To leave my DB’s house after 1 day?

Completely ott, Maybe he was just glad to see the back of you if you often overreact like this and would otherwise be constantly worrying. Your dd or even you will probably get it now anyway and possibly infect others on the plane.

But your child will have been exposed even before your DN became symptomatic, so what was the point in leaving. I trust you both wore masks on the flight so others don’t get infected.

Yes saying you shouldn't cut an overseas trip short over germs is exactly the same as everyone here being all for germ spreading without limit. Kids get sick it's a natural part of life. I have anxiety and not actually immunosuppressed but have a chronic illness and get very sick if I catch anything. I still think you were majorly OTT and wouldn't do the same.

Left your brother's and got onto a ...plane full of other people's germs?

Make it make sense.

Did you vote yourself OP ?
As 99% of voters have voted YWBU, but there is 1% of the vote that does seem to think you weren't being as ridiculous as everyone else knows you were.

She has a cold!?! Does your kid not go to nursery/soft play/any toddler centred places that are a cesspool of germs? You’ve definitely overreacted and your kid has already been exposed so likely that ship has sailed already 🙄

You do realise she already has it don't you?

You are normally more contagious just before you come down with symptoms. You where mad to leave because of this.

As a mother to 2 small children (3 and 1) I can honestly say I wouldn’t cut a European trip short because the hosts kid had a cold. I’d maybe try to limit the hugging and kissing of said child but that’s about it. I probably wouldn’t cancel plans with friends at home if their kid had a cold either (unless they wanted to cancel), both my kids go to nursery, one or the other brings a cold home pretty
much every week, that’s just the way it is.

couldnt you just book into a b and b or somethhing

youre more likely to catch something on a plane

Sorry I misunderstood, I thought your daughter had already caught the cold off her cousin.

Still, I think yabvu. Especially the slapped cheek thing, nhs website is very clear that contagion is before symptoms. They're actually not contagious once the rash appears.

I'm guessing your dd doesn't go to nursery? You are in for a big shock once she goes to school! Coughing and spluttering is an everyday thing there!

And wait till you discover real annoyances like headlice.

I don't think there has been a single day in the last 6 months when one of my grandchildren hasn't been spreading one germ or another. I'm immunosuppressed but if I had kept away whenever one of them was coughing or sneezing I'd have missed months, in any case by the time you know they are sick, the damage is already done. I do try to avoid large crowds of strangers whenever is reasonable but life has to go on really

Slapped cheek no longer contagious once the rash appears.

Your dd has already caught it. She'll be spreading it across two airports, as well as missing out on cousin playtime for nothing

This is crazy op. I'm sure your child will be ok if she catches a cold, to take her back home because of coughing and sneezing is not a normal way to live, you can't protect her from every virus going that's madness.

It's just as well that you only have one child. Because if she had a sibling with a cold you could hardly whisk her out of the house.

None of this makes any sense. You let her be with kids with colds at nursery, but you fly home from another country, abandon your DB and family who'd planned for your visit, and disappoint both them and your child, for the sake of a cold.

Really, there is no justification for this.

I think by the responses that you may know YABU so I'm not going to add to it but it does seem a very extreme reaction to a child maybe catching a cold. What did you think would happen to her if she did catch it, do you suffer from health anxiety or normally catastrophize situations?

Did no one else try to talk you down? You said your brother was OK with it... did no one seem taken aback at your decision, show surprise that you booked a new flight just to escape a cold?

Apart from anything else, this must be a costly thing to do

@Mumanddone this may be the push needed to either get help or for you to start working on this yourself.
It seems like there has been no harm done to your DD or relationship with your DB so that's good and it's given you others perspectives on your decisions

I would of booked into a hotel near by BUT I have an immunocompromised child

I’m not going to join in on the pile up…but if you were a close friend of mine, I would tell you I get you’re anxious. However, when we look at your natural fight or flight the flight the flight is too strong and results in a negative impact on your child. Therefore, this is something we will need to look at and address xxx

Never mind OP you will have given your brother and his partner something to talk about with the rest of your family for at least a decade.

On a more serious note I would seek some additional mental health support.

YES! no you n little microbiobe spreader gony pretty much infect the entire confined space plane.....plus any sorta cross contanimation to from airport-checkin might trigger.HAVE a word with yourself-even poorly...they can have snufflebabe fun..cosy in time?pyjama parites.HAPPY memories?cool doon doll.

You are very naive to think parents won’t be sending their DC to pre school if there is a remote chance they may be carrying germs, same with school. Even if they are in full blown snotty, coughing, vomiting and worse mode, I can guarantee many of them will be sent in. Welcome to the germ factory