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:25

SweetFemaleAttitude · 23/06/2024 13:19

There must have been signs OP. The odd racist remark here, homophobic comment there.

No decent person suddenly announced they are voting BNP.

Genuinely none! He said something the other day about immigrants but nothing untoward. Just more like it’s a lot of people coming here and how can the country afford it.

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Notreat · 23/06/2024 13:27

I would be more than a little ashamed if my partner wanted to vote BNP I would question that I even knew him and it would be the end of my relationship. Their values are so alien to me I couldn't be with someone who would even consider voting for them

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ExtraOnions · 23/06/2024 13:28

I’ve just looked at the Cesspit of a website (it has a picture of Enoch Powell on it.. so you can guess the rest). They don’t seem to be fielding any candidates.
He could be voting for one of the other Nationalist Far-Right parties that seem to field the odd candidate.

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Poltershighclimb99 · 23/06/2024 13:28

MidnightPatrol · 23/06/2024 13:25

@Poltershighclimb99 he can’t be that into politics.

You can easily find out who is standing in your local constituency. Look it up.

It must be reform then, is that the same thing? Someone else mentioned. I’ll Google now. I have no clue.

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cupcaske123 · 23/06/2024 13:29

I'm not sure if the BNP are standing. Their website says they have 50 candidates and can be seen under different names.

  • People like you - Voting BNP
  • British National Party Local People First
  • British National Party - Plaid Genedlaethol Brydeinig

https://whocanivotefor.co.uk/parties/party:3960/british-national-party

British National Party

50 candidates

https://whocanivotefor.co.uk/parties/party:3960/british-national-party

No3387 · 23/06/2024 13:30

Seems he not that into politics if he didn't even know there was an election this year...

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