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To think if you can no longer afford school fees...

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 19:54

that is tough.

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Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:05

@Snuffkincamehome

"It's blatant envy"

It really isn't, if you've followed these threads at all PE parents have really not made their cases well, nor have the garnered sympathy with the statements they've made.

But just keep telling yourself it's envy.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:06

My local council sold 10 homes for 100k brand-new as noone wanted to live so far out.

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Poyulyi · 13/06/2024 21:06

Can you quote posts op please, replying with no context makes a thread impossible follow, as no idea what your replies are to.

Bunnyasmyname · 13/06/2024 21:06

Screamingabdabz · 13/06/2024 21:02

Yes that’s the hypocrisy isn’t? ‘Op you are sooo nasty and unkiiiind and horrible to those poor children who will have their WHOLE lives ruiiiineed wah wah…’. But ignore the massive immorality and ‘unkindness’ of buying privilege for their children in the first place.

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Yeah again that's not what I said if you actually read it.

You are all jumping up and down and attacking parents who have decided that private education is best for their child and haply when they can't afford it anymore.

Why do some people seem to excel in the misery of others so much?

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:06

haply?

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Willyoujustbequiet · 13/06/2024 21:06

ThisExistence · 13/06/2024 20:07

There’s a big difference between not wanting to pay more and not being able to pay more. What intelligent person would actually put their child into private education knowing it was leaving them with no financial buffer whatsoever ? The problem is I would bet anything in the majority of cases that parents of privately educated children are just irritated by this rather than the increase would mean them going without necessities (and if that was the case then it was poor financial planning to opt for a private school and they need to cut their cloth accordingly).

This with bells on.

They're indignant and that's why they can't let it go.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:08

I'm not dancing with joy over the policy. Children are resilient. Life changes. They will make new friends.

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Wonkypears · 13/06/2024 21:09

ODFO. Our children are at public school (think Harrow/Winchester/Cheltenham) and none of the parents, including us, are remotely concerned. It’s a little grating but the school has a buffer cos they can now claim VAT back too & have big pockets and so do the parents who all view the school as a community.

Small schools that are at the edge and may have high SEN numbers won’t cope and they will close ….. so it’s those kids, the ones not much richer than yours (or maybe not at all if you made a decision on ethics not cost) that you are punishing…. whilst the elite becomes more elite and the gap and the level of privilege our kids have will just get larger.

Oh and I am voting Labour for the first time so bring it on and carry on feeling smug for now. Cos it won’t last…

savvy7 · 13/06/2024 21:09

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 19:54

that is tough.

Can still afford, thanks

EwwSprouts · 13/06/2024 21:09

Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 20:51

@EwwSprouts

"Where youlive. And there are other parts of the country (assuming UK) where they really are not."

Who are these people that can afford to spend ( on average) 108 k on 6 years of high school education for one child, who are living in areas where there is not even a good school, 88% of all schools are good or outstanding according to ofsted?

Yorkshire. Where the parents are professional couples, often senior roles in the public sector. No mega wealthy.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:09

You're an adult. Can't you even debate without swearing? Sign of a limited vocabulary.

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Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:10

@ThisExistence

Totally.

It really isn't that they can't pay, they don't want to pay and are upset about it.

The overwhelming majority will still pay too.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:10

Waves hello @ Yorkshire.

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Snugglemonkey · 13/06/2024 21:10

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 20:31

Some children won't eat today. Some children in the UK are so poor they have no bed, no toys and no winter coat. And you're worried little Jemima can no longer attend Fluffy Bunny Montessori School. Wow.

What the fuck is wrong with you? Obviously all children should be properly fed, properly clothed, educated. Noone gloats over children being miserable. Oh, you do. What does that say about you?

ichundich · 13/06/2024 21:10

Try harder OP; It's getting really boring now.

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 13/06/2024 21:11

State schools were great under New Labour. Music, Art and Drama departments were not a "nice to have" but a fundamental. The Tories have pulled the rug out from under them.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:11

@savvy7 so you can afford an extra fifth, brill

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entiredayfighting · 13/06/2024 21:11

Op people work hard, and each individual situation is different. Some people want to spend their money on sending their kids to private schools. Some people want to spend their money on a Disney Cruise.
Each to their own.
If the VAT ends up being applied, a lot of children WILL actually suffer. Both in private and state sectors.

Bunnyasmyname · 13/06/2024 21:11

TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:08

I'm not dancing with joy over the policy. Children are resilient. Life changes. They will make new friends.

Never mind the upset and distress it may cause??
Never mind ND kids.

Unlike you OP, not everyone lives in a place with excellent state schools, can afford £400k or where there little demand for the super duper cheap social housing etc.

Like you said yourself, some people don't know how lucky they are.

Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:12

@EwwSprouts

"Yorkshire. Where the parents are professional couples, often senior roles in the public sector. No mega wealthy."

Which bit of Yorkshire?

Plenty of outstanding schools across each riding of the county!

Wonkypears · 13/06/2024 21:12

And if that’s the best response you have it shows limited ability to debate

Aladdinzane · 13/06/2024 21:12

"Unlike you OP, not everyone lives in a place with excellent state schools, can afford £400k or where there little demand for the super duper cheap social housing etc."

Where do you live that spending 108k in 6 years on high school won't get you a mortgage for a house that's around 400k?

bramblesbig · 13/06/2024 21:13

For some children moving school would be so hard.

I don't understand how some posters can be so gleeful about disrupting children's education due to decisions made by their parents.

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TiredMumE · 13/06/2024 21:13

I've worked in Blackpool. I give all my children's old things to children in Blackpool.

No towels, no bedding, no shoes. No child should live like that.

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Snuffkincamehome · 13/06/2024 21:13

Wonkypears · 13/06/2024 21:09

ODFO. Our children are at public school (think Harrow/Winchester/Cheltenham) and none of the parents, including us, are remotely concerned. It’s a little grating but the school has a buffer cos they can now claim VAT back too & have big pockets and so do the parents who all view the school as a community.

Small schools that are at the edge and may have high SEN numbers won’t cope and they will close ….. so it’s those kids, the ones not much richer than yours (or maybe not at all if you made a decision on ethics not cost) that you are punishing…. whilst the elite becomes more elite and the gap and the level of privilege our kids have will just get larger.

Oh and I am voting Labour for the first time so bring it on and carry on feeling smug for now. Cos it won’t last…

People like the OP think all private schools are like Eton.

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